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nottslass_2

zartub wrote: »

just depends on your lifestyle my wife has just had my son at 47 everything is perfect :rotfl:

Congratulations.

It relly doesn't matter how old you are - a wanted child is very much a gift.

nottslass_2

jonty1970 wrote: »

Thank you everyone!

I love children and I love being a mum. I'm at my happiest changing nappies and pushing a pram to be honest.

I wish I had met him earlier. I am just worried about being too old and worried about having a baby with problems.

he said he loves being with me and won't push me into anything, as my health comes first. He would rather have me and no kids.

He is a wonderful man and we would be so happy as a family and If it's not this year, I won't try any later.
It's sort of now or never

I'm 42 and sat here feeding my gorgeous DS who's 15 weeks old.

Please don't worry too much about being am older mum - I haven't found it any more difficult than when I had my other 2 children at age 18 and 34 ,well actually I'd probably go as far as saying its easier now. I'm more financially stable,know what I want from life,don't worry about trivial things and I'm fitter than I ever was before (been to the gym this morning & will go for a 3 mile run tomorrow)

Statistically speaking there are risks to mum and baby during pregnancy,but as my consultant told me, he see more "high risk" pregnancy's which are caused by obesity than age.

POPPYOSCAR

[QUOTE=nottslass;32905211]I'm 42 and sat here feeding my gorgeous DS who's 15 weeks old.

Please don't worry too much about being am older mum - I haven't found it any more difficult than when I had my other 2 children at age 18 and 34 ,well actually I'd probably go as far as saying its easier now. I'm more financially stable,know what I want from life,don't worry about trivial things and I'm fitter than I ever was before (been to the gym this morning & will go for a 3 mile run tomorrow)

Statistically speaking there are risks to mum and baby during pregnancy,but as my consultant told me, he see more "high risk" pregnancy's which are caused by obesity than age.[/QUOTE]

How lovely!! Thats the same age as when my mum had my brother.I used to love looking after him. Congratulations!

glossgal

I don't think the issue is the safety aspect of having a child later in life, for me the OP doesn't really want a kid from the tone of her post and would be doing it just to please her man!! or is it just me??...

berniesmaster

when i had my ds (im 32) a lady next to me in hospital just poped out twins, she was 61!!!!!!!!
i had major complications, but she was absoultly fine!

jonty1970

glossgal wrote: »

I don't think the issue is the safety aspect of having a child later in life, for me the OP doesn't really want a kid from the tone of her post and would be doing it just to please her man!! or is it just me??...

I will only do it if it's right for me, as I will be the one doing the main caring. OH works very long hours and alternate shifts every other week, so I would be on my own most of the time.
He would love a baby, but he worrys about my health (we don't actually know any older mums) The press is mostly negative about older mums, in my opinion, and you seem to hear the stories about ill children or mums.
Or is it just picking up the bad points!

I could do with losing a few pounds first! anyway!
I have told him, it's soon or not at all. Over 45/6 is my cut off point!

He won't leave me if I don't get pregnant, and if he did ever say that, he would get my boot up his backside on the way out the door!

It's lovely to hear from other older mums! Thanks again

jonty1970

zartub wrote: »

just depends on your lifestyle my wife has just had my son at 47 everything is perfect :rotfl:

CONGRATULATIONS!!!
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diable

My Mum was 41 and I was born in 1964 just have a healthy pregnancy and don't take any unnecessary drugs/pills/medication.

Silveralice

The other thing to bear in mind is that it's not just the risk of problems with the baby or with the pregnancy that increase with age; it also rapidly becomes more difficult to conceive (with more chance of miscarriage) over the age of 40 - I had 2 children around the age of 30, with no problems, and then 3 miscarriages when I was in my early 40s - if you really want to go for it, fair enough, but just be prepared that it might be disappointing at an even earlier stage, though of course lots of people have no problems. Good luck.

angelicmary85

property.advert wrote: »

How would you feel being 60 and still with a child at school ? What happens if the baby is a downs syndrome baby or has other defects ? Consider the effect on the child of an aged mother ?

Down's Syndrome babies aren't just born to older mothers.