cougar problem

lucylucky

My neighbour had her first child when she was 23 and her second when she was 44. It is up to you.

POPPYOSCAR

Jonty Everyone is different but my mum had no problems.I think you will find the hospital will take extra care of you.If you feel fit and healthy then you should be ok.Having a baby is a risk no matter what your age and if you already have children they might be able to help if they want to.I know we all loved having a baby brother and I used to take him everywhere with me.

With regard to what about when you are 60 etc. it was never a problem for mum and dad and my brother was perfectly happy.Older people seem to be a lot more active these days anyway and as a nation we are living longer.I have a friend of 86 who lives on her own.Walks to the shops, keeps her house and garden immaculate, and still has all her marbles!!

Spendless

I'd want to talk this over with my GP first and discuss what possible implications you may have, from the liklihood of you conceiving (ie what is the average % rate of becoming pregnant at this age) to the possible health risks of both yourself and the baby. The immediate one that jumps to mind is Down Syndrome. This link indicates that you'd run a 1 in 20 risk.

http://www.cdadc.com/ds/down-syndrome-risk-factors.html

Are you prepared for that? Would you terminate a pregnancy if that is what the test revealed? Could you come to terms with doing so?

I had my kids at 33 and 36 and I could tell the difference in my ability to do the night time feeds with the youngest- far harder than it had been 3 years earlier.

Make sure this is also what YOU want, if you decided to go ahead.

POPPYOSCAR

Spendless wrote: »

I'd want to talk this over with my GP first and discuss what possible implications you may have, from the liklihood of you conceiving (ie what is the average % rate of becoming pregnant at this age) to the possible health risks of both yourself and the baby. The immediate one that jumps to mind is Down Syndrome. This link indicates that you'd run a 1 in 20 risk.

http://www.cdadc.com/ds/down-syndrome-risk-factors.html

Are you prepared for that? Would you terminate a pregnancy if that is what the test revealed? Could you come to terms with doing so?

I had my kids at 33 and 36 and I could tell the difference in my ability to do the night time feeds with the youngest- far harder than it had been 3 years earlier.

Make sure this is also what YOU want, if you decided to go ahead.

Yes this is true.I had my last child at 38 and I was classed as an older mother.I was offered tests but refused as I was not prepared to terminate.The nurses reaction was strange 'are you a catholic then'!!!!
She insisted on making the appointment in case I changed my mind even though I assured her I would not be going to it and I did not go.My baby was fine and the birth was a lot easier than before.

My experience is different to yours. I found it easier at 38 than before I was a lot more chilled out about everything and had no problems with night feeds etc.

tori.k

jonty1970 wrote: »

Thank you everyone!

I wish I had met him earlier. I am just worried about being too old and worried about having a baby with problems.

Young mums have babys with downs to me its a bit of a lotto, there maybe a slightly higher risk the older you get, then there is a risk just crossing the road i would say more older mums have healthy babys then dont, but to be honest if i was a midwife id be more worried about the mum's to be still out drinking/smoking then older mum who's looking after herself,
Best of luck

Spendless

Poppyoscar- what age/s were you when you had your other child./ren? I found no difference in my calmness with 2 kids in my 30s but a big difference in my ability to get back to sleep after a night time feed with the youngest (which in turn played a part in tiredness).

POPPYOSCAR

Spendless wrote: »

Poppyoscar- what age/s were you when you had your other child./ren? I found no difference in my calmness with 2 kids in my 30s but a big difference in my ability to get back to sleep after a night time feed with the youngest (which in turn played a part in tiredness).

I was 33 with my first and 38 with the second.My first one started school just after she was born.I think with the first I would take longer to get back to sleep (new baby and all that!) I would listen for him breathing and get worried if I couldn't hear him etc. With the second I suppose being more chilled out I slept a lot better(been there done that sort of thing!!) Physically I didn't feel any different.Both of them would wake several times in the night and didn't sleep through until they were about 18months.

NAR

jonty from the sound of things your children are far from infants now - possibly teenagers? Now you have reached a stage where you are able to get out and about and enjoy life again, do you really want to give that up and start all over again with a baby?

C_Mababejive

I would ensure that your married first.

How does BF feel about that?

POPPYOSCAR

NAR wrote: »

jonty from the sound of things your children are far from infants now - possibly teenagers? Now you have reached a stage where you are able to get out and about and enjoy life again, do you really want to give that up and start all over again with a baby?

This is interesting.Do you think people with young children do not enjoy life then?????????? and do not get out and about??????? It hasn't stopped us.Has it stopped you?