How long do you wait for a proposal???

diable

smorri4 wrote: »

- but my question is still why i am waiting for the proposal! and from what responses i have had on here the majority seem to think my 7 year relationship has been a waste of my time and that i am never going to be the blushing bride - i thought this forum was meant to be supportive and friendly - fool me!

thanks for the 10% who offered something positive and advisory - much appreciated.

but why is marriage so important to you as love and respect come higher up the scale?

Doom_and_Gloom

7 years is a long time to wait for a proposal in my opinion.

I made it very clear early on in the relationship that if we were together for 3 years and no engagement I would have to leave him. He knew I wasn't just saying it as I've been honest from the start about everything to do with me and what I wanted out of life (I was 16 when we met but I knew what I wanted even then ). He knew if he wasn't on board then I'd 'abandon ship' eventually. When we met he didn't want marriage or children and although I knew this he knew my veiws just as much as I knew his. We moved in together rather fast (not quite 16 weeks of knowing each other/being together). I asked him several times after about a year of being together about marriage and even proposed myself but it wasn't happening. When I eventually lost hope believing it was a lost cause he proposed before the 2 and a half year mark together , we have now been engaged for 2 years (I'm nearly 21 now) and we are thinking about getting married next year or in 2013. He's even stated interest about having our own children or even adopting - we don't feel we need to be married for children but that is only how we feel.

I'm sorry to say OP but personally I couldn't wait so long (even though I'd 'only' be 23/24 years old if it was with me with my partner* - with 7 years that's possibly 2 guys with my system after all giving time to find another guy). You have a life to live and if he doesn't want something that you feel so strongly about then I wouldn't wait around! However I will say it's up to you. You need to be sure of what is holding him back. If it is the money then make it obvious that it won't be expencive. Basically you need to make sure it's not that he's waiting 'just incase'.

*although as I've stated I'm not even 21 yet :rotfl:.

kittendothroar

I don't think 7 years is too long to wait, as long as you love each other surely thats the main thing?

I've been with my fiance for just over 7 years - we only got engaged 2 days ago, and beforehand the fact we had been together for so long, without proposal never bothered me, I just knew it would happen when he was ready Good things come to those who wait :j