'Kicking' children out at 16...view please

squirrelchops

I'd be interested to know what this book is too gizmo please.

Odette

My parents foster and there is a well known lady in our borough that kicks her kids out at 13. We had one of 5 put into care every other year or so, very sad.

JBD

Odette wrote: »

My parents foster and there is a well known lady in our borough that kicks her kids out at 13. We had one of 5 put into care every other year or so, very sad.

This is awful.Surely this would be considered child neglect or abandonment[not sure if that's a proper word].IMO [in an ideal world] this 'lady' should be in court and her younger children put into the care of a loving family.

SingleSue

My eldest son is 16...I don't see him as a child but as a young adult and treat him as such.

I would never dream of kicking him out, he is still in compulsory education anyway but I have heard of one of his friends being told she now has to leave as she is 16 (2 days older than my son) and if she stays, then when she gets her EMA in September, she has to hand over the entire amount to her mum as rent.

I, on the other hand, was fiercely independent and nothing my parents said convinced me to stay, I was out of the door at shortly after my 16th birthday but then I had finished school and was working. I found my own housing and didn't ask for any assistance whatsoever.

daviecol

I suspect it probably has a lot to do with a persons upbringing and what parenting skills they have learned from their own parents.

My wifes brother married a badly brought up woman, they seperated and she has told their 16 year old daughter she has to move out.

I have 2 kids and am from a solid family background and I wouldn't dream of asking my kids to leave home. My son is 18 and my daughter is 16 and they can stay with my wife and I for as long as they want/need to. And will be welcome to return at any point in their lives as long as we can accomodate them.

mumcoll

I work in housing and we see 16 year old youngsters saying they have been 'kicked out' by their parents - who came through the system themselves when they were 16. Sad.

I can't imagine ever having to ask any of mine to leave but have been lucky that they have all been well behaved. It must be very difficult if the 16 year old is unmanageable or violent.

Oldernotwiser

jonty1970 wrote: »

I do think it's hard for some families when benefits stop.
In my own case, my son got ema. That went on his bus fare and bits and pieces for college.
I've been keeping him for the 2 years.
I know some teens have had to drop college, because their parents won't keep them.
No benefits for them and they can't afford to keep them, so the teen has to leave and get a job (or sign on)

This is totally wrong!!

Parents carry on getting child benefit and child tax credits as long as the child is in full time, non advanced education, up to the age of 20.

Have you not been receiving these?

gizmo111

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

This is totally wrong!!

Parents carry on getting child benefit and child tax credits as long as the child is in full time, non advanced education, up to the age of 20.

Have you not been receiving these?

See here http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=32379843&postcount=52

Nottoobadyet

I left home at 16, but on good terms my family. I moved abroad, and I was mostly financially independant from then on but was able to ask for help here and there. For me it was the right time, and getting on the real life track early gave me a head start. I never moved back home, though my sister has stayed there (outside of Uni) until the ripe old age of 21, and counting!

Most people I know cant comprehend taking care of yourself in your late teens. To me though, it made all the difference.

summersmile

Rubytuesday: Thanks for your reply had a very bad sleep last night worrying about her have tried to text her just getting back yessss or noooo from her nothing else. I am really worried that she will not turn up for work on Tuesday even though she has said she will as she really love's it (doing an apprentiship as hairdresser) I think I will have to just give her a bit of space and hope she comes back to me, her little sister is really upset and I am trying to explain to her that she is not to blame for her sister moving out. For some reason she thinks I am the problem.........