sister taking the pi$$

concerned43

Many thanks again - she was/is a wide child and always has been - drinking/smoking/having sex by the age of 12! my parents could not control her and eventually gave up as she was making them ill - they have had many talks with her but she lies through her teeth and they really do not know what to believe. My mum especially feels guilty and wonders where she went wrong and can't handle her as mum is now disabled and does not keep in good health. I have another sister who fails to see anything wrong - probably does not want to get involved as she hates confrontations and my younger sister is VERY confrontational.

daska

From the description of her here it sounds as if she is still very immature so at 15 it's doubtful that she did any more planning than 'oh that sounds like fun'.

ERICS_MUM

First - do you think your sister might have a health issue such as bi-polar ? I'm no medic but her behaviour ticks some of the boxes.

Second - lots of people, me included, would give their eye teeth to have a loving little 8 year old boy to care for. Life's just not fair is it ?

Third - you are obviously the strong one in the family and it sounds like you are going to battle this out until you find a solution to help your nephew whilst not "alienating" him from your son.

As I said earlier, I do wish you all the very best. Please keep us updated.

Linda xx

mummy_Jay

He's lucky to have such a loving aunt.

lilac_lady

You're a very caring person and want what's best for your nephew. The best life for him isn't with his birth mother but I don't know whether she'd sign custody over to anyone else as she'd lose her benefits. What a dilemma for you!

concerned43

Eric's mum - you may have hit something there - My sister believes she has bi-polar - I don't know anything about bi-polar so would not know the signs... to be honest i thought she was saying it in order to get DLA - now I feel guilty! I will get her to see her GP to get a proper diagnosis. Forgive my ignorance but what were the signs you picked up on? she is also tired all the time - is this a sign?

Margaret54

Hi You are so caring and I really do wish you all the very best with this. I haven't anything to add to the comments made but I am so glad to know he has you in his little life. God Bless you both, Margaret

lauren_1

I would be seriosuly thinking about having your nephew with you full time, he is her cash cow! Call her bluff, invite your nephew to sleep over, dont chase her to come get him and see how long it takes.

theres some worrying things that i have noticed.

A, if you dont feed him, theres no guarentee she will.
B, She fobbs him off on you constantly

such a loving home you nephew lives in.

jamespir

i think you need to have it out with her she clearly putting other men over the welfare of her child and expecting you too foot the bill

daska

concerned43 wrote: »

Eric's mum - you may have hit something there - My sister believes she has bi-polar - I don't know anything about bi-polar so would not know the signs... to be honest i thought she was saying it in order to get DLA - now I feel guilty! I will get her to see her GP to get a proper diagnosis. Forgive my ignorance but what were the signs you picked up on? she is also tired all the time - is this a sign?

It might help to think of it by it's other name 'manic depression'. There's a bit of info HERE that will help explain it.