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sister taking the pi$$

my younger sister (single parent) to a 8 year old and since moving closer to family i have often had to look after him, did not mind to begin with but the 'baby sitting' is getting beyond a joke - I look after him 4 days a week and over the last two weeks she is getting back later and later. Yesterday I had him 8 hrs only to find she had been at home all day with some man :mad: and today I picked him up from school as she did not turn up and can't get a hold of her...she was going shopping this morning in town and still not back (how long does it take to shop)?
I am thinking of going over to her house and letting myself in to see if she is there - tho if I found her there either alone of with someone I am likely to go mad. So not sure what to do?
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  • RAS
    RAS Posts: 36,040 Forumite
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    Hi

    is she working?
    If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing
  • lucylucky
    lucylucky Posts: 4,908 Forumite
    Make yourself unavailable to "babysit" as frequently.

    It is possible to take an 8 year old shopping - maybe she should try it
  • concerned43
    concerned43 Posts: 1,316 Forumite
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    No she does not work and the reason I do it because if I didn't the DS would be fobbed off to whoever else would take him - she only has her DS 4 days a week as he spends the rest with his father. do you think I should go over to her house?
  • concerned43
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    Her son plays with my son so in order to avoid I would need to make sure DS and I were out and is not always practical esp. after school as we're both at school gates and they all come home with me to be fed etc.
  • bryanb
    bryanb Posts: 5,034 Forumite
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    Learn to say no
    This is an open forum, anyone can post and I just did !
  • custardy
    custardy Posts: 38,365 Forumite
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    bryanb wrote: »
    Learn to say no

    have to agree,she is taking the pi$$
  • so u know she's taking the mick ... just say no u cant do it, she needs to take responsiblilty for her own child... now go tell her!!
    always send a smile as it costs nothing..



    :beer:
  • Lube
    Lube Posts: 1,495 Forumite
    I agree she is taken the Mick stand up to her and say NO

    Its her problem, her responsibility, she is an adult, if she cant look after own kids perhaps she shouldn't have had any
  • jennihen
    jennihen Posts: 6,500 Forumite
    Start ringing her up and ask her to do this, that and the other for you. Not necessarily looking after your son, other things too. Things like 'Oh yeah I'll have your boy but do think you can do my ironing next week/paint my bathroom/drive me to Liverpool etc'!!
    One life.
  • liney
    liney Posts: 5,121 Forumite
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    I think you should speak to the child's Father, afterall you and he seem to have shared custody.

    Seriously, if the Mother isn't interested, then perhaps should be made aware and do a better job with full custody.
    "On behalf of teachers, I'd like to dedicate this award to Michael Gove and I mean dedicate in the Anglo Saxon sense which means insert roughly into the anus of." My hero, Mr Steer.
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