So long and thanks for all the fish recipes

misskool

HariboJunkie wrote: »

Anyway. If you'll excuse me I have a pitchfork to polish.

Can I light the bonfire?



(it's a joke!!)

jinky67

poet123

Quasar wrote: »

A thread was closed.
Maybe rightly, maybe wrongly.
BGs are human like the rest of us.
They please some and displease others.
Next time it's the other way around.
That's how it goes.
It's just a forum.
Why all this sweat and pique?

Q, you and I agree or not as the subject varies but I dont get personal, and I respect your honest and forthright opinion, so would you please answer me this pertinent question.

Can you see a substantive difference between the someone posting an emotive thread about her treatment at the hands of others, and another doing likewise about a BG on a board designed for site feedback?

Yet one has been applauded, one villified. That is where I have a problem.

ETA TO REMOVE NAMES/STATUS OF POSTERS AS PER FORUM RULES.

pelirocco

maltesers wrote: »

Nor their relations

i didnt say they couldnt post , but should have different ids , it wont stop the conflict of interests , but at least no one will know !

jexygirl

I am saddened that this post has been derailed, as were the other 2, and the chances of Penpen feeling better today if she reads this, are zero.

By all means have your arguements / grown up discussions, call them what you will, thats what a forum is about, but its also about respect, so please do it somewhere else.
Start a new thread so that I and others who have no interest in it, dont have to read it, its quite frankly boring to read the same thing over again, when all you actually want to read is the repsonses to the OP.

Im sure alot of what is written here would be inappropriate on a leaving card in real life and would not be written in one, whether you had had differences with the person or not, if you wouldn't do it IRL then don't do it here...
I see the original post as being a "im leaving guys" post, (or perhaps BGs should just quietly disappear, leaving their friends / acquaintances wondering where they are, what is wrong etc. ??? ) Rather than what some would suggest it to be to justify their own agenda.
A leaving thread is the only thing you have when a friend or colleague leaves whom you know via the internet, please respect it and the wishes of those who wish to sign it.

jackieglasgow

Poet I think it's possibly because MrsE is perceived to have resorted to name calling and Penelope Penguin hasn't, that may be the long and the short of it. I understand you have a real bee in your bonnet about this, wrongly or rightly, but in all honesty, I think we need to all step away from this, and as you have reported this thread, if the team decide there is any abuse they will delete the offending messages, as they have with the ones on the thread where all the dispute orginated.

Paulie'sGirl

Hi PenPen,

I've literally just logged into OS for the first time in a few days and was devastated to see your thread (though the title did make me smile, I'm a fellow Hitchhikers fan).

I hope in time you find a way to become part of OS again, as I'd hate to see you leave entirely. I do totally understand the need to step away though, one should never keep doing anything which makes one miserable, whether at work or most particularly when in one's precious spare time.

I hope a friendly message makes you smile. We're not all b!tchy, and its a shame when the few ruin it for the many.

Just to let you know you're in my thoughts,

PGxx

Quasar

poet123 wrote: »

Q, you and I agree or not as the subject varies but I dont get personal, and I respect your honest and forthright opinion, so would you please answer me this pertinent question.

Can you see a substantive difference between the OP ( who is also a BG) posting an emotive thread about her treatment at the hands of others, and MrsE doing likewise about a BG on a board designed for site feedback?

Yet one has been applauded, one villified. That is where I have a problem.

I have subsequently read the thread posted in the feedback board, singling out PenPen - not by name, but by linking the thread she closed. While I can see that the OP (ok, MrsE) was annoyed, I think that in PenPen's place I would too take exception to a thread started to complain about me. There is an abuse report system for a reason and if used properly nobody except the parties in question need to know about the disagreement.

As it happened, PenPen was singled out on a thread and - as bg's get a lot of flack a lot of time - this was the last straw. I don't think we must assume that because one chooses to be a bg, they can become fair game for public complaint on a forum and just have to take it.

Maybe someone else would have not started this thread. But until we are in a bg's shoes we mustn't think they are without feelings too.

poet123

jexygirl wrote: »

I am saddened that this post has been derailed, as were the other 2, and the chances of Penpen feeling better today if she reads this, are zero.

By all means have your arguements / grown up discussions, call them what you will, thats what a forum is about, but its also about respect, so please do it somewhere else.
Start a new thread so that I and others who have no interest in it, dont have to read it, its quite frankly boring to read the same thing over again, when all you actually want to read is the repsonses to the OP.

Im sure alot of what is written here would be inappropriate on a leaving card in real life and would not be written in one, whether you had had differences with the person or not, if you wouldn't do it IRL then don't do it here...
I see the original post as being a "im leaving guys" post, (or perhaps BGs should just quietly disappear, leaving their friends / acquaintances wondering where they are, what is wrong etc. ??? ) Rather than what some would suggest it to be to justify their own agenda.
A leaving thread is the only thing you have when a friend or colleague leaves whom you know via the internet, please respect it and the wishes of those who wish to sign it.

I would agree with you if the OP had posted a simple goodbye thread, but she didnt, she felt the need to elaborate as to why she was going, and at length, and in emotive language.

The result was predictable, and perfectly within the bounds of the rules of MSE. Using your scenario, if a colleague in a leaving speech took the opportunity to slag off (to use a slang expression) a person who was in the office and who was present, would you expect themn to stay silent? would you stay silent if it was you?

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Poet I think it's possibly because MrsE is perceived to have resorted to name calling and Penelope Penguin hasn't, that may be the long and the short of it. I understand you have a real bee in your bonnet about this, wrongly or rightly, but in all honesty, I think we need to all step away from this, and as you have reported this thread, if the team decide there is any abuse they will delete the offending messages, as they have with the ones on the thread where all the dispute orginated.

Once again, MrsE has apologised and explained the context ( a bit like the way the term witch hunt became extrapolated to mean someone was a witch imo). In the OP the intent is clear, there may be no name calling but a character assination is very apparent. Which is worse? which is more honest?

I fully expect the abuse team to act, but there should not be the need if everyone acted fairly and was honest about their motives.

pelirocco

poet123 wrote: »

Q, you and I agree or not as the subject varies but I dont get personal, and I respect your honest and forthright opinion, so would you please answer me this pertinent question.

Can you see a substantive difference between the OP ( who is also a BG) posting an emotive thread about her treatment at the hands of others, and MrsE doing likewise about a BG on a board designed for site feedback?

Yet one has been applauded, one villified. That is where I have a problem.

Posters are like sheep they follow what others have said ...............