I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

joho

BLUis wrote: »

We went to a wedding where part of the 'favour' was pretend money for a number of drinks at the bar, so there was no way of taking the pi** from a free bar. Each 'note' had the value of 1 drink, so the maximum we could get was the number of notes we had!

Thanks BLUis. That's not a bad idea - the only difficulty is we are getting wed abroad and, as I usually use the maximum baggage allowance on a NORMAL 2 week holiday, I don't think I'll be able to be taking stuff in the luggage!

Fawny wrote: »

Joho i'd be unhappy about the free bar as i'd be worried that everyone would get too drunk & spoil it I'd put lots of water on the tables as it will be hot so they might fill up on that;) Have you decide where you are having your reception yet?

Thanks Fawny. I'm not too worried about people getting drunk because it will be 11PM before we reach the bar after dinner, so I'm sure some people will stay a while and then call it a night. I just don't want people extracting the urine by not finishing their drinks before getting another (they wouldn't leave anything if THEY were paying!), ordering expensive cocktails or the very best spirits, or having chasers that they wouldn't normally have. Some of OH2Bs work colleagues can put their drinks away IYSWIM.

We are having dinner at the Odyssey (or Odyssia) restaurant and party after at the Museum Bar.

Pockets - I agree with the 'stuff the FIL' comments. He sounds like a meany, while your father sounds like an absolute trooper everything he is doing and going through! If you have ushers they can direct people to the correct places without any difficulty. How about you ask your groom to wait for you on the left of the church just to make it even more obvious?

emz118

clearing_out_my_pockets: We are inviting 70 people to our wedding. 11 of these are from Hubby to Be. That means that if we stick to tradition, my side of the church is packed and his is empty!
When I mentioned this to our vicar (who is my Godfather) he said "I don't do sides at weddings, within the hour they're all one big family anyway, so what the hell does it matter?!?!?" He has said that if he hears anyone say "bride or groom" they will be told that we're not doing it that way.

So swapping the bride and grooms "traditional sides" won't be at all confusing IMHO.

PolishBigSpender

BLUis wrote: »

We went to a wedding where part of the 'favour' was pretend money for a number of drinks at the bar, so there was no way of taking the pi** from a free bar. Each 'note' had the value of 1 drink, so the maximum we could get was the number of notes we had!

We are just buying as much vodka as needed and sticking it on the tables. Thwe empty bottles will get replaced as needed with fresh cold ones and people will deal with their own drinks. There's no tradition to pay for your own drinks in Poland.
But I will go totally bridezilla-ish if any of the guests get wasted on it :P

Chrissy1981

Joho, we're having a free bar but there will be restrictions: No double measures on spirits, only small/standard glass of wine and no shots.

We're not saying people can't drink what they want, as they can have as many JD and cokes as they like, just one measure at a time! Same with the wine. And no shots should stop people taking the michael.

Hate to sound miserly like this but people can go too far on a free bar!

MrsBambi

It's been a while since my last 'moment', but I had a PROPER one yesterday... well nearly lol

My FMIL is about 50, but she doesn't look or dress her age, she shops at shops aimed at 20 year olds, and she's adamant she wants to wear a fascinator to our wedding. I told her from day 1 I wanted her to wear a hat, but I said it nicely so it's been kind of a running joke since. But then yesterday her daughter, my future SIL sent me a picture of my MIL in a HORRIBLE fascinator! It's grey with these HUGE feathers sticking out the top, pointing in opposite directions, no exaggeration about a foot above the fascinator! It's also got a netting bit that comes over the face which looks suitable for a funeral! It doesn't fit her head properly and she would just look like mutton dressed as lamb in it. I told my SIL that I really don't like it, but she said my FMIL loves it and will probably buy it next week. I had a proper strop and told her I don't like it it looks silly, but she just stopped replying to my texts!

I spoke to my FH about it and he said he doesnt see the problem, he thinks the fascinator looks ok, and that I'm being silly cos I can't choose what every guests wear, and if she likes it then she can wear it. I can see where he's coming from and I know I'm acting like a B****, but I can't help but think every time I look at my wedding photos, my eyes will automatically go to that god awful fascinator. I'm being so silly aren't I!!

Rant over. Hoping she changes her mind!!!

ellay864

I can kind of understand why it's bugging you but I do agree more with your FH...it is her choice what she wears, and it's not like she's clashing with you. Do you know what all the guest's headgear will be like? She might not be the only one wearing a fascinator you don't like. Persoanlly I love wearings hats and fascinators but many people don't, and a lot of non-hat lovers prefer fascinators as they see them as more convenient.
What if she doesn't like the style of dress you're wearing? You'd say - quite rightly - that it's your choice. I'm afraid the same really goes for what anybody else chooses to wear to your wedding. Unless you're paying for the outfit you can't really dictate their choice
Oh and as somebody approaching 47 I also think good on her for having the confidence to shop and dress young. I'm more likely to buy things from New Look than Edinburgh Wool Mill, or 'older lady' shops, and would really resent anyone trying to imply that I should be pigeonholed into a certain style of dress

MissPixie

Bridezilla moment this morning. Last two days I got royal mail cards saying I had a fee to pay £1.32 each which is the cost of a second class stamp and then the £1 handling fee they were both addressed to me and my oh so I knew they were rsvp cards but I thought maybe they just sent the fee notice twice our postie often does things like that but nope get there I had to pay £2.64 because two people hadn't put stamps on the envelopes. To top it off they aren't even coming! :@

We gave them the rsvp card, envelope and we even had stickers on the envelope with our address on they had a choice to pass it on to oh parents or return it by post and they posted them without stamps. I really hope they don't all do this or I am going to be skint!

PolishBigSpender

MrsBambi wrote: »

I spoke to my FH about it and he said he doesnt see the problem, he thinks the fascinator looks ok, and that I'm being silly cos I can't choose what every guests wear, and if she likes it then she can wear it. I can see where he's coming from and I know I'm acting like a B****, but I can't help but think every time I look at my wedding photos, my eyes will automatically go to that god awful fascinator. I'm being so silly aren't I!!

He's right - you are being silly. She can wear whatever she wants. i'm not surprised you SIL stopped replying to your texts.

codemonkey

Don't think you can do anything about it Bambi. As much as we'd love to, I don't think we can dictate what people wear to the weddings.

If you feel that strongly about it, maybe you should be sneaky about it and buy her a hat as a gift before she buys the fascinator.

bubbles0169

i dont want to have a go at ANYONE but can we please just remember this thread has no ryhme or reason,its for people to vent their petty stress with out fear of being told they are bridezilla,its a bit like u can slag off ur own family but if anyone else does it you feel the need to defend them! Im feelin bridezilla cross wit green eyed monster about friends getting engaged after me then wed before i am