I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

Fawny_2

I think having a good photographers is a must really White Sapphire so I feel for you, it's the one thing you can look back on year after year, so it's important they are good. Joho i'd be unhappy about the free bar as i'd be worried that everyone would get too drunk & spoil it I'd put lots of water on the tables as it will be hot so they might fill up on that;) Have you decide where you are having your reception yet?

clearing_out_my_pockets

I am almost going to blow my top al FIL-to-be so will let it all out on here.

My dad is predominantly in a wheelchair but can walk short distances with a walking stick and slightly longer distances with a stick and a hand to hold. He holds his stick in his right hand. To walk me down the aisle, this would mean that I would be walking on the left. As well as walking me down the aisle, he will be doing a reading. The bit where the readings are done from (let's call it a lecturn) is on the right hand side.

Part of my dad's disability means that if he is confronted with any unknown while he is walking, his brain 'forgets' that he's meant to be walking / standing and concentrates on the new information, meaning he falls over. We thought that as he will be walking on the right and reading on the right, it would be easier for my dad if we 'flip' the traditional sides of the church and have bride on the right, groom on the left.

I broached this in front of FIL on Sunday and he said "that would be far too confusing for guests. Just stick with the proper etiquette and leave it at that".

I *know* it is traditional for it to be the other way around but surely tradition can give way for something like this? Guests shouldn't be confused anyway - that's what the ushers are for! My dad (who was there at the time) now feels very embarrassed and wants us to stick to tradition. I am immensely proud of my dad and just want him to be comfortable.

sammy_wheeler

its not the law that you need to stand on one side- and that if you feel you want to stand on the right side to help your dad then do that! don't listen your FIL!!
I think its lovely you are thinking of your dad and how you can help him out

laurarobby

ignor your FIL! why is it to confusing? maybe he is just to simple! i think its a lovly idea! x

clearing_out_my_pockets

Awww thanks. The problem now is that dad's a very proud man. Now that FIL has rubbished the suggestion (in such a rude way) dad would now feel self conscious if we flip the church. Hmmm - may need to speak to OH some more about it.

MrsDrink

If it's any consolation I didn't even know there was a 'right' and 'wrong' side!!

(lol but then I'm not having a church wedding).

bubbles0169

i didnt know either, i just thought that the users tell you which side to sit on after you tell them who your with(bride or groom)

gandy

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I am almost going to blow my top al FIL-to-be so will let it all out on here.

My dad is predominantly in a wheelchair but can walk short distances with a walking stick and slightly longer distances with a stick and a hand to hold. He holds his stick in his right hand. To walk me down the aisle, this would mean that I would be walking on the left. As well as walking me down the aisle, he will be doing a reading. The bit where the readings are done from (let's call it a lecturn) is on the right hand side.

Part of my dad's disability means that if he is confronted with any unknown while he is walking, his brain 'forgets' that he's meant to be walking / standing and concentrates on the new information, meaning he falls over. We thought that as he will be walking on the right and reading on the right, it would be easier for my dad if we 'flip' the traditional sides of the church and have bride on the right, groom on the left.

I broached this in front of FIL on Sunday and he said "that would be far too confusing for guests. Just stick with the proper etiquette and leave it at that".

I *know* it is traditional for it to be the other way around but surely tradition can give way for something like this? Guests shouldn't be confused anyway - that's what the ushers are for! My dad (who was there at the time) now feels very embarrassed and wants us to stick to tradition. I am immensely proud of my dad and just want him to be comfortable.

stuff the old FIL and let your guests sit where ever the heck they like. i'm not having sides at the wedding (mostly cause my side of the family is huge and my OH isn't) so it's a sit where ever you like deal with us.

honestly it makes everything sooooooooooooo much easier do it that way and tell your FIL to sod off :rotfl:

if it makes it easier for your dad then you go with that, if your FIL has an issue with making it more comfortable for your dad then he needs a good kick in the shins!

but then again that's my opinion.

codemonkey

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I am almost going to blow my top al FIL-to-be so will let it all out on here.

My dad is predominantly in a wheelchair but can walk short distances with a walking stick and slightly longer distances with a stick and a hand to hold. He holds his stick in his right hand. To walk me down the aisle, this would mean that I would be walking on the left. As well as walking me down the aisle, he will be doing a reading. The bit where the readings are done from (let's call it a lecturn) is on the right hand side.

Part of my dad's disability means that if he is confronted with any unknown while he is walking, his brain 'forgets' that he's meant to be walking / standing and concentrates on the new information, meaning he falls over. We thought that as he will be walking on the right and reading on the right, it would be easier for my dad if we 'flip' the traditional sides of the church and have bride on the right, groom on the left.

I broached this in front of FIL on Sunday and he said "that would be far too confusing for guests. Just stick with the proper etiquette and leave it at that".

I *know* it is traditional for it to be the other way around but surely tradition can give way for something like this? Guests shouldn't be confused anyway - that's what the ushers are for! My dad (who was there at the time) now feels very embarrassed and wants us to stick to tradition. I am immensely proud of my dad and just want him to be comfortable.

:rotfl::rotfl:I have to say I've never noticed or cared what side the groom or bride are on, let alone been cross or confused because it's backwards.

nykied

I totally agree with the other posters, tell your FIL where to get off and flip the church (as well as the bird at your FIL ). I've never noticed or cared which side I've sat on at a wedding, just gone where the ushers have told me to go. I don't think anyone at the wedding would notice.

Your Dad shouldn't have to feel embarrassed about it anyway, it would be your choice.

Maybe show your Dad some of the posts on here and he might realise it's the FIL who's in the wrong?