I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

ellay864

In all fairness even my very best friends wedding wouldn't be a factor if I was thinking about having a baby. At my first wedding my best friend who was chief BM went off round the world travelling and I didnt know when she was going to get home. In the end a month before wedding we knew she wouldn't be back. But I couldnt begrduge as it was a trip of a lifetime for her.
Your wedding is YOUR big day...there's no way she'll think of that as anywhere close to important when compared to her baby. Sorry if that sounds harsh but that's really how it is!

White_Sapphire

becca0417 wrote: »

I'm being a total bridezilla about the remote possibility of one of my bridesmaids getting pregnant before my wedding. I know they can't put their lives on hold but I wish she would have just said. Now I'm terrified to even go bridesmaid dress shopping because we can't afford to waste money
It's really taken the fun out of it for me.
Someone tell me to shut up!!!!

I haven't really got any more to add to the good advice you've already received, Becca, but have you thought of going down the non-matching bridesmaids route? You could either pick a colour scheme and/or general style (such as empire line which is a little easier for pregnant ladies to wear). Then organise two shopping days out with all of them to choose their dresses together. The potentially pregnant one could then choose her dress on the second trip closer to the date, when she knows what size and shape she'll be! Also, the other maids could maybe choose their accessories on the second shopping trip so that the possibly pregnant one doesn't feel like the odd one out, IYSWIM.

Hope that makes sense!

x

becca0417

Thanks ladies. I think the thing that's annoying me is she won't just say. If she would just say oh we're thinking about it, I'd deal with it but it's the hints and maybe we wil, maybe we won't thing. She's always been unreliable, I should have realised! My other BMs, I don't think I'd be as bothered!

codemonkey

Arrgh. I just went off on one at H2B and he's now hiding upstairs out of the range of my wrath.

All I wanted was his opinion on something. Easy question. "Do you want to invite these people or not?" "It's your family!" "I know, but I'm not sure whether to invite them. What do you think?" "It's not about me. " "It's your wedding too and I'd really like your opinion." "It's your family."

Repeat until I want to strangle him and ask "how can I marry someone who wont even help me when I ask for it?"

Arrrgghhhhh. He makes me so mad. How hard is it to give me his opinion????

looktothefuture

Code the men have no idea! seriously... none!

They want to be involved but when you ask them a question you get a statement like he gave you back! He obviously (or so my OH says) is waiting for you to give a hint at what you really want!

My OH wouldn't decide on a venue and when I asked for his opinion he kept saying "well is it what you want?" eventually I just booked the first venue I fell in love with and then said to him "what do you think?" and his answer was "well, you love it so I have no choice now do I"

joho

looktothefuture wrote: »

Code the men have no idea! seriously... none! ...........
My OH wouldn't decide on a venue and when I asked for his opinion he kept saying "well is it what you want?" eventually I just booked the first venue I fell in love with and then said to him "what do you think?" and his answer was "well, you love it so I have no choice now do I"

I came into this thread to have a little rant about how my OH2B was driving me potty.

He has expressed absolutely NO opinions about anything when asked (except wanting buttonholes and corsages for people other than the main bridal party) so I have pretty much planned and ordered everything myself. He also keeps saying it is my wedding, so to have what I want!

Today he piped up about wanting to know how much everything was costing. I'd told him the flowers were costing a small bl@@dy fortune, and he said 'well, they were what you wanted weren't they?' . And so I had to remind him that it was HIM who wanted buttonholes and corsages for every Tom, !!!!!! and Harriet.

And I reminded him that we hadn't decided what food we were having. He thought having looked over the menus and expressed our opinions to each other had meant we had decided - but couldn't tell me what we had decided. So I think I will just go ahead and decide what I want to have anyway!!:mad:

Yes, men have no idea!


(Most of them it seems, I hasten to add - before I offend some ultra-keen and involved Groom!).

clearing_out_my_pockets

becca0417 wrote: »

Thanks ladies. I think the thing that's annoying me is she won't just say. If she would just say oh we're thinking about it, I'd deal with it but it's the hints and maybe we wil, maybe we won't thing. She's always been unreliable, I should have realised! My other BMs, I don't think I'd be as bothered!

I don't think it's fair to say she's being unreliable. It's very difficult to say that in the next 15 months you will or won't be trying. They may genuinely not have made their minds up yet. For example, me & OH haven't *quite* made our minds up yet when we're going to. I would be really hurt if one of my friends thought that I was being unreliable by not being able to make a life changing decision!

On a similar note, one of my bridesmaids has been saying for the last year that they 'may' be trying soon, but I know (sadly) that her husband isn't keen. But that bridesmaid has caused no end of trouble anyway!

twirlypinky

I've tried really hard not to get narky with h2b over his lack of enthusiasm over things that are important to me, but sometimes he says things that make me want to deck him (not that i ever would). He has got behind my felt and button flowers now 100% which is great because he was a bit noncommital at the start. On saturday i made a wrist corsage, either for me or BM in the evening, or possibly one of the mums. Anyway, he looked at it and said "what the !!!! is that?" so i said what it was and he replied "it's too big, it'll look !!!!!!! ridiculous".

Grrr, they're supposed to be over sized!! If i did them the size he wanted it would look like we were wearing a floral wrist watch!!!

laurarobby

Regarding H2Bs I know where your coming from. I have done everything he looked at one venue with me and ive been to a few... the one he came to is the one i loved so i emailed them with all the requirements Id like when they came back with the price i told OH and he was like if thats what u want.... i said it is but what do u want do u want to change or add anything... "like what?" is my response!!!!! the only thing he has had an opinion with is the guest list as i told him if he didnt help me i wasnt going to invite any of his family... lol im to mean!!! x

twirlypinky

Lol, i know what you mean. What makes me laugh is that if we're out and about, and bump into someone we know, they usually say "how's the wedding planning coming along" and he replies "oh, you know, it's so stressfull, so much to organise and sort out" and i'm stood next to him with my mouth open in shock, looking like a fish!