I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

ellay864

wish I had a pound for every bride I've read about who's decided not to have kids there and has had no end of grief from family over it...I love kids, I used to be one, I've had 2 of my own but the way some people react when they hear the 'no kids' message is just ridiculous...fgs it's down to the bride and groom, it's THEIR day so why does everybody take it as the deepest personal insult when their little darlings aren't invited along
The only thing that does bug me is that if a bride chooses no kids and then gets upset if people turn down an invite if they can't bring their kids....just as it's a bride's choice not to invite the kids, it's the guests choice whether or not to accept the invite. It's gotta be one of the most trouble causing aspects of weddings!
Stick your guns codemonkey!

codemonkey

Thanks ellay. Tbh if some of the parents I've had to invite didn't want to come, I wouldn't cry too much :rotfl:

Just my mother assuming that I'll invite everyone with a blood link and then saying "ooh well, but what about...." whenever I say I don't want to/cant fit them in/don't want to pay an extra £65 to feed them.

It's not a no kids rule as such, more a no kids that I haven't seen in the last year and wouldn't know who I was if I passed them in the street. We're applying that rule to grown ups too. Just because so and so's baby might be lovely and cute, doesn't mean I want it screaming through the ceremony, drowning out the carefully chosen music, readings and vows.

I'm a bad person :rotfl::rotfl:

SamW

Amen to all of the above re. children!!!
It is soooooooooo frustrating, and if people can't come because they can't get childcare... it's not an issue! We will see them soon after we are married and make a concerted effort to spend time with them... but I don't want a wedding full of children!
Now if only to explain that to my future MIL who insists on calling us to check every night for a different cousin/aunt/uncle's children!
S x

ellay864

codemonkey wrote: »

Just because so and so's baby might be lovely and cute, doesn't mean I want it screaming through the ceremony, drowning out the carefully chosen music, readings and vows.

I'm a bad person :rotfl::rotfl:

Then I'm a bad person too! Maybe some people should realise the main point of the wedding is the ceremony, not a family get together. If you've taken the time to choose the music and readings you want to blend in with the vows you're going to take, then the last you need is some kid showing how good their lungs are when they're bored/tired/hungry. The only little one at our wedding will be my brother's baby who will only be 5 months old and they won't have anyone to leave him with (they'll be travelling 250 miles to be here). And they've said if he starts getting grizzly during the ceremony they will take him out of the room

Luckyred

Last year we went to a wedding. It was a beautiful venue, the bride was gorgeous, delicious food etc. It had all been very well organised.
Anyway..... the point of this post is just to say that every time I look at the pics or speak to the couple that got married the first thing that comes to mind is the screaming baby in the church. It wasnt the babys fault of course but it shouldnt have been there IMO. Why would anyone take a small baby to a wedding? I just dont get it! What should have been a beautiful and moving ceremony was spoilt.
Eventually someone took the baby out but it was too late.....the damage was done.

bubbles0169

my h2b was best man for his friends wedding,we had to travel 3 hours away and stop over night,the only people i could have asked to have the boys,youngest being 4 months old,was my future mil who was also invited,when my little one started to cry in the ceremony i wanted the ground to swallow me up,i so wanted to see my partner do his best man duty but i was cringing i had to take him out,i was so upset to miss the ceremony but the look of hatred that the groom gave me to make sure i took my baby out wel i can stil feel it...so the moral is dont have babies at weddings but if your key guests do have them seriously think of a creche!maybe my LO was objecting to the ceremony and as a six sense knew somethin wasnt right because after their £20000 exclusive castle wedding theyve broken up!

codemonkey

That's a bit rubbish bubbles. I've got no problem with babies crying. It's what they do. In a perfect world I would organise a creche for the day but our budget is too tight to allow it. And its not that I don't want any kids at the wedding. I just dont want 10 of them that I never see at the expense of people I actually do know. As a result I'm only inviting the kids who's parents will let me drop kick them out the door if they're noisy.

Anyway the people with children that I'm not inviting aren't all that close anyway so I won't worry too much if they don't come. My moh's children are invited as is another family baby who knows us both. Just feel bad in case I upset people by not inviting their children.

csh_2

Luckyred wrote: »

Last year we went to a wedding. It was a beautiful venue, the bride was gorgeous, delicious food etc. It had all been very well organised.
Anyway..... the point of this post is just to say that every time I look at the pics or speak to the couple that got married the first thing that comes to mind is the screaming baby in the church. It wasnt the babys fault of course but it shouldnt have been there IMO. Why would anyone take a small baby to a wedding? I just dont get it! What should have been a beautiful and moving ceremony was spoilt.
Eventually someone took the baby out but it was too late.....the damage was done.

I have 3 babies under 6 months and an 18 month old coming to my ceremony. And they should be there as they are part of my family and a wedding is a family occassion.
I am delighted after 5 years of IVF my sisters twins are here and will be welcomed with open arms at my day. Crying and all.

kr15snw

I get the kid thing and we only had kids at the evening (except our 2 neices) after a nasty experience at my cousins wedding with my other cousins screaming child!

The funniest bit was my mum went nuts about it, but all the actual parents were fine. I even had 2 cousins go 'yay I have an excuse to dump the kids and get drunk with friends!'. My mum still goes on now about how 'it wasn't the same without the kids' when the parents spent the wedding going 'im loving the day without the kids!'

My cousins arn't bad parents, honest. hehe

Curious_George_2

i have 2 kids and there are quite a few invited, almost all the family has young children as do the majority of our friends
so, im having to invite everyone and saying to people you are all invited but its up to you who actually comes, just make sure i have the numbers before the rsvp cut off date,
and tbh most of the parents are making plans not to bring the little ones so they can have fun too,

sadly its actually a handful of family kids i would rather werent there as they are practically feral, but if you remember my last post on this thread theres a very good chance they wont be bothered to turn up anyway!