I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

clearing_out_my_pockets

gandy wrote: »

aww hun i felt like that last week i really did but this week after a few more things out of the way i'm back to being really excited that in 12 weeks i'm going to be a mrs :j

Four of my guests have said that they don't want to come. Not that they can't - they don't WANT to. Three of them I can understand - one is scared of churches, one isn't keen, the other is 13 years old and can't come if the other two don't :rotfl:

The fourth has really REALLY annoyed / upset me and is what is triggering this bridezilla episode. There was a very big family argument in 2006/7. Guest 4 (my uncle's long term girlfriend) has said that she won't come if my dad's sister comes because she doesn't want to start any trouble. I had hoped that they could put their differences aside for one day. As it is I'm not inviting half of my dad's siblings (because I don't get on with them).

emsbet

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Four of my guests have said that they don't want to come. Not that they can't - they don't WANT to. Three of them I can understand - one is scared of churches, one isn't keen, the other is 13 years old and can't come if the other two don't :rotfl:

The fourth has really REALLY annoyed / upset me and is what is triggering this bridezilla episode. There was a very big family argument in 2006/7. Guest 4 (my uncle's long term girlfriend) has said that she won't come if my dad's sister comes because she doesn't want to start any trouble. I had hoped that they could put their differences aside for one day. As it is I'm not inviting half of my dad's siblings (because I don't get on with them).

Awww! I really feel for you. The way I look at it is if people can't be grown up enough to put aside their differences for one day for someone they love then you're probably better off without them there. You don't need any ill feeling floating around the room on your special day.

Look at it this way, if you elope they still won't be there but neither will all the other people you love and want there and who love you and want to be with you on your wedding day.

*big hugs*

xx

clearing_out_my_pockets

I know, I know.... but if I eloped, at least I could pretend / forget that the family arguments aren't happening lol.

Seriously though, I wouldn't consider calling it all off it's just days like today make things so hard. My dad's brothers / sisters haven't seen my dad walk (he had an accident around the time everyone fell out) in four years and I wanted people there for him as much as for me.

emsbet

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

I know, I know.... but if I eloped, at least I could pretend / forget that the family arguments aren't happening lol.

Seriously though, I wouldn't consider calling it all off it's just days like today make things so hard. My dad's brothers / sisters haven't seen my dad walk (he had an accident around the time everyone fell out) in four years and I wanted people there for him as much as for me.

I know it's hard but I'm sure your dad wouldn't want you stressing out about him, he would want you to be thinking of yourself for just this one day at least.

xx

insomniac03

tartantotty wrote: »

AAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

I have just told my mum and dad what H2B and I have chosen for our coming back down the aisle song, to be met with "you ARE joking?" "what a load of s**te" and other such comments.

I am so mad!:mad: Its not a conventional song, but its a song that H2B and I both love, and its a song that we both sing a long too. We are having it regardless, but it their reaction just upset me.:(

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-xd3NuWQI0 is the song.

I think thats a brilliant choice! The guy from our venue said that for the coming back down the aisle song you want one with impact right from the beginning and that will make everyone leave with a smile on their face. I think this song is absolutely dead on!

We're thinking of having it as our second dance song to kick start the celebrations after the soppy first dance one - but now I've seen this I might well decide to copy you instead... if thats ok xxx

tartantotty

insomniac03 wrote: »

I think thats a brilliant choice! The guy from our venue said that for the coming back down the aisle song you want one with impact right from the beginning and that will make everyone leave with a smile on their face. I think this song is absolutely dead on!

We're thinking of having it as our second dance song to kick start the celebrations after the soppy first dance one - but now I've seen this I might well decide to copy you instead... if thats ok xxx

aw thank you! Thats what we thought too, its the kind of song that you cant help tap your feet too, and will put a smile or everyones face (well except maybe my parents!). And copy away! We will have it at night too, possibly near the start (although our first dance is a fast song - so might keep it for when everyone is flagging a bit, to perk them up!). :rotfl:

tartantotty

Hugs to everyone who is having wedding stress by the way - the best day of lives doesn't half cause some crappy ones on the way hey! :grouphug: (I always feel dodgy putting that emoticon in!!)

MrsBambi

Hey Ladies!! I've been following this thread for a while (after feeling particulalry Bridezilla-ish one day) and have loved reading your rantings and knowing I'm not the only one thinking these things! Felt like I just HAD to post now after reading up recently.

My mums driving my craaazy bless her! Every idea I tell her she does the ole 'yeah I guess that would be nice but I'd do it like this' and then says a totally different idea! AND FH and I decided we want to keep the details of our wedding private so that it would be a nice surprise for everyone, then she goes and tells my brother our favours and shows them the buckets and personalised ribbon, and offered to show my nan my tiara, shoes, and maid of honour dress.... when i wasn't even there!!!

I feel bad cos I know she's just excited about the wedding as she couldn't have the dream wedding when she married my dad. I want her to be excited for me and help me with the details but sometimes I just wanna scream that it's not her wedding and what me and FH want goes!! Regardless of whether it's what she would have done if it was her wedding.

Rant over. Strangely therapeutic posting rants isn't it haha x

White_Sapphire

Ooh, I do love this thread, and you're right Mrs Bambi, it is very therapeutic!!

My confession for this week is that my SIL2B has just got engaged, and will be getting married before we do! I'm absolutely delighted for her and am really looking forward to the wedding, BUT, there is a little spoilt brat in me that is going 'but it's OUR wedding everyone's supposed to be looking forward to *sulks*'! :rotfl:

Plus, I am completely paranoid that any part of her wedding that is in any way similar to mine will a) be better, and b) make everyone think that I've copied her.

Could someone give me a virtual slap and tell me to stop being so silly please?

csh_2

White_Sapphire wrote: »

Ooh, I do love this thread, and you're right Mrs Bambi, it is very therapeutic!!

My confession for this week is that my SIL2B has just got engaged, and will be getting married before we do! I'm absolutely delighted for her and am really looking forward to the wedding, BUT, there is a little spoilt brat in me that is going 'but it's OUR wedding everyone's supposed to be looking forward to *sulks*'! :rotfl:

Plus, I am completely paranoid that any part of her wedding that is in any way similar to mine will a) be better, and b) make everyone think that I've copied her.

Could someone give me a virtual slap and tell me to stop being so silly please?

Nope! Can't! I'd be exactly the same!! Our friends announced their engagement after we did and their wedding is 6 mths after ours. And even although they will be very different, I'm still glad mine is first!! So that I can have everything I want without anyone saying I copied and that mine will be the one to be measured up to lol I am terrible!! About 40% of the guests will be the same at both...

I would have been gutted if anyone got married before us! Although they would have had to go some as we booked and got engaged in July for the following April.