I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

Maddie_S_2

codemonkey wrote: »

Ugh, I have a similar problem. H2b will do something if I give him a list but its making decisions on little things that is doing my head in. I will come up with an idea and he'll shoot it down without offering an alternative. If I ask him for an alternative I'll get a series of ever more stupid answers until I want to scream.

Case in point - music for the ceremony. I liked salut d'amour, he thinks its boring so I asked for an alternative. He suggests fat bottomed girls and I laugh and ask again. He says something else stupid so I ask again. Continue for 5 minutes until I lose my temper with him and leave the room

Are you also marrying my OH?? This is the exact same problem that i have with him! it's driving me mad so my new plan of action is to ask him a question, give him ideas and then a deadline to make a decision by! If he can't decide, then we're going with my idea!

codemonkey

Heh. It's good to know I'm not alone. It's maddening isn't it? Part of me thinks that if he's not interested enough to take his eyes off the tv or computer games for 2 minutes to help plan then he shouldn't get a say. It's his wedding too though so I keep going with asking his opinion. Then every so often there's a flurry of activity where he has an idea and we go along with it.

Uggh. Why do I bother? This is going to be the most rubbish wedding ever.

misscoupon

My bridezilla moment is...
Let's say I suddenly have a brilliant wedding related idea, I share it with my fiance hoping he likes it. He contributes and adds his own suggestions. I'm the one shooting him down in flames because I'm the bride, I know better!

Horrible isn't it?

laurarobby

regarding H2B's mine isnt interested at all. everytime i mention it just says tell me where and when and ill be there! i might not invite any of his family and friends then i can just say i asked and you wasnt interested!! (i wish i could get away with that lol)

codemonkey i dont think urs will be the most rubbish wedding ever as i think that will be mine lol!
since no one wants to do give me extra cheap and nice food or venue!

emsbet

codemonkey wrote: »

Uggh. Why do I bother? This is going to be the most rubbish wedding ever.

laurarobby wrote: »

codemonkey i dont think urs will be the most rubbish wedding ever as i think that will be mine lol!
since no one wants to do give me extra cheap and nice food or venue!

Oh ladies I'm sure both your weddings will be fabulous!

Now I'm going to have another rant!

I wish my BIL2B would show the slightest bit of interest in our wedding! The only interest he has shown is to make a fuss whne he realised he had to share the best man duties with H2B's BF!

My H2B wanted both his brother and BF to be best men. His brother gets nervous quite easily and so H2B thought it would be easier for the friend to do the speach at the reception and his brother could do the ceremony side (rings, witness etc). When he told his brother he got the hump that he hadn't been asked to do the speach (he didn't tell H2B this directly he told his wife who then phone H2B's mother, who phoned H2B! :wall:) We tried to explain why he had decided to split the roles that way but he was still upset. :mad:
We then said that both best men could do a speech, but as it turned out the other best man wasn't that keen on doing a speech so that part worked out ok but not after H2B got all worked up about it!
Anyway you'd think that someone who got so wound up about giving a speech would be really interested in the wedding and what was going on but noooooo not BIL2B! He NEVER asks us anything about the wedding such as how the planning's going or if there is anything he can do.... he's totally disinterested and it doesn't make sense!
He has now said he is not going to the Stag do :eek: and H2B is upset that he won't come but has said he's just going to leave it as he has plenty of other things to be thinking about and so just wants to leave it. I on the otherhand am so cross how he's behaved! It's not what I would expect of either a best man or a brother! :mad: I really want to say something but H2B just wants to drop it so I guess I'll have to just keep my mouth shut! I hate it though because I know it's really bugging my H2B!

Sorry that this was a bit long but I feel sooooo much better now
xx

gandy

today has been a much better day.... so here's my positive bridzillaness

- everyone who i've been waiting to reply for my hen replied so i can go ahead and book the hotel and book the seaweed baths as our day retreat.

- H2B has been great since previous rant and we've organised the date for him, the best man to get the kilts and my dad's suit sorted! Just have to phone to make the appointment tomorrow.

- heading home myself this weekend and there happens to be a bridal fair where one of the florists i'm interested in will be so i can check her out and maybe get a good deal

- wedding invites complete as are the rsvp's so just need to put the info page together and waiting for the envelopes to arrive (breathing better just knowing these are nearly done)

- mum and dad have been great over the fone talking me down from the hyper-mad crazy lady i've become over the last week.

i think a weekend away from the OH might just be a good thing!

and *breathe*

shellsuit

emsbet wrote: »

Oh ladies I'm sure both your weddings will be fabulous!

Now I'm going to have another rant!

I wish my BIL2B would show the slightest bit of interest in our wedding! The only interest he has shown is to make a fuss whne he realised he had to share the best man duties with H2B's BF!

My H2B wanted both his brother and BF to be best men. His brother gets nervous quite easily and so H2B thought it would be easier for the friend to do the speach at the reception and his brother could do the ceremony side (rings, witness etc). When he told his brother he got the hump that he hadn't been asked to do the speach (he didn't tell H2B this directly he told his wife who then phone H2B's mother, who phoned H2B! :wall:) We tried to explain why he had decided to split the roles that way but he was still upset. :mad:
We then said that both best men could do a speech, but as it turned out the other best man wasn't that keen on doing a speech so that part worked out ok but not after H2B got all worked up about it!
Anyway you'd think that someone who got so wound up about giving a speech would be really interested in the wedding and what was going on but noooooo not BIL2B! He NEVER asks us anything about the wedding such as how the planning's going or if there is anything he can do.... he's totally disinterested and it doesn't make sense!
He has now said he is not going to the Stag do :eek: and H2B is upset that he won't come but has said he's just going to leave it as he has plenty of other things to be thinking about and so just wants to leave it. I on the otherhand am so cross how he's behaved! It's not what I would expect of either a best man or a brother! :mad: I really want to say something but H2B just wants to drop it so I guess I'll have to just keep my mouth shut! I hate it though because I know it's really bugging my H2B!

Sorry that this was a bit long but I feel sooooo much better now
xx

My husbands brother was his best man.

Men don't tend to get excited at all about weddings so that's probably why he's not asking about it when he sees you. That's not unusual at all, some grooms don't even get excited! (until the day)

My husbands brother/best man didn't go on my husbands stag do, because he was at Uni and although he could have got the time off, he was too skint to get here and back. We understood completely and it didn't bother us at all.

Why did he say he couldn't go to the stag do?

sammy_wheeler

men lol!

well i got a free sample invite in the post and it had about gift list and a poem about money. hubby2be said he doesnt want to ask for gifts or money.
which is fine, but he could have said months ago lol!

celyn90

...another confession....

I was so wrapped up in the wedding stuff, I forgot it is OH's birthday on Monday :eek:

I only realised as I went to get a parcel from the sorting office and had his passport as ID :rotfl: cel x

emsbet

shellsuit wrote: »

My husbands brother was his best man.

Men don't tend to get excited at all about weddings so that's probably why he's not asking about it when he sees you. That's not unusual at all, some grooms don't even get excited! (until the day)

My husbands brother/best man didn't go on my husbands stag do, because he was at Uni and although he could have got the time off, he was too skint to get here and back. We understood completely and it didn't bother us at all.

Why did he say he couldn't go to the stag do?

He hasn't really given a good reason and I think it's clear he's still sulking even though he's got to do all the things he wanted to do originally! I'm just going to have to bite my tongue I think.

celyn90 wrote: »

...another confession....

I was so wrapped up in the wedding stuff, I forgot it is OH's birthday on Monday :eek:

I only realised as I went to get a parcel from the sorting office and had his passport as ID :rotfl: cel x

:rotfl:I have done similar and forgotten it's my mum's birthday this month and I've kinda already allocated all my money elsewhere! Hmmmmm do they still make good stuff on Blue Peter? Perhaps I could get some ideas of something I could make her .....:rotfl:

xx