I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

sammy_wheeler

is the definition of bridezilla completly irrational?
im suffering it a lot recentaly!
we got engaged in feb 2010 and set the date on 1st july.
a couple of months later one of oh's sister got engaged and they set a date of 21st oct 2011- so 3 months after us.
then my best friend (also cbm) got engaged and they booked theres last week- aug/sept 2011- in cyprus- we are going
then this weekend one of ohs brothers decided they wanted to get married- they have been together 17years- and are going to set a date 2moz for either march/april 2012
then the wife to be of the marriage next year (oh's bros fiance) just told me that my ohs other brother is about to propse- they have been 2gether 2 years and none of us have ever met her.all i keep thinking is that it better not be this year- make it next year- and if its before my wedding i will kill ya

ahh!

Silaqui

Magicboo wrote: »

If it's any comfort...I'll guarantee people on this board will be happy for you...

:j:TCONGRATULATIONS:T:j

x

shellsuit wrote: »

If they're anything like my inlaws, you'd better get used to it!

We were never congratulated on our engagement and on our wedding day they didn't say congratulations/you look nice/so proud of you son (to my husband) or anything like that ~ fekkers! :mad:

Mind you, these are people who have one darling, beautiful grandson and don't bother with him.

Their loss!



P.S. Congratulations on your engagement!!! x

Lol thanks both! I just find it really rude of them you know?! Luckily (that sounds so awful) we live at least an hour from them all. OH tried to spend time with them and visits all the time, but I feel for him a bit because he does all the running, they've never once made any effort for him.

We invited his dad down to visit so that my parents could meet him, and he told us he didn't want to spend the money on petrol so I said that we could all go up to somewhere near them if it was easier, and he made the excuse that he didnt want to go out anywhere because he didn't have the money - no invite to his hose or anything to make things cheaper. This from a bloke who is not badly off at all. He even told my OH he didn't know if he would be able to get time off for the wedding because of booking his holidays. Come on FGS we told him two years in advance and what company wouldn't allow time off for your sons wedding if yo asked 2 years in advance! :rotfl: Pathetic!!

Anyway, sorry this has turned into a rant about the in laws thread, sorry!

gandy

okay a few things driving me mad at the minute

OH just put off going home to see the priest for another weekend to watch sodding footy and go out with his friends.... it's the second time he's done it and i was trying to wait to go home and look at some florists (it's 3 months till the wedding it should have been done probably well before now!!!) and see the priest at the same time so i wouldn't have to trapse up and down the road a few weeks in a row but now it looks like i'm going to have to go home again this weekend by myself again and then drag him down another weekend this month!!!

he's also faffing about going to get measured for his kilts, he just doesn't seem to get that all this can't be done last minute.

my sister is also being the most useless bridesmaid ever, i know she has a son and also works but i would like at least some help in organising my hen rather than having to do everything myself... really is that so much to ask?

aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, i just think it's finally got to me that the wedding is only 3 months away and i still feel like i have so much to do and it's only me that's trying to get it organised, or maybe it's just cause i'm overly hormonal at the moment and every little thing just gets to me.

OH really has been great helping me on most things but the stuff that i've asked him to get sorted himself he just seems to faff about with. he organised his bloomin stag fine enough he just can't seem to be arsed with everything else at the moment!

!!!!!! better get back to work, although i just want to find a quiet corner and cry at the moment

emsbet

gandy wrote: »

okay a few things driving me mad at the minute

OH just put off going home to see the priest for another weekend to watch sodding footy and go out with his friends.... it's the second time he's done it and i was trying to wait to go home and look at some florists (it's 3 months till the wedding it should have been done probably well before now!!!) and see the priest at the same time so i wouldn't have to trapse up and down the road a few weeks in a row but now it looks like i'm going to have to go home again this weekend by myself again and then drag him down another weekend this month!!!

he's also faffing about going to get measured for his kilts, he just doesn't seem to get that all this can't be done last minute.

my sister is also being the most useless bridesmaid ever, i know she has a son and also works but i would like at least some help in organising my hen rather than having to do everything myself... really is that so much to ask?

aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, i just think it's finally got to me that the wedding is only 3 months away and i still feel like i have so much to do and it's only me that's trying to get it organised, or maybe it's just cause i'm overly hormonal at the moment and every little thing just gets to me.

OH really has been great helping me on most things but the stuff that i've asked him to get sorted himself he just seems to faff about with. he organised his bloomin stag fine enough he just can't seem to be arsed with everything else at the moment!

!!!!!! better get back to work, although i just want to find a quiet corner and cry at the moment

Aww big hugs!
I think it might be a guy thing! My H2B is soooo laid back and I had to bug him almost daily to even ask his best man to be his best man let alone get the suits organised! :cool: Like yours he had however managed to organise, book and get money off everyone for the Stag do!
Luckily he has sorted both now and I can stop nagging :rotfl:

Maybe find out when the other guys (best man, ushers etc) can get measured and prompt him by saying everyone else can do this day why do you do it then?

I've also found that constantly telling him to do stuff doesn't work and it's better to make him think he came up with the idea himself :rotfl:

Hope you get it sorted soon.

xx

Magicboo

I think it is a man thing-my H2b still hasn't finalised who who wants to come to the wedding, which has been driving me mad, as our wedding is in 3 months time so I have now decided to let him get on with whatever he wants to do and am today sending out all the invites to my friends & family and he can do his as and when he wants to-so there!!

Birdie85

Another one here with a useless groom! We fly in 10 days and even though I've been telling him since Christmas that he has to get his groom and usher presents and that I'm not doing it because I'll get the wrong thing, he's only just realised this week that he hasn't got them and is panicking! Now he has his heart set on getting some silly drinking jar thing that we can only get from America so it'll never arrive in time and it's my fault of course! :wall:

Oh and since there are a lot of us on the same flight I've organised a taxi to take 7 of us to the airport and it's picking us up at 5am to get to the airport for 6.30. OH didn't say thanks or anything nice, just said, 'Why so early? The gate closes at 8.45 so we don't need to be there long before then. For Gods sake, you should have booked it for 7am!!!'... :wall: If he wants to risk getting stuck in traffic and sitting in the hold because he got there too late to choose a decent seat he can leave at 7 and make his own way, but I'm going to get there nice and early with the rest of the family so I can relax without panicking about running late!

csh_2

Silaqui wrote: »

We invited his dad down to visit so that my parents could meet him, and he told us he didn't want to spend the money on petrol so I said that we could all go up to somewhere near them if it was easier, and he made the excuse that he didnt want to go out anywhere because he didn't have the money - no invite to his hose or anything to make things cheaper. This from a bloke who is not badly off at all. He even told my OH he didn't know if he would be able to get time off for the wedding because of booking his holidays. Come on FGS we told him two years in advance and what company wouldn't allow time off for your sons wedding if yo asked 2 years in advance! :rotfl: Pathetic!!

Is he always like this or just for the wedding? Sounds a bit 'social anxiety' ish, not that men ever admit to these things!!



Re Grooms and their 'organisation' I think my H2B finally realised last night that we don't have much time left to sort things out! I bullied him into ordering the best man gift and as he was typing in the engraving with the date 22/04.......he suddenly went !!!!!!! Its the 2nd month already and we're the fourth month. Eh, duh! Thats what I've been saying :rotfl:

Hes not finalised the Stag Do plans although I think hes doing that this week. I've wrote him a To Do list so I'm not constantly saying 'remember XYZ needs done...'
Hes got the kilt fitting this Sat and hes done his BM gift so 2 things ticked already!

emsbet

csh wrote: »

I've wrote him a To Do list so I'm not constantly saying 'remember XYZ needs done...'

I got bored of H2B not getting on top of things that I have just done the vast majority myself. Then yesterday he was asking about something and I said that I had alreadty ticked it off my "to do list" and he said - "oh I haven't even seen this list. How do I know what needs doing?!" - you mean except for the fact that I have been telling you! So yesterday afternoon I typed him up his own copy of the list and told him to add to it if needs be and he can also tick stuff off and can't say he doesn't know what we have left to do!

xx

codemonkey

Ugh, I have a similar problem. H2b will do something if I give him a list but its making decisions on little things that is doing my head in. I will come up with an idea and he'll shoot it down without offering an alternative. If I ask him for an alternative I'll get a series of ever more stupid answers until I want to scream.

Case in point - music for the ceremony. I liked salut d'amour, he thinks its boring so I asked for an alternative. He suggests fat bottomed girls and I laugh and ask again. He says something else stupid so I ask again. Continue for 5 minutes until I lose my temper with him and leave the room

pokey128

I love this thread! I'm about to rant so be warned!
We are getting married in 3 weeks!
Still to be done by oh:
Find something to wear for him and our 2 sons (aged 2 and 11 months)! I'm trying not to strss about this cause they can just hire kilts but I can't sort flowers til they chose tartan (bridesmaids are in black)
Chase up his families rsvps and find out what food they want

Actually, I can only think of those 2 things at the moment but I'm sure theres more!!!

In laws also causing problems, his sister is wearing a White dress she's told oh! I'm wearing ivory so I didn't think it would matter wad his response!

I think I am stressing about how much there is to do and how little time and am def turning into super bridezilla!