I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

twirlypinky

One of my friends got engaged a couple of years ago and is getting married later this year, we got engaged in august and are getting married in June. Our wedding is abroad and we're not having a big party and hers is in a hotel in the UK with all the standard stuff that comes with that, so really not anything at all alike. However, i think you two have just hit the nail on the head as to why she's been a bit funny with me lately.

clearing_out_my_pockets

Bridezilla story that isn't mine - I was the cause of the rant.

One of my cousins hasn't RSVPed to our wedding yet and on speaking to his sister it would seem that his OH is royally !!!!!! off with me that we have stolen 'their' date. Apparently they were discussing it over christmas and had decided to get married this year. On 28th May. And then a few days later his parents and sister mentioned to him that they'd received our save the date magnets. For 28th May. Apparently cousin's OH threw a massive strop and tried to see if they could sneak their wedding in beforehand, to no avail. Apparently they couldn't afford to get married in the May, let alone beforehand! My cousin removed me from facebook in December, but I only found out I'd 'stolen' their date a couple of weeks ago from my other cousin (his sister) who thinks it's all quite funny.

To put this into perspective, we've been engaged since 2008. Almost as soon as family started asking when we were getting married I plucked May 2011 from the air and we've stuck to it. The venue has been booked since 2009. I wouldn't have minded if they'd got married before me because I barely speak to my cousin anyway. Everyone in the family knows that our wedding's been planned for ages so there would be no suggestion that we'd copied anything.

Coincidentally, my cousin's OH is apparently from the same town as me and wants to get married down here rather than in London :rotfl:

becca0417

That is ridiculous of your cousins OH, you have been planning this for ages!

MissPixie

Bridezilla moment came when I realised not a single person from mine or OH family want to do a speech! Fair enough his side are quite quiet and shy but it's his wedding day and my side just out right refused. My parents aren't involved in the wedding and I don't want any of them to do it anyway given they know nothing about who we really are and so I asked my grandma who I have lived with all my life and we live with her atm and she said no she doesn't want to because she doesn't have anything worth saying. Wow to make us feel cared about! Grr

losingpatience

Kind of had a bit of a bridezilla moment yesterday. My sister ( chief bridesmaid ) and I have been dieting and exercising since just after Christmas and I've done well so far, lost 11lbs to date, but when I ordered the bridesmaid dresses sis decided she wanted a size 10 dress ( she was a 12 at the time ). I had ordered my wedding dress in a size 10 so though oh that'll mean we've both got the same target to work to for the wedding. Well when she tried it on it fit her, and not only that was too big! So off we went to Debehams yesterday for her to try the size 8 on and that's the size she's going for and I couldn't help but feel envious that she's 2 sizes smaller than me now. I even tried to squeeze myself into the 10 but it just was no where near. So I'm now miserable because for the first time in our lives my sister is skinnier than me!

How selfish do I sound

Bride2be24

my h2b cousin who i cant stand, we have never really got on and whenever we are out together and see her she completely ignores me and only speak to h2b. She spoke to h2bs dad the other day in town and said she was disappionted to not get an invite to the wedding and what was the reason for it. she his dad txt and asked why she wasnt invited or had we just forgotten to invite her. Me and h2b have spoken and i have simply told him i do not want her there at all because she is ignorent and i dont like her and that she will spoil my day. He said its fine as its my day aswel as his and he wants me to be happy. Am i being a b i t c h????
Now the problem is that h2b txt his dad back and said he will ring him today to explain why she hasnt been invited. What can we say as we are really struggling to come up with an excuse, after all its his cousin not just some friend. any ideas would be much appreciated thank you x

twirlypinky

Well I'm !!!!ed off that our rsvp deadline was 28th Feb - today - of the 35 invites we sent out we've had about 6 replies.

Luckily the folk that are coming have told us they've booked flights and stuff, but really, how hard is it to just send us a card to say you're not coming??

Bride2be24

twirlypinky wrote: »

Well I'm !!!!ed off that our rsvp deadline was 28th Feb - today - of the 35 invites we sent out we've had about 6 replies.

Luckily the folk that are coming have told us they've booked flights and stuff, but really, how hard is it to just send us a card to say you're not coming??

I kinda know how you feel. I am still chasing some for ours which had a deadline of 1st Feb. Invites was given out end of Nov,beginning of Dec so had plenty of time to reply. Its so bloody annoying!!!!

Brucie_Bonus_4

Bride2be24 wrote: »

my h2b cousin who i cant stand, we have never really got on and whenever we are out together and see her she completely ignores me and only speak to h2b. She spoke to h2bs dad the other day in town and said she was disappionted to not get an invite to the wedding and what was the reason for it. she his dad txt and asked why she wasnt invited or had we just forgotten to invite her. Me and h2b have spoken and i have simply told him i do not want her there at all because she is ignorent and i dont like her and that she will spoil my day. He said its fine as its my day aswel as his and he wants me to be happy. Am i being a b i t c h????
Now the problem is that h2b txt his dad back and said he will ring him today to explain why she hasnt been invited. What can we say as we are really struggling to come up with an excuse, after all its his cousin not just some friend. any ideas would be much appreciated thank you x

Hi There

No, i dont think you are being a b***h at all. Its so annoying how people think they have a right to be invited, especially as she is not nice to you. If her coming would spoil your day then i'd say defo don't invite her, its your day and you should only have the people there who you want to share your day with you.

As for what to say to h2b dad then if it was me i would just be honest, and say that she is ignorant towards you and you are not friends so to not have any tension on the day then she is not invited, but she is more than welcome to come to the party. But maybe it would be best for h2b to explain to her? so there can be no chinese whispers and it wont get blown out of proportion?

bx

gandy

Bride2be24 wrote: »

I kinda know how you feel. I am still chasing some for ours which had a deadline of 1st Feb. Invites was given out end of Nov,beginning of Dec so had plenty of time to reply. Its so bloody annoying!!!!

lol i'm in that place at the moment where i'm wanting to tell people to hurry up and reply... now i still have till the 14th of March till my deadline for rsvp's is up but we made it really easy for them by

- putting in an rsvp card and envelope in with the invitation (all they need to do is fill it in and put a sodding stamp on it)
- we've given them an rsvp email address to send back to if a stamp is too difficult to deal with and they have email
- and we've got rsvp part to our wedding website which we gave them all the details to if they're really internet savy

HOW HARD IS IT TO SODDING REPLY AGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

i know i'm going to be forced to start hitting people with sticks to get replies and it will mainly be my aunts and uncles i bet you!!!! :mad: