I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

cats2012

ska_lover wrote: »

Say the best man does bring a female friend (or if he gets a girlfriend by then) with him, will you be seating them together at your top table? - as you can't really split up a couple up at a wedding, but then again, you wouldn't want a stranger up at top table. OMG i would be fuming.

You absolutely can split up a couple - best man/bridesmaids go on the top table and I'd never expect partner's to sit with them up there. My husband was best man and I didn't know anyone except the bride and groom and I just sat with some of their friends, didn't expect otherwise. It's only eating for a couple of hours and I made some new friends we did the same at our wedding.

nuatha

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Thanks

All the best for Saturday (is that right?!), and I hope your last few days are as stress free as possible! Ours is on Monday! :eek:

We're Friday, really looking forward to Saturday at the moment.
I've one section of the wedding cake to finish, then a mountain of food to prepare - whoever said don't cater your own wedding was right (and wrong, I'll enjoy it, its just all the other requests for my time)

Enjoy Monday, between now and then ignore anybody and everything that you don't consider important.

Georgiegirl256

nuatha wrote: »

We're Friday, really looking forward to Saturday at the moment.
I've one section of the wedding cake to finish, then a mountain of food to prepare - whoever said don't cater your own wedding was right (and wrong, I'll enjoy it, its just all the other requests for my time)

Enjoy Monday, between now and then ignore anybody and everything that you don't consider important.

Thanks Same to you too!

That's very impressive catering for your own wedding! Is that your profession anyhow, or do you just enjoy cooking?

Pinzy

I'd agree that it's fine to split up couples. My OH was sat on top table as best man and I was sat with a bunch of strangers, but it was only for a couple of hours. I would've thought any partners of top table folk would be expecting to be sat elsewhere (mind you - common sense is not generic!). 3 of our top tablers have partners who will be sat elsewhere.

Is there a word for family members going bridezilla? Famzillas?

I may have had an eensy apoplectic fit when I got an email from my dad saying he'd had a chat with a cake lady and they thought they'd just do the whole thing instead of just the part I wanted. But had a chat with cake lady (who is fantastic) and in the end thought yeah, cool, one less thing for me!

Pinzy

Confession or sensible? It's very important to me to see professionalism when dealing with suppliers! We've had wedding photographers turn up with just an iPhone to view pictures on, or no pics at all, however the trophy has to go to gospel singing groups.

We thought it'd be nice to have, so made some enquiries - one doesn't want to give us a total cost until we've paid a three figure deposit, the other answered my query with one line "Please tell me the venue location" - no "Hi/thanks for your enquiry/regards", another sent back a standard email with a list of details required, all of which were in my enquiry email bar the number of expected guests! (I don't know why the number of guests makes a difference - I guess with lots they'd recommend more singers)

/rant

Georgiegirl256

The first ones I'd be telling them that with that attitude, they'll be lucky to get any business at all! I mean how can you sign up without knowing a price? They could turn round and say, "right, the total price is £9000" or one thing stupid like that!

The second one, I suppose at least they said please, but still, I know what you mean, manners cost nothing, and people should be doing everything they can to get business in this day and age.

nuatha

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Thanks Same to you too!

That's very impressive catering for your own wedding! Is that your profession anyhow, or do you just enjoy cooking?

I enjoy cooking, but there's too many different dietary requirements for most caterers, we have vegan, lacto veggie, veggie and omnivores, and gluten, nut, caffeine, allium and alcohol allergies and some religious dietary stuff as well. This way our guests get food they can eat and we save an arm and a leg

ska_lover

Wow I really didn't know it was acceptable to split up a couple (as in sit one at top table if they are the wedding party, and sit their partner with the other guests) - I really didn't know. I've not been to many weddings so didn't realise this! I was a bridesmaid last year and wasn't sat at the top table, i (same as the other bridesmaids) were sat with our partners, which to be fair,is where I would rather have been, in all honesty, although there is no way I would have said this, or tried to influence the bride if she had decided differently. I love Pinzys take on Famzilla.

It really is one of the craziest times of your life, planning your wedding

my_definition

ska_lover wrote: »

Gosh I don't think thats Bridezilla at all, all that would wind me up on a normal day.

Say the best man does bring a female friend (or if he gets a girlfriend by then) with him, will you be seating them together at your top table? - as you can't really split up a couple up at a wedding, but then again, you wouldn't want a stranger up at top table. OMG i would be fuming.

And your friends booking a holiday deliberately for the day before your wedding, TBH if it was me, I would be wondering exactly what kind of message they were trying to send, as that is a bit of a 'F you' to you and your OH isnt it

Didnt expect the answers so thanks guys for not making me feel like im being unreasonable. OH attitude was atleast i know her and he will need to get a plus one now. I think i would need to split them (didnt realise it was ok) but i would hate going to a wedding where the only person i knows at the other side of the room. There is no way im putting her at top table i dont even think my OH has met her. I just hate the assumption.

The plan had been if i dont know them they arent coming

To be fair friends that booked their holiday the day before our wedding apparently didnt realise and though our wedding was earlier ( im a teacher and its the first weekend of the holiday so it couldnt really have been earlier) but i was quite annoyed given that they had a save the date and only got it like 2 weeks before they booked.

purrrrrfect44

I recently went to a wedding where my Fiance was the 'brother of the bride' (taking the place of her father who didn't want a big role). So he was sat on the top table and I was sat on another table, which to be honest was fine. It's her wedding and she should have who she wants sat there (as will I at my wedding)...but just try to sit the +1 with people they may already know or certainly get along with to ensure they are comfortable during the meal.
Even though I wasn't sat with my fiance I was perfectly fine and it was the one day even if I wasn't OK with it, I would keep my mouth shut as its the couples special day.