I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

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We resolved all this by having a table for two - just Bride & Groom, immediate family seated nearby (but their choice of who sat where) and then everyone else for themselves - but it was a pretty informal kinda do!

PolishBigSpender

cats2012 wrote: »

You absolutely can split up a couple - best man/bridesmaids go on the top table and I'd never expect partner's to sit with them up there. My husband was best man and I didn't know anyone except the bride and groom and I just sat with some of their friends, didn't expect otherwise. It's only eating for a couple of hours and I made some new friends we did the same at our wedding.

First of all, it's rather rude to invite an adult without a plus one.
Secondly, it's really inconsiderate to split couples. Is your perfect "top table" going to fall apart if your best man's wife sits there as well? We had two witnesses (my best friend and my husband's best friend). My witness came with her husband, my husband's alone. We sat at the top table - us, my friend & her husband, my husband's friend and their other good friend, so that she didn't feel lonely.
The rest of the guests could sit wherever they felt like.
We wanted our guests to enjoy themselves, not to be just a decoration on our wedding day.

PolishBigSpender

ska_lover wrote: »

Wow I really didn't know it was acceptable to split up a couple (as in sit one at top table if they are the wedding party, and sit their partner with the other guests) - I really didn't know.

Because it isn't. It's incredibly rude.

ska_lover

joolzred wrote: »

We resolved all this by having a table for two - just Bride & Groom, immediate family seated nearby (but their choice of who sat where) and then everyone else for themselves - but it was a pretty informal kinda do!

I quite like this idea, am going to talk to OH and see what he thinks x

Georgiegirl256

74jax wrote: »

We had free seating, solved a lot of problems :-)

That's a really good idea!

Turtle

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

Because it isn't. It's incredibly rude.

Not in the UK it's not. Some people might not like it but it's a by product of a traditional top table.

It's also not unacceptable to invite an adult without a plus one. Apologies if I've misinderstood your user name and signature but this might be the case in Poland, it's not in the UK.

PolishBigSpender

Turtle wrote: »

Not in the UK it's not. Some people might not like it but it's a by product of a traditional top table.

It's also not unacceptable to invite an adult without a plus one. Apologies if I've misinderstood your user name and signature but this might be the case in Poland, it's not in the UK.

It's just as inconsiderate in both countries, some posters above confirmed it, as well as my own husband, who is Scottish.

With plus ones, we gave our guests options. The ones who wanted to bring someone were very welcome to it. I wouldn't dream of judging whether my guest's relationship was long-term or stable enough.

CKhalvashi

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

It's just as inconsiderate in both countries, some posters above confirmed it, as well as my own husband, who is Scottish.

With plus ones, we gave our guests options. The ones who wanted to bring someone were very welcome to it. I wouldn't dream of judging whether my guest's relationship was long-term or stable enough.

It's not inconsiderate from what I've seen in the UK, nor is it in my native Georgia.

CK

trinity_enigma

ska_lover wrote: »

I don't just think its a cultural thing Turtle!!!

I am a born and bred English woman, and would consider it poor form to split a couple up on my wedding day. To expect my wedding party to sit apart from their own partners and children for an entire day is not the makings of an enjoyable day for a wedding party

An enjoyable day? You're asking them to sit apart for probably a max of two hours not the entire day! Tbh in our life if someone is close enough to us that we've asked them to be in our wedding party then their partner will likely be part of our social group and will know others. Also our friends tend to be independent enough of their partners to spend a little time apart.

Any who none of this ended up applying to us as we did away with the top table- I couldn't find a way of not having my dads girlfriend on it without them both throwing a huge strop so it was easier not to hard it!

Pinzy

Ordered my wedding jewellery for my wedding in 2.5 weeks, lady said jewellery will take 2 weeks to arrive - I didn't go Bridezilla, but I think the lady must have seen a little crazy in my eyes because she really reassured me that she'd let me know early if there were any isssues!