I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

rachel90

I want to be Bridezilla but I can't plan/book anything yet as we still live with our parents and we need to move out first. We have been engaged 3 years. I want to book everything and make cake decorations etc!!

justme1985

I'm trying very hard not to be a bridezilla!

Although I wanted to tell my sisters to !!!! off when they started telling what I should/shouldn't have I resisted doing so. One of them is being very pushy about my dress....but that's up to me to choose, I don't want a big pouffy one!

Me and my OH want it to be fairly low key, don't really want bridesmaids/page boys etc. but my mum is pushing for our nieces and nephews to be them.

I've told my dad he has to get a new suit, and I am going to help pick it...and he has to keep his tie on until after the meal. He hates formal clothing but hey it's only one day right. Oh and he has to be nice all day (his a grumpy old git!) hmm seems he is getting the brunt of all my bridezillaness

MrsC....tobe

Just me, we'll done on keeping it all in, but just be careful you don't blow your stack one day! You maybe need to sit down with them and explain what you do and don't want for the day. As for your sisters, keep them in the dark about the dress and take a friend shopping with you!
Family always think they've got a right to get involved in wedding planning and what should and shouldn't happen, that's another reason we changed all our plans as I felt I was being pushed into having bridesmaids and flower girls etc etc that I didn't even want. And that's just the beginning!

eleanora_

OH and I have made our own table plan, printed on good, heavyweight paper, and mounted on mounting board in one of our theme colours. To complement this, we decided that we would make our own table numbers using tall cards, and would paint the numbers on in the same colour, to give us something sweet and personalised that we had done ourselves. FWIW, OH has a Masters in Fine Art so isn't exactly inexperienced with a paintbrush

In the meantime, my sister went on Ebay and ordered a bunch of pre-printed table numbers and card holders without telling me beforehand, because she decided that our idea would look "horrendous" and that pre-printed, bog-standard ones would be "nicer" and "neater". I *may* have flipped out a bit over this... there was some shouting... basically I put my foot down. This is our wedding, and we want to have things that we like. When she comes to plan her own wedding, she can do whatever she wants, but for now, she can butt the hell out of messing with my arrangements! (To clarify, I never asked her to help me with table planning or stationery on any level, she just decided to stick her nose in!)

Also, my mother keeps moaning about the table plan because a lot of our family friends (i.e. her friends) are sitting together - she thinks that this is a bad idea because in her opinion, I've put all the "interesting" people in one place and I should have spaced them out. Translation = "people that I know are interesting, and everyone else must be boring". !!!!!!??


...Sigh. Less than two weeks to go, and then I can relax!

my_definition

My weddings a year away so we have got a long way to go but one of the two best men (really do we need 2) has already invited someone as his backup plus one. He wasnt getting one as he doesnt have a girlfriend and will be sitting at the top table. OH agreed so where exactly am i supposed to put a stranger at my wedding and why should i be paying for her to have a 50 quid meal?

And our only couple friend have just booked their holiday next year for the day before our wedding even though i just gave them a save the date.

ska_lover

my_definition wrote: »

My weddings a year away so we have got a long way to go but one of the two best men (really do we need 2) has already invited someone as his backup plus one. He wasnt getting one as he doesnt have a girlfriend and will be sitting at the top table. OH agreed so where exactly am i supposed to put a stranger at my wedding and why should i be paying for her to have a 50 quid meal?

And our only couple friend have just booked their holiday next year for the day before our wedding even though i just gave them a save the date.

Gosh I don't think thats Bridezilla at all, all that would wind me up on a normal day.

Say the best man does bring a female friend (or if he gets a girlfriend by then) with him, will you be seating them together at your top table? - as you can't really split up a couple up at a wedding, but then again, you wouldn't want a stranger up at top table. OMG i would be fuming.

And your friends booking a holiday deliberately for the day before your wedding, TBH if it was me, I would be wondering exactly what kind of message they were trying to send, as that is a bit of a 'F you' to you and your OH isnt it

Pinzy

If she's been invited as a "backup" plus one, she already knows she may not go.
I've got a friend who had a bit of a strop when I said she couldn't bring a plus one, initially I said it was due to cost and she said well she'd pay. Another day I explained that we only want people at our wedding who know us and love us and we love them, and she was cool with that. Perhaps explain to him that it's your Wedding, it's a very personal day so why would you want people there that you hardly know? Would be an idea to get the OH to do it in 'bloke-speak' too!

Georgiegirl256

I am [STRIKE]not[/STRIKE] a Bridezilla, and my confession is that I am !!!!ed off that everyone else seems to be more of a Bridezilla than I am! This is OUR wedding and we'll do it our way!

nuatha

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I am [STRIKE]not[/STRIKE] a Bridezilla, and my confession is that I am !!!!ed off that everyone else seems to be more of a Bridezilla than I am! This is OUR wedding and we'll do it our way!

You have my sympathies, everyone else seems to be far more stressed about our wedding than we are. The time to make suggestions or demands on our time is not 4 days to go.

Georgiegirl256

nuatha wrote: »

You have my sympathies, everyone else seems to be far more stressed about our wedding than we are. The time to make suggestions or demands on our time is not 4 days to go.

Thanks

All the best for Saturday (is that right?!), and I hope your last few days are as stress free as possible! Ours is on Monday! :eek: