I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

BugglyB

Well I think you guys are saints for even agreeing to this 'best woman' nonsense in the first place. Surely YOU are his best woman!!!! And if it must be a best woman she should damn well ask you what you want her to wear, and wear it gratefully, and shapelessly, if she is that great! I am outraged on your behalves! Hmph!

cathy_j87

BugglyB wrote: »

Well I think you guys are saints for even agreeing to this 'best woman' nonsense in the first place. Surely YOU are his best woman!!!! And if it must be a best woman she should damn well ask you what you want her to wear, and wear it gratefully, and shapelessly, if she is that great! I am outraged on your behalves! Hmph!

BugglyB you are my new best friend!! :beer: I give a little shudder everytime I have to call her the Best-woman because yup, that should be me! OH doesn't really meet up with his friends very often and she would be his "closest" friend so he didn't even consider anyone else! His mum however went ahead and told his brother he would be best man.....thanks for that MIL2B! Would have been so much easier!
If you asked any of my friends they'll agree she has been the root of most of my bridezilla moments (I think she's too pretty and "cool" but they have reassured me that she tries too hard and has a stupid pout hehe)

bubbles0169

you know your bridezilla when the film name godzilla doesnt sound right

emz118

I'm not sure if these are bridezilla or not, but here goes:

My MOH clearly doesn't give a cr*p about my wedding or my hen do... she's driving me mad. The latest in a long line of "can't be bothered's" is my hen do. I specifically organised it on a weekend she's off work (she works shifts) so she could come, then changed it to a cheaper option when her car was hit, meaning she had to use her hen do savings to get it fixed, now she can't come out in the daytime, and she's going to just come to the meal, not come out drinking because she's got to go out with her family for her late birthday celebrations because she's booked a holiday with her new boyfriend on her actual birthday. Now, this may sound silly to some people, but I am really hurt. TBH I'm not sure I want her to be involved. OH keeps saying "Sack her" and I am getting really close now. Grrrrr!!!

Table planning... all going fine until my Mum has a total hissy fit (honestly reacted like a three year old!!!) about sitting at the top table (other end from my Dad who she is divorced from) and not next to my Stepdad. I mean for goodness sake, are you a child??? Argh!!! Now the whole table plan is messed up because I can't fit the right number of people around the tables. They're rectangular, and no-one has their back to us, but I think she will, partly to prove a point, partly because there's nowhere else for her to sit! It's that or sit her with the random's table, or my stepmum's family.

Argh!!!

I feel better for that rant, and I won't be offended if noone even reads it!!!

double_mummy

hugs for emz

you seem to me to be being perfectly reasonable, if you are having a childs table sit your mum there

and your MOH seems useless, if she is not willing to make some effort for you as a friend why should she expect to be treated like one?

sugarwalsh

Emmy Lou, i wouldn't worry. My oh finally decided on a 'sort of best man' 2 weeks ago and we get married in 5 weeks. For those of you with 'best women' tread carefully, i think it pays to be nice to women who are close to your oh. You may want their support and they may understand your oh as much as you if they have been friends a long time. She could well be a valued friend in years to come.
Megan

Gemmzie

I've refused to have parents on the top table due to family issues. It's me and OH, MOH & two bridesmaids, best man & two ushers. Haven't thought past there yet.

Emz, your MOH is supposed to be supporting you and that includes the hen do, not making it more difficult! Mine is nearly 300 miles away but is still organising booking tables for food, club passes etc. Maybe she needs to think about whether she is able to do the role. If she's letting you down now, will she be there on the day? From what friends have said, you'll need her a lot on the day!

trinity_enigma

We aren't even having a top table it was just too tricky. OHs mum is the one who has even most helpful and supportive and we would have to sit her either with her ex husband or with my dad and his vile girlfriend and I didn't really want to sit next to vile girlfriend either. Problem solved by having the parents host their own tables and we sit on a normal round table with best man and bridesmaids.

duchy

I do love this thread -I was married twice -the first time we had more MIL-zilla moments than anything else-the second time I decided I was not going to put myself through the stress-and booked the wedding and had it (including sit-down meal for fifty) six weeks later. A year or more of planning would have left me in a padded cell or eloping I think-I don't know how you girls handle it so well !

(Even with a six week timeframe we had MIL and her ex-husband refusing to both sit at the top table as she wanted her new partner sitting there too-and my cousin throwing a fit that no kids meant his daughter too -however with no time for long drawn out dramas they all settled quickly -MIL *chose* not to sit at the top table (her choice) and when cousin's hissy fit threw in the "If my daughter can't come I'm not coming -my lovely Mum (who couldn't stand him but had always been really good to him and made allowances) jumped in with a sympathetic "Well I'm sorry to hear that but we respect your decision -and we're sorry you won't be there".....and quickly said goodbye -as he was "Yes butt-ing" and trying to backtrack As she said it was OUR day and ultimately what we as the bride and groom wanted was the priority -pity some of the MoH and BMs I read about on here can't understand that.

74jax

duchy wrote: »

when cousin's hissy fit threw in the "If my daughter can't come I'm not coming -my lovely Mum (who couldn't stand him but had always been really good to him and made allowances) jumped in with a sympathetic "Well I'm sorry to hear that but we respect your decision -and we're sorry you won't be there".....and quickly said goodbye -as he was "Yes butt-ing" and trying to backtrack

:j:T yey to your mum :j:T