I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

sugarwalsh

Bride to be - nothing bridezillaish about that, I think it's perfectly normal!
MEgan

emz118

Becca that is definitely out of order!
I had a similar issue with H2Bs sister, but it's all sorted itself out.
As above, I would politely explain (asap) that you are only inviting named guests due to numbers. Maybe if it's someone in particular they could be invited to the evening reception?

My bridesmaid has just got a new man (literally just before Christmas) and I didn't invite him, so after I sent her invitation and she text to say she'd received it, I explained that I hadn't invited him because it's early days and because he may be bored waiting around for her, not able to sit with her etc, as well as keeping numbers down, but he is more than welcome to come to the service at church or the evening do, or both.

AutumnBride85

What is it about people wanting to bring +1's and extra guests? Ive had this twice now, and one I felt I had to back down to (bridesmaids new boyf).
Apparently my aunt had a mard on cos my cousins new boyfriend (who I didnt even know existed) wasn't included on the save the date card I sent out. I had to explain that I hadnt left him off out of spite, that I didnt know she had a new fella an most of all- I have to stick to a set number of people due to space and budget issues.

Last time I visited my gran she was under the impression I was inviting a load of distant relatives from her side from all over the country. When I told her I wasn't, she looked at me really stern and said 'oh!!'. Then went very quiet and looked uncomfortable.
I have a feeling shes given them the impression theyre all invited and has put herself in an awkward position.

And another thing thats got on my nerves is people not liking things and making it blo0dy obvious. Shown the bridesmaid dresses (MoH chose it herself and it looked gorgeous on her) to MIL2B and was given response of 'oh' and 'hmm!'then said it was the 'wrong colour' (Soz love didnt know I needed your opinion.)

Were having very very little financial help from anyone, having a small, budget wedding and arranging it by ourselves- well mainly just me cos OH thinks weddings are a 'girl thing'. Despite all this, everyone still thinks they have the right to stick their oar in.

Also now experienced 4 couples getting engaged after us and all marrying before us! Feeling a bit left behind!

Rant over *phew* thats better.

MsShopper

I'm feeling everyone's pain regarding the plus-ones and guests inviting themselves. Our invites go out soon and I'm sure we'll get a bunch of those, as we haven't been able to invite everyone that other people seem to think we should have.

Has anyone else found it a rude awakening when you realise that the wedding you've spent months planning in your head has suddenly taken on a life of its own? Everyone seems to have an opinion on everything! :mad:

sugarwalsh

I have found the trick is not to discuss any details with ANYONE! Well, apart from OH, obviously. I use the whole 'We want it to be a surprise' thing. It means no one can have a say and they hang on everyword when oyu do talk about something....

Contol freak? Moi?

Megan

Roz_V

sugarwalsh wrote: »

I have found the trick is not to discuss any details with ANYONE! Well, apart from OH, obviously. I use the whole 'We want it to be a surprise' thing. It means no one can have a say and they hang on everyword when oyu do talk about something....

Contol freak? Moi?

Megan

Genius!!! Just a shame I suffer from verbal diarrhoea! :rotfl:

sugarwalsh

It is hard. I do think it helps that we have both been married before so no one is paying much attention, especially my parents! It hasn't stopped us going all out though!

We have also played the 'we want you to come and relax and enjoy the weekend' card, which means we don't have to ask anyone to do stuff either. We can ask people if there are things we want doing, but as a general rule most people are happy to just rock up and have fun!
Megan

loulou129_2

Hey everyone I finally get to join in yay been lurking for ages but im so glad i can finally post my bridezilla views haha.

Well Im LouLou and im a bridezilla because....

Ive found my venue its perfect its so unique and special to us as a couple all in one but my OH wants to keep looking and wants a formal wedding in a castle with 3 course meal and the whole shabang because thats what his mother always wanted for him... ARGH!!!!

firstly.... we're really not a very formal couple, both outgoing and love history etc as were always going on random trips to museums etc so getting married in a victorian town seemed like the perfect idea to me.

secondly... his mother hasnt even spoken to me for 4 months because she knew he was going to propose and has since decided im enemy number one because ive stolen her son.... its a shame she doesnt know that im the one who makes him drive 3 hours to go and see her otherwise he'd just sit on his ps3 and see her at christmas.

thirdly... ive only just started wedding stuff and im already in a tizz... gosh i empathise with all of you!!! this wedding plannings really hard work haha

lots of love... loulou

Roz_V

Welcome LouLou, congratulations on your admission to the Bridezilla club :rotfl:

Though to be honest your gripes seem fairly reasonable compared to some of mine

Gemmzie

Argh, getting hassled from my parents to invite my brother's GF to the hen do. I went to school with her and there's a lot of bad feelings between her and some of my other friends who are coming, so I don't really want to because it'll cause trouble. They've only been together three months, so might not even last until March! (He's had loads of short relationships).