I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

saintly_2

i am a bridezilla 15 months away from wedding date becasue

my hubby 2 be has just added another usher to the party, someone he hasnt seen in months, and he didnt tell me.

is still point blank refusing to walk across a certain path once we come out of the church doors after the ceremony as there are very old gravestones (no people underneath) on this path, so now have to the weirdest detour which is by a dirty drain.

he doesnt like my invite design but doesnt want to design anything

my OH mum and dad being pains in the bum and want to keep throwing money at the wedding, thankyou but i do not want you to pay for my dress. They are paying for some things but not happy that im deciding what they are paying for, do apreciate their help may i add.

my OH doing the centre pieces and they are sounding so bloody tacky that i want to cry, he has already bought the stuff for them and its just awful.

bridesmaids keep suggesting dresses they want to wear when in actuall fact i want to put them in sacks because they are all size 10, gorgeous ladies and me in my frumpy size 20 dress :-(

saintly_2

bubbles0169 wrote: »

im a bridezilla cos im going to divorce my h2b if he doesnt agree to wear a champagne coloured cravat to go with my champagne colour theme
i told him he can choose his suit cut,colour,waist coat colour and pattern but hes insisting on not wearing my cravat colour

seriously grrrrrrrrrr

hahaha same here!!!

smiler34

I'm a (secret) bridezilla and I really want to buy a horrid dress for my bridesmaids (sis and sil) so they don't look better than me. I have actually admitted this to my sister lol

smiler34

Also if OH would let me I would have a pale pink ballerina style wedding dress and a sweetie bar at the reception but he thinks its too chavvy!!

clearing_out_my_pockets

Perhaps I should clarify. We only kept the rose to ourselves during the wedding breakfast, not in the evening.

At her wedding she provided a choice of menu for family members who were on the top table but didn't for me - her bridesmaid and best friend. In fact she only provided red wine on the tables, no white. I am allergic to red wine (believe it or not). So for her to moan about having to put up with white wine (which she does drink) IS rude.

My original post did say that I was ashamed of it. Joking or not there was no need to say I was a spoilt brat.

shellsuit

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Perhaps I should clarify. We only kept the rose to ourselves during the wedding breakfast, not in the evening.

At her wedding she provided a choice of menu for family members who were on the top table but didn't for me - her bridesmaid and best friend. In fact she only provided red wine on the tables, no white. I am allergic to red wine (believe it or not). So for her to moan about having to put up with white wine (which she does drink) IS rude.

My original post did say that I was ashamed of it. Joking or not there was no need to say I was a spoilt brat.

I didn't say you were a spolit brat, I said that's what sprung to mind after reading what you did on the day, that's all, and I did say it in jest!

You didn't say that she moaned about it, just that she asked for a glass, that's where the 'rude' came into it. If she complained, then Yes, she was rude.

I get it now though, you were playing tit for tat with her

eleanora_

AAAAAAARGH. I have just under two years until I marry my OH and my mother is already attempting to tell me what to do!

"Rent a dress!" - now I like to think I'm sensible with money, but I do not need to be *that* sensible - I'll do second-hand, vintage etc. no problem, but renting one just seems so completely unromantic.

"Do your hair like Kate Middleton's on her wedding day! Ooooh and you could have a tiara!" - yeah no thanks. I'm not a tiara kind of girl and don't fancy copying someone else's style for *my* wedding day, thanks. Quite frankly, I don't want my guests to look at me and think "oh, she copied Kate Middleton then" - I want to look like *me*!

Not to mention the guestlist - trying to shive off people she doesn't know (i.e. mine and OH's friends) to make room for some distant family friends (one of whom is a classic Uncle Kn*bhead)... ARGH. LET. ME. BREATHE.

This all sounds so silly written down, and I know she means well... but she REALLY needs to stop trying to tell me what to do. *tears hair out*

stationaryace

we finally found a venue that we like with dates available when we want them :j however made the mistake of taking my mum along to see the venue at the weekend so she got to hear the spiel from the (very nice and lovely) venue co-ordinator - this included all the costs. (we are paying for everything ourselves, which is how we want it)

Now instead of being excited that we're actually about to book a date and get somewhere with this wedding it's all "oooh well that's a bit pricey":cool: I know how much it costs, I was there. I have come home with my OH and done to sums to work out how this will impact the rest of our budget and we can manage it - most importantly we really like it. Next comes the unspoken money guilt "in my day we all had our reception in the church hall and paid with beans" (I exaggerate but honestly the whole family pulls this card out every so often if they think money is being 'wasted'). there is nothing wrong with a church hall, however my church uses the hall for all services due to the actual church being tiny (it seats 20 :cool:) so this would involve a lot of work on the day itself.

having a bit of a gripe to my sister after and she pipes up with "well you could reduce the number of day guests, did you know the most expensive part of the wedding is the meal?". :wall: :wall: :wall: I am three months into this, I work in finance and I have been mentally planning for some time - the very first thing I did was research and set a realistic budget for every component.

oh and 80% of our guests are travelling from another country - am I going to have them rack up after travelling 100s of miles then turn around and say "sorry, no food for you but come and have a boogie later on?"

wedding stuff is now off the table with the family as I'm in a right :mad: tonight. I'll be restricting all wedding chat to my friend who is getting married next year.


I'll behave now, just had to get that off my chest before going to bed

ruthybabs

I just want to elope! Ceremony venue seats 70 max and current essential guests (most of whom aren't local) amount to 102! And that's before the helpful suggestions from family. How are we going to reduce this without causing massive offence? Time for a long chat with H2B about exactly what constitutes essential I think, swift removal of cousins' children and plus ones to be polite....hmmm still not adding up!

We'll work something out! Half of his essential list would probably happily wait in the pub and miss the ceremony anyway, but kind of feel they ought to do that bit to remind them that it's not just an army reunion! Will be interesting!

Oh and mum-I know I have been married before, but you all knew I was making a massive mistake then and that I really am happy this time around, so yes, I do want a proper wedding and a real wedding dress, I haven't asked you to pay for them and don't actually care whether you like it or H2B because I'm going to do it anyway, but little bit of interest would be nice, even if it was just to ask what the BMs (your grandchildren) will be wearing. Oh and yes we are having fish and chips because we like it and think it's cool at our seaside wedding so would you like mushy peas or not?

eleanora_

stationaryace wrote: »

having a bit of a gripe to my sister after and she pipes up with "well you could reduce the number of day guests, did you know the most expensive part of the wedding is the meal?". :wall: :wall: :wall: I am three months into this, I work in finance and I have been mentally planning this since my friend got engaged 2 years ago - the very first thing I did was research and set a realistic budget for every component.

oh and 80% of our guests are travelling from another country - am I going to have them rack up after travelling 100s of miles then turn around and say "sorry, no food for you but come and have a boogie later on?"

You sound like me! - except it's my mum who's on at me to cut day guests down (it's at the bare minimum already)... Argh, we have a maximum of 60, we're currently at 65, I'm doing my best!

I work in finance too :cool: and have a spreadsheet with all the costs worked out - and I've done my research into second-hand dresses, bridal outlets etc., but my mum still likes to pluck numbers out of thin air and say ridiculous things like "a gold wedding ring will cost you £1,000" (will it fark) or "you can get a traditional wedding dress (new) for under £100" (please show me this mythical beast, I long to see it!)

ARGH! *beats chest*