condom split, whats the chances

julie03

she did pluck up the courage and my son has gone with her, they have the MAP so fingers crossed everything is ok, im glad my son left the texts on my phone as i would have been none the wiser, he said they were gonna hope for the best............aaaarrrggghhhh, teenagers they think they know everything, hopefully he knows now he can talk to me.

thank you for all your help

Torry_Quine

Glad that it's working out for you and that your son realises he needs to support her.

NAR

Julie hopefully everything works out for the best. At the very least both of them have had an almighty scare, that hopeully they will learn from.

anguk

julie03 wrote: »

she did pluck up the courage and my son has gone with her, they have the MAP so fingers crossed everything is ok, im glad my son left the texts on my phone as i would have been none the wiser, he said they were gonna hope for the best............aaaarrrggghhhh, teenagers they think they know everything, hopefully he knows now he can talk to me.

thank you for all your help

I'm pleased everything seems okay, it may be wise to just check and remind them when she needs to take the pills. I'm also pleased your son was responsible and supported her, many young lads would have stayed well clear and left it to the girl to sort out.

Well done you for being supportive and helping them. Have they got a follow-up appointment to discuss contraception?

mrsRG

Hi.
I'm a Pharmacist at Boots and I run a very large morning after pill service in my store for women of ANY age no matter how young!
I just wanted to add that there is a lot of incorrect information on here muddled up amongst that which is correct.
Please anyone in a similar situation head to a pharmacy or FPC and get the info from an expert there.
Please don't be embarrased and remember if the pharmacist is male and you want a female there too ask them for a chaperone. they will find a female colleague to sit in with you.
I hate to hear about these awful pharmacists who treat MAP requests as something to be ashamed of and treat people as if they are a s**g.
Anyway i just had to post as it is a service I really take pride in offering at my store as it truly helps out some very vunerable people.

Rebecca

peachyprice

Torry_Quine wrote: »

IActually conception can start minutes after intercourse or up to a few days, hardly a week!

I suggest you check your facts, conception can occur up to a week after intercourse.

Person_one

mrsRG wrote: »

Hi.
I'm a Pharmacist at Boots and I run a very large morning after pill service in my store for women of ANY age no matter how young!
I just wanted to add that there is a lot of incorrect information on here muddled up amongst that which is correct.
Please anyone in a similar situation head to a pharmacy or FPC and get the info from an expert there.
Please don't be embarrased and remember if the pharmacist is male and you want a female there too ask them for a chaperone. they will find a female colleague to sit in with you.
I hate to hear about these awful pharmacists who treat MAP requests as something to be ashamed of and treat people as if they are a s**g.
Anyway i just had to post as it is a service I really take pride in offering at my store as it truly helps out some very vunerable people.

Rebecca

I first had to take the MAP when I was 17 and yet to find a hormonal contraceptive that worked for me. I went in all ready to fight my corner and defend myself against any evil judgmental pharmacists only to find that they were very nice and professional!

Thanks for helping out the young people who need you Rebecca.

margaretclare

mrsRG wrote: »

Hi.
I'm a Pharmacist at Boots and I run a very large morning after pill service in my store for women of ANY age no matter how young!
I just wanted to add that there is a lot of incorrect information on here muddled up amongst that which is correct.
Please anyone in a similar situation head to a pharmacy or FPC and get the info from an expert there.
Please don't be embarrassed and remember if the pharmacist is male and you want a female there to ask them for a chaperone. they will find a female colleague to sit in with you.
I hate to hear about these awful pharmacists who treat MAP requests as something to be ashamed of and treat people as if they are a s**g.
Anyway i just had to post as it is a service I really take pride in offering at my store as it truly helps out some very vulnerable people.

Rebecca

Rebecca, you're doing a very valuable job, good for you. I'm glad you've posted this. Does every Boots branch, or at least the larger ones, offer this service?

I'm old enough to recall the time when a young woman had to have a wedding ring, or at least an engagement ring, before a FPC would deal with her. When contraception became freely-available to all, I think in the early 1980s, we really did think that there'd be no such thing as unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. 'Each child a wanted one...' was the mantra. Who'd believe that in the 21st century people are still arguing about whether conception occurred when sperm and ovum meet, or when the fertilised ovum is implanted. And is it really relevant, when a pregnancy at this stage in their lives would be disastrous for both young people, their future and their families?

Good for the parents for being serious about this and taking positive steps, also for being so supportive.

RAS

margaretclare wrote: »

I'm old enough to recall the time when a young woman had to have a wedding ring, or at least an engagement ring, before a FPC would deal with her. When contraception became freely-available to all, I think in the early 1980s, we really did think that there'd be no such thing as unplanned and unwanted pregnancy.

My older cousins were able to access contraception when the wedding date was set! There were a few "rogue" services that would accept single women and I knew some mothers who took their DD to the GP for the pill at 16 or when they left home as a precautionary measure (usually officially for painful or heavy periods).

The change in the age of majority had a major impact as suddenly most women in at-risk group were legally adult. I was amongst the youngest to vote in two elections in 1974 and even after that was treated to a lecture on not having sex outside marriage at the FPC.

What stuck me then and seems still to be true is that the young women who were most at risk of pregnancy were often the "nice girls" who everyone would not have dreamt would be having sex. They only "did it" if they were in love, got carried away or their guard was down because of alcohol (we had little access to drugs). The "brazen hussies" generally made the decision to get it sorted before they started doing anything risky.

There seems to be a time lag for many young women between when young women become active and when start to think of themselves as active. During that window they are at most at risk. How much is that difference in perception a function of the difficulty parents and other adults have in thinking of DD or whatever as a young woman rather than a schoolgirl?

OP - I am glad they have got MAP. I think you need to have a further discussion re the timing of the second dose and then a bit more of a discussion about the relatively high failure rate of condoms before DS needs to use another one?

euronorris

OP - I'm glad they've been to the clinic and got the MAP. Do you know if they also discussed other, preventative, contraceptive methods that they could use in addition to condoms?

If not, I think you should suggest they make another appointment at the FPC, or with her GP (seeing as most contraceptive methods are to be implanted into or taken by the woman).