condom split, whats the chances

viktory

smartpicture wrote: »

If I was this girl's mum and I found out about this, I would be absolutely furious that another parent had been helping (or pushing!) my daughter to take the MAP, especially when she was uncomfortable about it.

I would be looking a bit closer to home and would be wondering why my child felt able to have a sexual relationship but unable to talk to me.

Ladyhawk

Amanda65 wrote: »

I took the MAP years ago when OH and I first got together. The shock for me when taking it was how ill it made me feel - I felt really sick for about 24 hours.

Yep - that still the case. I felt sick as a dog!

babyshoes

Yes, it still does make people feel ill, as it is basically a massive dose of hormones. A friend of mine took it a few years ago and was very very ill for a couple of days. I believe it also causes a 'period', which is what stops the embryo from implanting in the uterus. This can be quite heavy, so she needs to be prepared for that.

As for not talking to her mother about it, there could be many reasons for it. I get on well with my mother, and she was very good about telling my brother and I about sex at an early age, but she was brought up in a time when it just 'wasn't discussed', so she had to overcome her natural embarassment to do so. I think we picked up on it, and even now I would struggle to talk to her about sexual matters, though I have no trouble talking to other people about sex! When I became sexually active, I knew enough to protect myself, and once I was able to get to the doctors on my own, I went on the pill, then told my Mom I was on it, and her only comments were 'we'll tell your father it is to help your periods, ok?' and something about trusting me to keep myself safe but I could talk to her if I needed any information. Luckily, we had a very good teacher who gave us all the information we could possibly need about contraception, and answered questions openly and honestly...

Ladyhawk

Um - I don't remember it causing a period... are you sure?

heretolearn_2

But on the other hand, a lot of women get no side effects/sickness. Luck of the draw.

MERFE

smartpicture wrote: »

If I was this girl's mum and I found out about this, I would be absolutely furious that another parent had been helping (or pushing!) my daughter to take the MAP, especially when she was uncomfortable about it.

completely agree, if someone pressured my daughter into taking the MAP when she didnt really want to I would be so angry. It is up to no one but the girl concerned if she wants to take it or not and there should be no pressure. If a 15 year old boy does not want to become a dad he should abstain, if they are old enough to do the act they have to deal with the consequences and that may be that the girl they are with does not want to take hormonal contraception.

I have taken the MAP and it made me incredibly sick, I would hope in this situation my daughter would choose to take it as well but it would be her decision based on all the facts, including how unlikely it would be to get pregnant.

peachyprice

smartpicture wrote: »

If I was this girl's mum and I found out about this, I would be absolutely furious that another parent had been helping (or pushing!) my daughter to take the MAP, especially when she was uncomfortable about it.

If I was this girl's mum and I found out about this I would be furious with myself for having such a poor relationship with her that she felt she couldn't come to me about it.

Imp

MERFE wrote: »

completely agree, if someone pressured my daughter into taking the MAP when she didnt really want to I would be so angry. It is up to no one but the girl concerned if she wants to take it or not and there should be no pressure.

How close to assault is it to pressurise someone into taking medication? I know a doctor cannot do anything to you if you don't consent, so surely the same rules apply to a boyfriend's mother?

MERFE

peachyprice wrote: »

If I was this girl's mum and I found out about this I would be furious with myself for having such a poor relationship with her that she felt she couldn't come to me about it.

Seriously - teenagers rarely talk to their parents about these things, I'm not surprised if the mum as no idea. I certainly never told my mum about the time I needed the MAP and I was 17. I was much more likely to tell my friends. But FYI I have a fantastic relationship with my mum, I just didnt want to talk about sex with her when I was younger.

I still do not expect my daughter to receive pressure from grown ups who should just be offering support and advice or keeping out of it.

alibongo42

Nessynoo wrote: »

If she does come back with the MAP, please make sure she takes the second pill at the correct time. I hope all goes well.

It only has one pill these days.

Not sure how recent a change that is, as I know it used to be two.