condom split, whats the chances

galvanizersbaby

margaretclare wrote: »

As a former midwife I've heard of too many instances of pregnancy occurring at less-than-optimal times, at different times in the cycle, to trust to any statistical probability. The 'safe period' - remember that one (the only method of contraception permitted to Catholics) was well known to be anything but safe.

The only safe option would be the morning-after pill. Of course it's not abortion - although the cells are multiplying rapidly at this stage the cluster of cells has not yet travelled down the tube to implant itself in the uterus. Speed is of the essence.

And how on earth does a condom split? Condoms are not designed to split if used as intended, and not handled roughly, with sharp fingernails etc.

They split quite frequently for us and as far as I'm aware we use them as intended and don't erm handle them roughly as in they are fully intact prior to use.:o

OP - I hope it all sorts itself out and your son and his girlfriend manage to sort out a back-up method of contraception incase this happens again

Ivrytwr3

julie03 wrote: »

he has talked her into going, so fingers crossed she does actually go, she is asking one of her friends to go with her.

If she is this timid and worried, she may not actually make the visit. Can you not offer to go with her? She may appreciate a level headed elder and you can also make sure she takes the pill!

galvanizersbaby

Toomuchdebt wrote: »

The condom split with my 4th baby and I did take the MAP as I wasn't wanting another at the time as my then husband and I were not getting on-however it failed and the pregnancy progressed -totally normally as it happened.It doesn't work for everyone.I have a 15 year old daughter and dread to think of her having sex and being in this situation.

Yes I took the MAP when DD was concieved and it wasn't effective - I did take it approx 50 hours after the event though and they do say 72 hours is the max from memory so the sooner she takes it the better chance of it being effective.

Wouldn't be without DD now of course but at the time my DS was 9 months old and I was not planning on another so soon

tiamai_d

Hope everything turns out ok. Did the threat of you speaking to her parenst sway it eventually?

I was so shy at that age too, but the choice of speaking to a stranger and being embarrassed or telling my mum and dad I was pregnant would have had me banging on the chemist door! I made my now hubby tell my mum and dad when I was 19!

She really needs to deal with contraception a bit more maturely. If she is mature enough to have sex, she should be mature enough to deal with contraception. Yes, condoms do split (and they also get lost and turn up 4 hours later) especially when you are a horny teenager and really do weigh up the merit of cling film when you've ran out.

Imp

mommyme wrote: »

i have said she should take the morning after pill but she has told him its like abortion.
Give her a slap!

Have you spoken to the girls mother? I'd be round there like a shot! your son's 16 - should he really be lumbered with a kid just because this girl wont take a tablet? STUPID!

(sorry! lol)

julie03 wrote: »

have just found out my nearly16yr old is having sex with his girlfriend. he borrowed my phone using his sim card but the texts were left on the phone. apparently the condom split yesterday, and her period ended last monday 5th april
i have said she should take the morning after pill but she has told him its like abortion. what are the chances of pregnancy, she is pretty regular,

told him to really push the morning after pill and said i would pay for it if nessecary
if she doesnt what are the chances?

Maybe the couple will learn that if they are old enough to have sex, they are old enough to be parents. I would be shocked if you can force anyone to take the morning after pill.

Treacly

julie03 wrote: »

she is one of the shyest girls i have ever met, she is a very emotional girl and goes red if you so much as look at her.

Oh dear! I take it your son wasn't looking her in the eye at the time!

Sorry all, I know we're trying to be very supportive here, but quite honestly, if you're confident enough to have sex then you should be able to manage a trip to the GP.

t_obermory

She's not far into her cycle, as they were using a condom the sperm will have had a good dose of spermicide which is designed to kill sperm, if you take into account that you don't necessarily ovulate every month and if you do you don't always conceive even if trying I would say the chances are very slim of her getting pregnant. However there is still of course a chance however slim.

If I were you I'd sit down and talk to her myself (or with her Mum if that's not possible) and take her to get the morning after pill if she's scared of going, I'd also say its time for her to go on the pill but that's something she's going to have to want to do.

After this is over as embarrassing as it may be I'd also make sure your son knows the correct way of putting a condom on. I have to say though as much as you hate the thought of your children having sex at least he was sensible, even if he was caught out by an unfortunate accident!

ailuro2

Once they've got it all sorted, make sure your son is aware he needs to wear the right size of condom as this can contribute to them splitting. OK, so you might not want to do the measuring but you can hand him a tape and a link to the following...

http://std.about.com/od/condoms101/a/condomsize.htm

lizzielondon

if she doesn't go to the fpc this evening please tell her parents she is not being fair to your son

do you drive? could you possible insist on taking them there yourself to ensure she takes it?

neneromanova

I think she said the appointment was booked for 5pm so hopefully they're there now