Without a paddle... support for anyone starting a DMP in 2010 (part2)

mamajojo

tedsd wrote: »

Evening All, can't stop and haven't had time to reply to you all, will catch up 2 moro.

Quick bit of news......... today is the first day since 7th January that I haven't had a creditor call......:T

Hurray Ted! *jumping up and down smiley - comp gone freaky and wont do it*4 Months - unbelievable - long may it last!

mamajojo

Nat, *adopts fog horn playground voice* NAT!!!!! Where are you ....still driving in that car?

gabriella90

hi all,
Hope your doing ok haven't had the chance to get on here for ages so have caught up on 20 or so pages of your wonderful chat!

Welcolme and welldone all newbies for joining us and starting you paddling journey.

Wicked news PDD on an acceptance.

Hows things with you Tedds great news to not get any calls.

Well done VICB with the running i've dowloaded the couch to 5km from a certain sight too. Haven't started yet.

Hope the rest of you are all good Mama,albie, Nataz, AndyD, Mikon gosh who else sooooo many now.

My DMP seems to running itself now,looking forward to going full time so i can't saving for F&F's. To be honest i'm a bit down, i sort out one bit of my life and the other seems to be slipping away from me. the OH and I aren't getting on too well i tried talking about it and i just got shouted at. i'm sorry to blurt all this out here. Its difficult being away from home and although its been 3 months it affected me quite badly a touch of depression but haven't been to the Dr's to talk about it properly sort of mentioned it had blood tests and thyroid done as my hair was coming out a bit more than normal they've all come back clear and he was sort talking about speaking to someone of some tablets:(, i thought i could work through it on my own positive thinking and all that and the fact we'd moved abroad was why i was feeling crap. I should be ok now got a job nice house weather, lacking in the supportive side i guess. Really sorry just needed to get this off my chest i don't know what to do. TBH feel like going home and leaving him we've been together 7.8 yrs and i've given up everything to come with him because of his job. All i get is you've had 3 months off work i'd give my back teeth for that. He doesn't really think depression excists i don't want to use it as an excuse but i feel like i've got a huge cloud over my head.

thanks for listening just needed to sound off xx

andyD_2

Aw gabriella, u poor thing, yes everything does seem to happen at once.

Maybe you should consider talking to someone, i have gone through bouts of depression too (unofficially as i never went to drs) i went once and was just given tablets which scared the !!!! out of me and i never took them, have been up and down a lot but life is hard for all sorts of reasons I think everyone at some time get depressed. I wish i had been offered someone to talk to sometimes wonder would I be in this mess now (became a shopaholic to make myself feel good), only problem is i mite never of stopped talking once i got started, keep your chin up hun and rant away that is what is so good about this place every single one of us has our own problems and we can all sympatise with each other.

Think we should set up a virtual party and all get !!!!ed:beer::beer::beer::beer:

newbeginning_2

gabriella

Sending you one of our big dodgy hugs ..............:grouphug:

I know exactly how you feel about giving stuff up for the other half, mine sounds exactly like yours and tbh I feel like leaving sometimes too, for me it's cos of being taken for granted, everything gets left, everyone knows full well I'll sort it.

I've had depression too, still struggle with it now although don't take tablets but I have before, they can help sometimes, I know it's scary, I'll do anything to avoid them, and they made me feel worse before I felt better too IYSWIM. Anytime you want to rant/talk that's what we're here for, feel free to PM me too

x

newbeginning_2

Ooooooh, and yes to the virtual party!

mamajojo

gabriella90 wrote: »

hi all,
Hope your doing ok haven't had the chance to get on here for ages so have caught up on 20 or so pages of your wonderful chat!

Welcolme and welldone all newbies for joining us and starting you paddling journey.

Wicked news PDD on an acceptance.

Hows things with you Tedds great news to not get any calls.

Well done VICB with the running i've dowloaded the couch to 5km from a certain sight too. Haven't started yet.

Hope the rest of you are all good Mama,albie, Nataz, AndyD, Mikon gosh who else sooooo many now.

My DMP seems to running itself now,looking forward to going full time so i can't saving for F&F's. To be honest i'm a bit down, i sort out one bit of my life and the other seems to be slipping away from me. the OH and I aren't getting on too well i tried talking about it and i just got shouted at. i'm sorry to blurt all this out here. Its difficult being away from home and although its been 3 months it affected me quite badly a touch of depression but haven't been to the Dr's to talk about it properly sort of mentioned it had blood tests and thyroid done as my hair was coming out a bit more than normal they've all come back clear and he was sort talking about speaking to someone of some tablets:(, i thought i could work through it on my own positive thinking and all that and the fact we'd moved abroad was why i was feeling crap. I should be ok now got a job nice house weather, lacking in the supportive side i guess. Really sorry just needed to get this off my chest i don't know what to do. TBH feel like going home and leaving him we've been together 7.8 yrs and i've given up everything to come with him because of his job. All i get is you've had 3 months off work i'd give my back teeth for that. He doesn't really think depression excists i don't want to use it as an excuse but i feel like i've got a huge cloud over my head.

thanks for listening just needed to sound off xx

:grouphug: Gabriella, sorry you're having a tough time sweetheart!
Even though you've your DMP up and running, the stress of LBM, getting it all sorted etc could be taking its toll on you, and the emotional stress can come out in all sorts of ways....As I have discovered and the doc did say to me it takes a while to show. You've a lot on with moving, relocating being away from everyone aswell as dmp, I think your relationship is bound to suffer to an extent. Be kind to yourself honey, your oh need a kick up the !!!!! and I wish I was close enough to do it for you!
Keep posting, and get it all off your chest! Big Hugs xx
I'm in for the party Andy :beer:

andyD_2

Afternoon all, totally get you with the being taken for granted NB and not only from dh but ds and dd too and they're only 7 and 5 "doesnt matter just leave it wife/mum/SLAVE will do it!!!!!

Feeling quite good today the dmp journey really is like a rollercoaster up one minute and down the next cant keep up with myself!

Phoned cccs today with a couple of questions they really are lovely, got most of my paperwork ready to send them though im just holding on untill im finished with my bank before sending final details. I was also very brave and phoned tesco cc as they had sent me a letter son say my payment was late I explained all and they already have my first token payment but she says i will still continue to get letters etc as its all computer generated and they cant freeze or stop interest or charges till they get the dmp details.

Im finding it is much better to talk to the companies rather than ignore them even when they cant really do anything at this stage they so far have been very accepting of my situation and have taken note.

I was originally planning to do a couple of months tokens so i could get a bit of money gathered up but im beginning to think maybe it would just be best to get started asap as the extra charges for not making the full payments will add up what do you think any advice from your own experiences?

pure_dead_dopey

Gabbriella sorry you are feeling down, but you've taken huge strides recently, you've moved, you've got a new job so you're learning all of that, you've straightened out your money worries and OH doesn't seem very sympathetic. Its a lot to get through and OH may just being a man (love mine to bits but could strangle him occasionally). So sit down in the sun (its good for your mood) and think it all though. You can take pills, sometimes they work but sometimes they kind of cut you off, but only you know how you feel. Feel very free to rant on here, sometimes it just good to vent, you know we'll listen. If you can talk to your Doc or do you have someone connected with OH's work that you can speak to, talking helps. Take good care of yourself and keep posting so that we know how you are. Sending a virtual hug to the sunshine from really really cold Scotland.

pure_dead_dopey

OK now I'm going to vent. firstly a triumph LLOYDS HAVE STOPPED CHARGES AND INTEREST ON MY CC ACCOUNT!!!!!!!
only

they never told me, they said they wrote a letter, never got it, have spoken to them 5 times on the phone since 15th January, they never told me but it was accepted on 1st March!!!!
Guy this monring tells me its accepted and will be sent to a DCA, but they will accept the payments as usual at the moment because it can take 10 months to send to a DCA. CCCS were never told either, but the guy did confirm the balance, (about right with payments off and no interest added) How do they get away with being so incompetant????