Inappropriate behaviour from a child in dd's class. How would you feel?

wendyphant

gingin can i just say i have found this hijacked thread informative but sorry mostly amusing:) I thought I'd have my 2 peneth too

1- boys and willies grrrrr they find them when in nappies and never leave them be
2- I think he is doing it for reaction - again boys grrrrrrr
3- I feel so sorry for his mum can you think how mortified she must feel I know i would
4- I think you are a sensible mum who unlike so many that would you behave rationaly and sensibly
5- I had a boy in my class who was always showing his bits off to the girls - he is now a policeman and when we had the reunion all drunk guess who fell over and lost his trousers - haven't laughed soooo much in ages

S1976

wendyphant wrote: »

gingin can i just say i have found this hijacked thread informative but sorry mostly amusing:)

I really have to agree here - I have found the thread in parts very funny indeed. It's good to see there still are some people who take children and especially 'boys flashing their bits' in the correct mindframe that it can just simply be a boy being a boy lol especially at that age.

My brother was a right little sod and still is - my mom always says even from birth he shot up his little winkle and weed right in the nurses face - mom swears he aimed!

But yeah onto a serious side, teacher knows and parents now know so hopfully he will eventually learn to leave it alone a little lol

Gingham_Ribbon

thatgirlsam wrote: »

hmmm yes , so in that case 99% of boys are showing a symptom of sexual abuse ?

i think its a fine line here , inappropriate ' sexual ' behaviour can be a sign ..

i don't think a 5 year old flashing a willy comes into this category

im not sure tbh , i don't want this poor boy to have some sort of label for what is normal behaviour

I think you're slightly misunderstanding me. What I was saying was not to stamp on the behaviour too hard because IF it was a result of abuse, the child would have feelings of being the one at fault re-enforced.

Gingham_Ribbon

jamespir wrote: »

sorry your assuming that i hate women im misogynistic (well done for the fancy feminist term)

all ive said is that women "in general " are treated differently to men in so many ways but differently to how it was before the suffragette movement these days its the women"in general" that are the ones in charge and the men are expected to shut up or leave

I find the part in bold astonishingly uninformed, sorry.

As for the sneering remark about misogyny? If someone came on a thread and called homophobia a fancy PC term, would you let it lie? Misogyny is a significant and very real problem in our society, just as homophobia is. Why does who coined the term make any difference to you?

jess1974

Janepig wrote: »

It's so funny, everyone saying that little boys like all the rude stuff, like little girls are all sugar and spice!! My DD is nearly 7 and all things wee, poo, willy, farting, foof, bum and booby related are comedy gold!!! We were having a conversation in the car yesterday evening about chicken pox and I said that when her little brother had chicken pox he even had spots on his willy, which promptly sent her into hysteria. And you've only got to fart or burp in earshot of her and she's in fits of laughter. She's spent goodness knows how long trying to perfect the "chicken farts" that her boy classmates do - the old palm under the armpit to make farting noises trick!!

She certainly wouldn't be particularly perturbed if one of her classmates got his bits out!

Jxx

Oh i'm so glad to read this comment, my daughter is also nearly 7 and finds the same things hilarious, she also loves to moon at her 2 older brothers and finds boobs fascinating.....

freebiequennie

I havent read all the replies but school need to instigate the Child Using Sexually Abusive Behaviour (CUSAB) procedures or you can contact social services and they can do this basically an assessment will be done and measures put in place not just to safeguard the other children but to safeguard the actual child - they will look into why he is displaying this behaviour as in my opinion its not age appropriate behaviour.

Many schools are rubbish at instigating the CUSAB process as either they havent got a clue about it - not an excuse or they just choose not to.

There should be a chapter on CUSAB on your Local Safeguarding Children Board (LSCB) website just type in your area such as brighton LSCB into google then when on the site type in CUSAB and then you could have a read (be well armed for when school argue with you!!) or print it off and hand to headteacher or child protection lead in school.

freebiequennie

Forgot to add there is a difference between show me yours I will show you mine and what this little boy is doing he is flashing other children to get a reaction this is not normal within a classroom/public situation and he could be doing other things that children are not reporting

Also just because other children do it doesnt make it right.

vaio

freebiequennie wrote: »

I havent read all the replies but school need to instigate the Child Using Sexually Abusive Behaviour (CUSAB) procedures or you can contact social services and they can do this basically an assessment will be done and measures put in place not just to safeguard the other children but to safeguard the actual child - they will look into why he is displaying this behaviour as in my opinion its not age appropriate behaviour.

Many schools are rubbish at instigating the CUSAB process as either they havent got a clue about it - not an excuse or they just choose not to.

There should be a chapter on CUSAB on your Local Safeguarding Children Board (LSCB) website just type in your area such as brighton LSCB into google then when on the site type in CUSAB and then you could have a read (be well armed for when school argue with you!!) or print it off and hand to headteacher or child protection lead in school.

If you had read the replies you might have noticed that most posters either did or have children who did similar things at that sort of age.

To get the whole abuse mechanism swinging into action for what, on the face of it, is normal behaviour from a small boy is ridiculous and takes time & resources away from both the education process & the safeguarding process to the detriment of both.

What’s needed in this case is what has actually happened, a quiet word between teacher & parent

jamespir

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

I find the part in bold astonishingly uninformed, sorry.

As for the sneering remark about misogyny? If someone came on a thread and called homophobia a fancy PC term, would you let it lie? Misogyny is a significant and very real problem in our society, just as homophobia is. Why does who coined the term make any difference to you?

it is true you look at any relationship the man does whatever his wife says mostly


if somone wants to call it a pc term let them i dont care

jamespir

freebiequennie wrote: »

I havent read all the replies but school need to instigate the Child Using Sexually Abusive Behaviour (CUSAB) procedures or you can contact social services and they can do this basically an assessment will be done and measures put in place not just to safeguard the other children but to safeguard the actual child - they will look into why he is displaying this behaviour as in my opinion its not age appropriate behaviour.

Many schools are rubbish at instigating the CUSAB process as either they havent got a clue about it - not an excuse or they just choose not to.

There should be a chapter on CUSAB on your Local Safeguarding Children Board (LSCB) website just type in your area such as brighton LSCB into google then when on the site type in CUSAB and then you could have a read (be well armed for when school argue with you!!) or print it off and hand to headteacher or child protection lead in school.

why so youre quite happy to get the child taken away from his parents possibly have one or the other arreseted just to satisfy your paranoia

ITS NORMAL LITTLE BOY BEHAVIOUR