Inappropriate behaviour from a child in dd's class. How would you feel?

Bitsy_Beans

jamespir wrote: »

thats nice for them it's not abuse its just silly women getting themselves in a tiss because some men dont agree with equal oppurtunities

and a man spending his money that hes earned is not abuse its called fairness

Whether you like it or not there are some women who are in abusive relationships with men and finance can be used as a way of controlling spouses. I am not suggesting every women who posts on here moaning about her husband not giving her enough housekeeping is in an abusive relationship but I am at least aware that it does go on and requires the spouse to perhaps look at their overall relationship.

Forgive me but your last comment makes you sound like a misogynist.

jamespir wrote: »

oh my god lets get his parents arrested get the child taken away


do you know how serious abuse allegations are they can ruin families

just because a boy touches girls doesent mean hes been abused

juts because he's shows girls his willy doesent mean hes been abused

No one is saying that definately means he's abused but it can be a sign of abuse. I am not sure why you can't grasp that aspect??? Without seeing exactly what this kid is doing who can say for sure what his motives are. Likewise who's suggesting it's his parents that are abusing him? No one. That's not even been mentioned. I don't think for one moment the teacher is going to accuse the parents of abuse but I think it warrants a discussion about personal boundaries and behaviour towards other children.
Kids are taken into care as a last result. Look at Baby P - 60 people were involved in that case, he was on the at risk register and he was STILL with his mother. so lets not let imaginations run wild with images of crying kids being dragged screaming from their parents because that's not likely to happen.

Oh and I do know how serious allegations of abuse are and would never take the decision to report something lightly. But on the other hand I do know how much abuse can ruin peoples lives and as such I prefer to look at the situation as a whole rather than to brush everything off as kids just being kids.

Janepig

It's so funny, everyone saying that little boys like all the rude stuff, like little girls are all sugar and spice!! My DD is nearly 7 and all things wee, poo, willy, farting, foof, bum and booby related are comedy gold!!! We were having a conversation in the car yesterday evening about chicken pox and I said that when her little brother had chicken pox he even had spots on his willy, which promptly sent her into hysteria. And you've only got to fart or burp in earshot of her and she's in fits of laughter. She's spent goodness knows how long trying to perfect the "chicken farts" that her boy classmates do - the old palm under the armpit to make farting noises trick!!

She certainly wouldn't be particularly perturbed if one of her classmates got his bits out!

Jxx

Ada_Doom

jamespir wrote: »

thats nice for them it's not abuse its just silly women getting themselves in a tiss because some men dont agree with equal oppurtunities

and a man spending his money that hes earned is not abuse its called fairness

You're a bit of a numpty, aren't you?

vixarooni

I saw alot of willies when i was that age, it was like the done thing? I played "lesbians" at around this age too with my friends, we would kiss and boys would quite happily parade around naked. Its quite x rated im sure, but thats kinda what children go through isnt it? Establishing your gender and all of that.

jamespir

Ada_Doom wrote: »

You're a bit of a numpty, aren't you?

not at all i just like women to be women thats all im fed up of all this politically correct bull

jamespir

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Forgive me but your last comment makes you sound like a misogynist.



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not at all i like women
i just dont like feminist's

JBD

jamespir wrote: »

not at all i just like women to be women thats all im fed up of all this politically correct bull

So you like women who don't object when their husbands go and spend all their money on themselves, rather than their families? Thats the kind of father I grew up with and yes, it is a form of control. It wasn't just my mother who suffered, it was all of us. Even when my mother worked fulltime he still retained control over the finances and my mother practically had to beg for money to buy anything, for herself or her children. Meanwhile he could buy himself whatever the hell he wanted.

jamespir

JBD wrote: »

So you like women who don't object when their husbands go and spend all their money on themselves, rather than their families? Thats the kind of father I grew up with and yes, it is a form of control. It wasn't just my mother who suffered, it was all of us. Even when my mother worked fulltime he still retained control over the finances and my mother practically had to beg for money to buy anything, for herself or her children. Meanwhile he could buy himself whatever the hell he wanted.

not at all but if he has money after hes paid the bills and stuff for the family etc why shouldnt he

poet123

jamespir wrote: »

not at all but if he has money after hes paid the bills and stuff for the family etc why shouldnt he

Because a marriage or long term relationship should be an equal partnership, not a dictatorship? .....just a thought.

Pixiechic

Some of these posts have made me laugh! I too remember primary school and the 'i'll show you mine if you show me yours' games. We were all fascinated with each others 'bits'. Boy's bodies were so different, it's a time of discovery and innocent learning and interaction and it flows naturally through growing up even through puberty. I understand your concern though and I think it was for the best that you spoke to the teacher just for your own peace of mind. I hope it all turns out to be harmless play and I also hope that it is treated in the innocent way it was meant.