Inappropriate behaviour from a child in dd's class. How would you feel?

zzzLazyDaisy

I used to work with 4 to 6 yr olds, as a classroom assistant, and I can tell you that this isn't unusual for children of this age. Assuming there is no sexual abuse (and I agree that the school must be alert to the possibility) then boys of that age are just exploring their bodies and haven't made any connection between their willy (that they use for a wee) and sexual activity (which they almost certainly have no concept of)

However, they are often very attuned to the reaction, and if they are in any way attention seeking, they will do it all the more - in the same way that some children bite or throw temper tantrums - they get attention.

We used to just say something like 'Now David, we know the dinner table/sandpit/water fountain isn't the right place, put it away now and lets see what.......' [insert whatever diversionary activity is appropriate]

I know it isn't nice for you - or your daughter - but interpreting the behaviour with an adult's perception of sexuality is probably not the right way to view it either.

itsallinthemind

gingin wrote: »

Thank you.

I'm sat here getting myself worked up because it's my daughter but if I had read this thread as an observer, I would have probably have written the same as you. That's why the different perspectives you can get here are great.

I am confident the teacher will deal with it, she has taught both of my children and my son had his "moments" at that age and she always handled it brilliantly.

On the other hand, if it were MY daughter, I'd probably be alarmed :D

vaio

thatgirlsam wrote: »

its probably just a silly little boy !

aww he is only 5 you say ?

i would say thats quite a normal thing for a young boy , my son is 4 and shows me and my dd who is 10 his willy and bum , talks about poo and wee a lot and thinks willies are hilarious in general !

i have spoken to him and said please keep your willy private and word to that effect , but becuase my dd laughed at him once he thinks flsahing his willy will make her laugh

to my knowledge he has not done this at school , but please don't read too much into it

some boys are very silly at this age

Pretty much spot on, small boys seem to find genitalia and bodily functions hilarious and even better if they get a reaction from adults.

Just wait until they discover underwater farting

peachyprice

jamespir wrote: »

dont be silly my childs five and hes not being abused and hes shown his willy to some girls + boys it's what kids do

although i have told him off and he hasnt done it again

thatgirlsam wrote: »

its probably just a silly little boy !

aww he is only 5 you say ?

i would say thats quite a normal thing for a young boy , my son is 4 and shows me and my dd who is 10 his willy and bum , talks about poo and wee a lot and thinks willies are hilarious in general !

i have spoken to him and said please keep your willy private and word to that effect , but becuase my dd laughed at him once he thinks flsahing his willy will make her laugh

to my knowledge he has not done this at school , but please don't read too much into it

some boys are very silly at this age

vaio wrote: »

Pretty much spot on, small boys seem to find genitalia and bodily functions hilarious and even better if they get a reaction from adults.

Just wait until they discover underwater farting

Having 2 boys myself i have to agree with all these posts.

Some little boys think their willy is hilarious some think wiping bogies on girls is hilarious, anything that makes girls squeal is just the funniest thing ever. To a child that age they won't see anything 'wrong' with showing their willy.

Have a word with the teacher by all means, and ask her to have a word with his parents, but all this talk of abuse, at this stage, is an over reaction, he's 5/6 for goodness sake, not 15/16.

thatgirlsam

vaio wrote: »

Pretty much spot on, small boys seem to find genitalia and bodily functions hilarious and even better if they get a reaction from adults.

Just wait until they discover underwater farting

i have 2 brothers , i remember that

peachyprice

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i have 2 brothers , i remember that

Yes, i got a text from one of my sons yesteday saying his brother has locked him in the bathroom with him and he's torturing him with farts.

Even at 15yo they find it funny.

thatgirlsam

peachyprice wrote: »

Yes, i got a text from one of my sons yesteday saying his brother has locked him in the bathroom with him and he's torturing him with farts.

Even at 15yo they find it funny.

i have a horrible feeling even at 45 they find it funny .. i have had my head trapped under the duvet while a fully grown man blows off

:rotfl:

yummymummy1987_2

Hiya, i can understand where you are coming from and personally i would leave it for now as you say the teacher dealt with it well and im sure the head will now be involved.But do bring it up if your dd mentions it again, id ask her to keep you infromed.
Not quite the same but at my sons school all of the mums were talking about how the boys find "toilet" talk as one mum described it hilarious at the moment. Burping,farting, calling there bits peanuts etc :cool: and that i just think oh dear lets hope they grow out of it..
however one boy kept hitting my son and other lads in the bits :eek: and i did go in and speak to the teacher about that as id seen him do it to my son at a party outside of school and in the playground at school and my son looked quite winded? after wrong word but im sure you all get what i mean!!! and she did mention that other children/parents had mentioned this child hitting/touching the other lads bits and that she had spoke to parents and the child..........my son since said its stopped so maybe the head/parents being involved will make it stop

Jo x

snowmaid

I remember playing 'doctor doctor' with the boys next door. :D I had no idea of what we were doing, but I was facinated with our different errmmmm appendages.....

I would say it sounds innocent, however the school should gently just keep a check and watch for other signs of abuse, such as anger issues, being withdrawn etc.

You could be creating a mountain of trouble for parents who's boy is just, well, being a boy! Next he will be on the offenders register! :cool:

NAR

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i have a horrible feeling even at 45 they find it funny .. i have had my head trapped under the duvet while a fully grown man blows off

:rotfl:

I like sharing too, but there again my generousity knows no bounds! :rotfl::rotfl: