Inappropriate behaviour from a child in dd's class. How would you feel?

elfen

All little kids think about "mummies" and "daddies" and the difference, like showing their bits to each other and seeing they are different, from boys asking their mum why they have boobies and finding their willy the most hilarious object on earth and girls asking their mums (usually) why the boys are different. It's a part of growing up

bertiebots

jamespir wrote: »

this place makes me laugh

it seems if a man is spending money and not giving it to his wife hes controlling and a domestic abuser

now a child show's girls his willy and kisses them(normal childish behaviour) he's being abused

we do have some rather paranoid people on here

Its not paranoid , its from experience
....I am just pointing out that it is a possible cause of unwanted behaviour. I think you should show a little more empathy to your fellow posters before making rash comments like that.

Bitsy_Beans

jamespir wrote: »

this place makes me laugh

it seems if a man is spending money and not giving it to his wife hes controlling and a domestic abuser

now a child show's girls his willy and kisses them(normal childish behaviour) he's being abused

we do have some rather paranoid people on here

Check out the Women's Aid website - they class keeping financial restraints on spouses as abuse. I am sure if you were on the receiving end of that sort of behaviour then it's not quite so funny.

As for the latter comment - OP also alludes to boy touching other girls. Now it's not mentioned if it's with their consent or not but inappropriate behaviour would be classed as a warning sign. I would rather consider ALL reasons for behaviour rather than just sumarily dismiss something like OP described and for the child to be suffering abuse.

gingin_2

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

As for the latter comment - OP also alludes to boy touching other girls. Now it's not mentioned if it's with their consent or not but inappropriate behaviour would be classed as a warning sign. I would rather consider ALL reasons for behaviour rather than just sumarily dismiss something like OP described and for the child to be suffering abuse.

No it's definitely not with consent. I know it has worried other parents. I do believe it is for a reaction rather than curiosity.

The boy did touch himself also - he and dd were working at a table opposite each other, alone - he stood up, pulled down his pants and touched his willy (in what way I don't know).

Anyway, the teacher is on to it. I know she is telling his parents this afternoon by her own initiative.

Thanks

Bitsy_Beans

gingin wrote: »

No it's definitely not with consent. I know it has worried other parents. I do believe it is for a reaction rather than curiosity.

The boy did touch himself also - he and dd were working at a table opposite each other, alone - he stood up, pulled down his pants and touched his willy (in what way I don't know).

Anyway, the teacher is on to it. I know she is telling his parents this afternoon by her own initiative.

Thanks

Glad to hear that.
For the most part it is probably just being done to provoke a reaction but I'd rather be wrong 100 times about possible abuse than to ignore something and for a child to be continue to be abused.

NAR

thatgirlsam wrote: »

well i don't find them as fascinating as their owners do

Methinks the Lady doth protest too much!

me ex used to flap his in my face and wiggle his hips so it bounced up and down and say things like ' yeh baby look what i got'
and expect me to find it funny

1. I can understand why he is your ex.
2. If you had used the magnifying glass it might have been funny!

jamespir

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Check out the Women's Aid website - they class keeping financial restraints on spouses as abuse. I am sure if you were on the receiving end of that sort of behaviour then it's not quite so funny.


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thats nice for them it's not abuse its just silly women getting themselves in a tiss because some men dont agree with equal oppurtunities

and a man spending his money that hes earned is not abuse its called fairness

jamespir

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Glad to hear that.
For the most part it is probably just being done to provoke a reaction but I'd rather be wrong 100 times about possible abuse than to ignore something and for a child to be continue to be abused.

oh my god lets get his parents arrested get the child taken away


do you know how serious abuse allegations are they can ruin families

just because a boy touches girls doesent mean hes been abused

juts because he's shows girls his willy doesent mean hes been abused

vaio

thatgirlsam wrote: »

......my ex used to flap his in my face and wiggle his hips so it bounced up and down and say things like ' yeh baby look what i got'
and expect me to find it funny

The correct response is not laughter, you're supposed to say "if you think you're going to put that huge great thing in me then think again bigboy"......



......then laugh

alwaysonthego_2

Freuds 'Phalic Stage' springs to mind (excuse the pun!)

Phallic Stage: 3.5 - 6 years (approx.)

Physical focus: penis. Freud believed that boys and girls both focussed on the penis. Boys: why hasn’t she got one? Girls: why haven’t I got one? Children become particularly interested in playing with their genitals at this stage.
Psychological theme: morality and sexuality identification and figuring out what it means to be a girl/boy. Children, according to Freud have sexual feelings for the opposite sexed parent at this stage (and deal with Oedipus / Electra complexes - basically erotic attachment to parent of opposite sex, but since these feelings are not socially acceptable, it may become hostility) and feel some hostility to same-sex parent. Boys experience castration anxiety and girls suffer penis envy. During this time emotional conflicts are resolved by eventually identifying with the same sex parent
Adult character: promiscuous and amoral/ asexual and puritanical (Doctrine of opposites again)

http://wilderdom.com/personality/L8-5FreudPsychosexualStagesDevelopment.html#Phallic