#3 son possible exclusion for hitting a bully

meritaten

I have read through this thread and cant believe some of the advice! turn the other cheek is nice - but verbal abuse is corrosive and eats at the childs self esteem until they underperform. or commit suicide.
hitting back only works if the hitter isnt caught.
or hitting back isnt an option as the bully has at least three or four friends as back up.
some schools wont admit they have a bullying problem...and the measures they claim they have to deal with are so much fluff.
Raksha has a real problem and so far - I havent seen much real advice.
CAHMS doesnt seem to help - try your GP Raksha and ask for adhd testing - if its negative it gives you more ammunition against the school for thier bullying policy not working
to be honest - it sounds to me as if your son has just had enough - is it a rough school? if he continues to take no !!!!! then perhaps they will leave him alone?
In your place I would be fuming - and considering alternative methods of education.

Raksha

Thanks Meritaten.

Strangely I was talking to my hairdresser, (as you do) about it yesterday, and when I told her which school it was, she told me she'd had three clients just in the last week whose children were having problems with being bullied at the same school. One in the same year as my boy, and they are moving her to another school. I really don't want to take that sort of action as he has an older brother at the same school and they share a lot of friends, as well as the friends he has in his own year - he doesn't make friends easily as he's the opposite to Jellyhead's boy - he far more mature than most 12/13 year olds, he's often more mature than my 14 nearly 15 year old, he's intelligent (particularly in Science where he's currently studying at level 6 instead of level 3) He was on the G & T register at his Junior School, but I'm struggling to get his current school to asses him for their G & T register. He's currently on a 'report card' and no indication of him being disruptive, but he is slow to settle to his work, and one or two of the teachers aren't satisfied with the amount of work he produces in a lesson - this contrasts with the amount of work he produced when he was working at home alone......

The school isn't the roughest in the area (we deliberately didn't choose the closest school to us because of the reputation it has)

tesuhoha

I work in a secondary school dealing with admissions. From my experience bullying goes on in every school. In spite of a stringent anti-bullying policy we have students leave us because of bullying, equally we have a large number of students come to us who have also been bullied who settle down and have no further problem. Why this happens I dont know but perhaps a pattern is established which sometimes can only be broken by changing to another school. Perhaps that is the answer, maybe your son should transfer to another school.

southend

Raksha wrote: »

Hi Southend, just to let you know I'm thinking of you and your son. I wish I could take pictures of my son's misery.

Raksha; thinking of you very much too. I think of you and your family regulary and really wish i knew how to help you.. You need support, understanding, advice and help. Im suprised you have not been offered something that is effective. Sorry i havnt read all of your problems, but i have a good idea and i think you need some specialist help here. This misery should not be continuing ( started) there is a problem and it needs addressing, but you dont need to be told that. As you know your children best and things are not always easy to explain, maybe some sort of charity, legal advice line, never mind NHS support. I am sorry i know very little.

I think we are all thinking of eachother on this thread, whether we agree or disagree, i believe it is nice to know someone else cares enough to understand and maybe reply