#3 son possible exclusion for hitting a bully

jellyhead

southend wrote: »

they will move my son out of French and put him into German lessons, only agreed as he likes German. They are taking action but only time will tell. Son up again till 2.30am again and up by 5.30 -6.00am terrified about the day. They now tell me they have now got certain clubs i didnt know they, install some confidence etc and as a last resort counselling will be offered. Hopefully it will work out but atleast since September they are now listening and they knew he did not feel safe at school.

Thank you to everyone, he feels listened to now and that people care.

That's excellent news - it makes all the difference doesn't it, knowing that somebody listens and somebody does give a monkeys.

What club is it for self esteem? My son went into a little class one lesson a week in year 7, for self esteem. There were only 2 boys in this class and they got to play scrabble and uno, and eat biscuits with a lovely lady. The idea was to help teach them skills such as how to lose without being upset, how to work together to solve problems, they would talk about what they might do in certain situations, and they could talk to this lady about anything really - even moan about parents.

It helped make them feel more confident and happy in school, and they sort of made friends with each other too.

Is your boy allowed to ask to move seats if the teachers put him next to someone who makes him uncomfortable? It may be worth asking.

Your poor boy being so scared that he can't sleep, I just wanted to give him a hug when I read that I hope things improve!

esmf73

Hi,
I searched for Dyspraxia and came up with this thread as my son may well have it. But I was more concerned about the school not wanting you to contact the Local Education Authority - why not? Surely they should be transparent as possible.

southend

jellyhead wrote: »

That's excellent news - it makes all the difference doesn't it, knowing that somebody listens and somebody does give a monkeys.

What club is it for self esteem? My son went into a little class one lesson a week in year 7, for self esteem. There were only 2 boys in this class and they got to play scrabble and uno, and eat biscuits with a lovely lady. The idea was to help teach them skills such as how to lose without being upset, how to work together to solve problems, they would talk about what they might do in certain situations, and they could talk to this lady about anything really - even moan about parents.

It helped make them feel more confident and happy in school, and they sort of made friends with each other too.

Is your boy allowed to ask to move seats if the teachers put him next to someone who makes him uncomfortable? It may be worth asking.


Your poor boy being so scared that he can't sleep, I just wanted to give him a hug when I read that I hope things improve!

They have tried this, put the other boys behind him at an angle, they have been pinching his pens, swearing (whispering) etc, my son swears back, which he does not swear but i told the scholl i knew about it. The problem is they now want to move him out of his tutor group. Starting to be concerned whether or not they are just trying to shut me up.
I will wait and see and keep an extra eye on him and give him alot more attention, going away this week to the seesiade - he loves it there. Just pleased its 1/2 term

southend

Raksha wrote: »

Hi Southend, just to let you know I'm thinking of you and your son. I wish I could take pictures of my son's misery.

Thanks, but you honestly don't want to, it distresses him more, ive had to ta photos when he has the short sleeps/doze, otherwise he is ashamed,depressed and feels its all his fault, even though it has been confirmed he is innocent and does not feel safe in school (head of year 7)

Yet again a BIG THANK TO YOU ALL

Raksha

Hi Southend, that's just why I don't.

We had the 'reintegration' meeting this morning (OH was zoned out having just completed a 10 hour night shift after very little sleep yesterday). The school did the usual 'we can't have pupils going around thumping people' talk, but have offered to try and arrange some sessions with Connexions so the lad can develop some control of his emotions, anger, frustration and build his self confidence. It was heart breaking to see him so relieved he was nearly crying again.

southend

jellyhead wrote: »

That's excellent news - it makes all the difference doesn't it, knowing that somebody listens and somebody does give a monkeys.

What club is it for self esteem? My son went into a little class one lesson a week in year 7, for self esteem. There were only 2 boys in this class and they got to play scrabble and uno, and eat biscuits with a lovely lady. The idea was to help teach them skills such as how to lose without being upset, how to work together to solve problems, they would talk about what they might do in certain situations, and they could talk to this lady about anything really - even moan about parents.

It helped make them feel more confident and happy in school, and they sort of made friends with each other too.

Is your boy allowed to ask to move seats if the teachers put him next to someone who makes him uncomfortable? It may be worth asking.

Your poor boy being so scared that he can't sleep, I just wanted to give him a hug when I read that I hope things improve!

Its a very similar thing really and my son needs to make son male friends as the friends he had were so worried about being bullied like him they are scared so they have now moved on so to speak - it is understandable really.
I am glad it help you that is very promising

southend

esmf73 wrote: »

Hi,
I searched for Dyspraxia and came up with this thread as my son may well have it. But I was more concerned about the school not wanting you to contact the Local Education Authority - why not? Surely they should be transparent as possible.

THEY HAVE A MASSIVE BULLYING PROBLEM THERE. They are under threat at the moment by the education authority. So i have tried firstly to work with the school for my sons benefit, if it doesnt work next term they will have some serious words from myself and others and he may have to change school. They did mention he could dye his hair so he fits in, i explained that a hairdresser has advised against this at the moment as he is too young.

THANKS SO MUCH FOR CARING

jellyhead

hi, yes it did help my son. He doesn't have many friends and he still doesn't really 'fit in' but that's just him, and he's young for his age. He feels safer now though, and feels like something will be done if he has a problem.

He's always going to be behind the others emotionally, socially, etc. and he'll always be tiny. fitting in is always going to be a struggle, but at least he's not getting bullied

School told me that by year 9 most children who find primary difficult will start to settle.

I hope it works out for you, and Raksha's son.

southend

jellyhead wrote: »

hi, yes it did help my son. He doesn't have many friends and he still doesn't really 'fit in' but that's just him, and he's young for his age. He feels safer now though, and feels like something will be done if he has a problem.

He's always going to be behind the others emotionally, socially, etc. and he'll always be tiny. fitting in is always going to be a struggle, but at least he's not getting bullied

School told me that by year 9 most children who find primary difficult will start to settle.

I hope it works out for you, and Raksha's son.

I really feel for your son but i am so glad someone has started to listen and help especially if the bullying has stopped completly, but to to have to wait until year 9, its a really long time. I am sure he will get there.

To everyones child/ren who are/have been bullied, its NOT YOUR FAULT. I know you feel useless, but you are not and you are not alone.

southend

woody01 wrote: »

What a ridiculously ill-informed comment. It's nothing to do with 'some disagreeing' when you are totally wrong.
Since when has being a ginge been race related?

The Best Way To Deal With Bullying
My daughter is disabled but goes to mainstream school, and as children can be cruel, she was called a few names relating to her disability.

The teachers had a word with the offender - no change
The head had a word with the offender - no change
The school spoke to the parents - no change (they are complete peasants)

Anyway, i had enough!
I am 6ft 2ins and 15 stone so quite imposing.
I found out where the people lived and knocked on the door. The chief gorilla (dad) answered so i was polite and requested that he puts his foot down with his son (scummy offspring). The dad thought this was amusing and said he didnt care.
No more Mr Nce Guy!

I put one foot inside his front door and told him in no uncertain terms, that the next time his child bullies mine, i will come round and bully him (the father), twice as hard as his son bullies my child.

Guess what...it's stopped

Good for you. I hate the word disabled/disability, it makes me shudder. Your daughter is able, to me anyway. We all are some even if its very little. I do empathize you and you sound like a very proud, solid dad - well done you