ARGH!!! Husband with money and attitude!

wigglebeena

Unless you're 94 then everyone knows what 'troll' means.

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ifonlyitwaseasier

wigglebeena wrote: »

Unless you're 94 then everyone knows what 'troll' means.

i have to admit i didn't until i'd been on mse for a while, just wasn't sthg i'd heard before

mrbrightside842

He's only been out 3 times this month? And you have a new baby? Damn right I'd be going on the holiday without him.

happyhaddock_2

Hi CR have read the thread from the beginning and can't believe how many people have jumped on you, seems that some just want to see others miserable:( just wanted to send hugs and say glad you got it sorted :kisses3: Bet you'll think twice before posting about your relationship now;):D

confusedroast

Defo wont be posting agin - have just been accused of lying now as well!
Oh well will continue to be a reader and not post

thanks to those who have genuinely given me some insight, and to the others re-look at you glass and see it as half full and not half empty

choccybuttons

Hi

Have not read all posts but wanted you to know this is how we work. DH had direct debit going to my account each month for an amount we agreed on. Then the money thats left in his account ie £300 etc knows that is his to spend. He think its great. He knows all the bills are paid, that the money is sitting for food etc for the month and what he has is his own is to do as he wishes. If he wants to buy a load of dvd's he can, if he wants to put a bit into his saving he does so. Its not treating him like a child its working to our strengths. Im good with organising and money; he hates sorting money. Plus his credit rating is poor so seperate accounts suit us fine. Oh and we have been married for 6 years, together 8.

I spent my first year bailing him out when his car broke etc so we organised this system. I have account for joint saving and have included that in the money he gives me so he know we have a fund if something goes wrong with his car etc. Oh and spending money is equal, we both has the same. Plus DH ditched the credit card as he ran up big debts before we met and I made it clear I wouldnt accept him doing it again as being finacially secure is important to me.

You can over come the worse money stuff if you find what works for you.

Good luck.

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Spirit_2

I am sorry that you have been given a hard time.

Whatever happened to be nice to all money savers?

suzyp1982

Roasty, ignore the bored peeps.

I feel for you, its very hard to make people change when they are used to having something a certain way for years. Effectively its changing a habit of a lifetime.

Good luck and i hope that he see's the logic and sense.
Personally i think the best way would be if you both had pocket money and the rest went into a joint account for bills/pressies/xmas/holidays/car essentials etc then pocket money for nights out/stag do's/mates days/clothing etc - but of course the pocket money should be the same amount

mrs_T

Don't mean to depress you but oh is not speaking to me after money row today and we've been married 24 years! We've never had a joint bank a/c other than mortgage which is joint in name only, he chooses to pay that as it makes him feel we live in his house! I don't think this would have any legal legitamacy.

This has never been my choice but when we got together he was still living with his mum at the age of 28 and had savings which I didn't which always gave him the moral high ground. He told me what bills he'd pay and what I was to pay for. 3 kids later and no discussion of ever being a sahm (why should he keep me when he has to work?) I now get much the same as him as I get family allowance paid to me as well.

Definitely think twice about more kids until you get things sorted.