I'm going to kill my husband to be!!

Eric_Pisch

bubbles0169 wrote: »

aw shell! i bet your frustrated!
tsk typical bloke reply eric thank you!
no seriously cos now shell, if i was you id just organise it all yourself, tell him what your doing when youve done it, then that way your not hitting a brick wall all the time and he just has to worry about the day when it comes
except that he hasnt got anything to worry about cos it WILL (eric/mr shell2b!) be one of the best days of his life

hmm first time i did a sub 9.00 min lap of the ring or my wedding

which was the best day of my life hmmmmm

I think the difference is girls seam to be brain washed from a young age about the perfect wedding, princess, my little ponys, etc and for a very long time

and the mean time guys are just blowing !!!! up with there action men :A

seriously we never think about it, never talk about it, when we tell our mates the conversation lasts 30 seconds and goes like this

Groom: Im getting married

Mate 1: Idiot
Mate 2: Gratz, *snigger*
Mate 3: Woot, stag night, wheres the best beer and strippers

conversation then goes into the best stag night venues for 4 hours

Job done.

Eric_Pisch

sunshine_shell wrote: »

you obviously aren't my husband to be!!! He is thinking about it all the time and getting himself so worked up that i can't ask him a single question without my head getting ripped off.

Wedding planning is meant to be exciting for the bride and all i want to do and am doing is cry. I'm so miserable i don't want to get married.

getting hyper stressed by the speech and the money can do that

i told my missus do what you like, just stick to the budget and she did, if hes not bothered go with what you like

DKLS

My job in the planning of my wedding was to nod my head at appropriate moments, make encouraging noises when made to look at invitations, flowers, cars etc, sort the honeymoon and pay for everything.


I understand his fears about public speaking, whilst I can happily talk in front of a 1000 people for an hour the thought of giving a short speech in front of 40 friends and rellies filled me with fear and just like everything in life the fear of doing something is infinitely worse than the reality. (One day I will learn that one)

I ended up really enjoying the speech.

sunshine_shell

men.............. i give up!!

Stephb1986_2

Hmmm me and you both love!!!

Steph xx

Eric_Pisch

sunshine_shell wrote: »

men.............. i give up!!

think of us as accessories for you barbie house

get all the things you like, arrange it how you want

then tell us what to wear, where to stand and what to say

simple

give us alcohol and meat and we will be happy

sunshine_shell

Eric_Pisch wrote: »

think of us as accessories for you barbie house

get all the things you like, arrange it how you want

then tell us what to wear, where to stand and what to say

simple

give us alcohol and meat and we will be happy

I wish it was that easy with him, but he's telling me i'm forcing him to do stuff he doesn't want to do and i'm not!! He's the one who invited his whole family pushing our guest list from 17 to over 30 :eek: , he's the one who wanted a bloody marquee instead of the nice small room i was going to hire. He's the one that thinks he's the only one bobbing their pants about this, he thinks because i'm a teacher and i talk to kids all day i'll be fine about it all and i'm not.

The only thing i actually want is to do is go to Australia for 3 weeks for our honeymoon and funnily enough he doesn't want to do that :mad:

gandy

sunshine_shell wrote: »

I wish it was that easy with him, but he's telling me i'm forcing him to do stuff he doesn't want to do and i'm not!! He's the one who invited his whole family pushing our guest list from 17 to over 30 :eek: , he's the one who wanted a bloody marquee instead of the nice small room i was going to hire. He's the one that thinks he's the only one bobbing their pants about this, he thinks because i'm a teacher and i talk to kids all day i'll be fine about it all and i'm not.

The only thing i actually want is to do is go to Australia for 3 weeks for our honeymoon and funnily enough he doesn't want to do that :mad:

then i think you need to sit him down and say that at the moment he's giving you additional stress by being unco-operative. you just want him to be involved in the choices for a day that should be important to both of you.

you want to celebrate becoming man and wife and at the moment it's not looking very much like a celebration just a stress filled day.

tell him that while you know he doesn't have to decide on everything a little help and interest would be nice (and less likely to get him killed! )

Alyssa_C_2

Oh Honey! Bless you. I think gandys idea is the best one, tell him that this is supposed to be the best day for both of you. You're not asking for the earth, just some help and for him to be enthused. I have finally seemed to get decent responses from OH, he's getting into the swing of it now.
I'm not going to justify responding to eric. Methinks he's trying to wind up the stressed crazy females. :cool:

sunshine_shell

I'm just not going to talk to him about it because it just ends in a fight,

its meant to be a really exciting time and all i want to do is cry