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I'm going to kill my husband to be!!
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its not even about colours and dresses that he won't talk about, i know he's not bothered about that, aslong as he wears a suit i can do what i want. Its the date and who is coming and where are we going to have the do and basic important stuff!!0
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Sunshine, you are spot on! I don't want help with all the fiddly 'girly' bits, just some help with invites and actually pretending to care for a bit! :rotfl:It's a phrase I use with him a lot, he knows to pay attention for about 3 minutes and then he can switch off again.0
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it's definitely a man thing, i've said to my oh that i want his help and sometimes he's great and other times he couldn't care less.
my major problem is that when i do make a decision cause he's just said "whatever" to my question he then grumbles about what i've chosen.
hence the reason that we're not very far forward in our planning, luckily we still have 13 months to go before the wedding. normally because we're so busy during the week we keep the planning for weekends anyway but the no pouncing questions on him during the week might help with stopping him grumbling that all we talk about is the wedding lol!0 -
Can I add another thing?
It is far far to early for a bloke to be interested in planning anything. The date is far away because hes scared.
The one thing this works in your favour to do is set a date. Keep it very short, slot it into a conversation - you will likely get agreement with no thought whatsoever
something like..
I think August 23rd would be a good date for the wedding
Thats it - he will give you a yes or no, after that leave the wedding talk for as long as you can i.e. not again that week!
when you have a date you can do more on your own, you can narrow potential venues down etc and start getting bridal party involved so you have people to share your excitement
Your OH sounds like one who can't really visualise yet cos its too far away - many blokes are like this.
I have many conversations about the wedding with OH but they are all about practical things, such as who needs to be where. Where possible I have kept him out of details as to him, dresses are all white
and he really doesn't give 2 hoots about themes etc.
If I need an opinion i present him with a choice of 2 and he'll give me an honest answer about which he likes best.
I honestly feel sorry for blokes who are supposed to be excited about all that stuff, if you've got one who is great, but girls, please give your OHs a break if they aren't and find someone who will do the demented seal wedding clapping with you (you know what i mean)Had a thrifty wedding 17-06-10
expecting triplets in Jul/ Aug 2012 :eek::eek::eek::grinheart:grinheart:grinheart0 -
The one thing this works in your favour to do is set a date. Keep it very short, slot it into a conversation - you will likely get agreement with no thought whatsoever
something like..
I think August 23rd would be a good date for the wedding
Thats it - he will give you a yes or no, after that leave the wedding talk for as long as you can i.e. not again that week!
when you have a date you can do more on your own, you can narrow potential venues down etc and start getting bridal party involved so you have people to share your excitement
Your OH sounds like one who can't really visualise yet cos its too far away - many blokes are like this.
HE WON'T EVEN SET A DATE!!!! I don't care if he's not bothered about colours and all the girly stuff i just want help with who, what, where and when.0 -
I was adamant that we couldn't have the wedding on a Saturday during football season. On last count their are 12 season ticket holders from various clubs attending our wedding. I didn't want to have to ask my guests to miss matches for our day. Its not so bad if the wedding is at the start of the season but the end of the season is a no go. I also didn't want all the guests checking their phones and talking football all day either. "How did Chelsea do? And Utd Who scored? Good for the dream team" We therefore went for the 4th June 2011. which is the week after the Champions League final at Wembley.
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I'm back AND with a date booked but its still like trying to get blood out of a stone! He made me cry today, he says he wants to be married to me he just doesn't want to get married. Yet last night he wanted me to get quotes for a marquee!!
I don't know where i stand anymore and i just want to quit yet i haven't actually started anything.
I don't know what to do!0 -
wanttogetwed wrote: »Think it's a man thing - my OH just wants to know where he should be and when. Saying that I was moaning other day because my football team is playing a big game the day we get married. I've just got on with it - he knows what he has to do on the day and has no idea about decorations so I am quite happy for him to do the 'man stuff'.
its a meaningless day for us blokes apart from the expense
the booze 
and a chance to cop of with the maid of honour :rotfl:
we do it to keep you happy, we don't spend our lives thinking about it, in fact the first time it dawns on us is the night before when we start bricking our selves, we just dont care about the day0 -
aw shell! i bet your frustrated!
tsk typical bloke reply eric thank you!
no seriously cos now shell, if i was you id just organise it all yourself, tell him what your doing when youve done it, then that way your not hitting a brick wall all the time and he just has to worry about the day when it comes
except that he hasnt got anything to worry about cos it WILL (eric/mr shell2b!) be one of the best days of his life
I am not bossy I just have better ideas:p0 -
Eric_Pisch wrote: »its a meaningless day for us blokes apart from the expense the booze and a chance to cop of with the maid of honour :rotfl:
we do it to keep you happy, we don't spend our lives thinking about it, in fact the first time it dawns on us is the night before when we start bricking our selves, we just dont care about the day
you obviously aren't my husband to be!!! He is thinking about it all the time and getting himself so worked up that i can't ask him a single question without my head getting ripped off.
Wedding planning is meant to be exciting for the bride and all i want to do and am doing is cry. I'm so miserable i don't want to get married.0
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