Diplomatic dilemma re: in-laws and moving - any advice?

IlonaRN

RacyRed wrote: »

The normal rule is that days of arrival in and departure from the UK are ignored in counting the days spent in the UK.

I thought this had recently changed to including days of departure and arrival as days spent in the UK?

welshy_2002

Read some good replies and quite a few harsh ones.

Let's not forget your in-laws put a roof over your OH's head for a good portion of her life.

I also find it a little suprising (or maybe not) that it is not your OH who is on here, seeking advice.

At the end of the day, they are her parents; she should have the courage and a good enough relationship with them, to speak her mind and for them to listen... All the above ideas about not giving them keys and putting them on uncomfortable beds is just skipping around the issue..

Get your OH to tell them...

Goodluck

Errata

Let's not forget your in-laws put a roof over your OH's head for a good portion of her life

That's true, parents tend to do that sort of thing. It doesn't mean that children must return the favour - that's not how the world works.

Seems to me, the situation has arisen out of 'custom and practice' especially if the outlaws were doing it before the OP arrived on the scene. Nothing for it but the conversation that starts "We're so looking forward to our first new home as a couple, and obviously that changes the way we look at things and the way things will work best for us. You've been so welcome to stay and we love you to bits, but if you put yourselves in our shoes you're sure to agree that we all need to sit down together and work out how things should be when we move so that everyone's happy and relationships don't become strained".

Having said that, it really is a highly unusual situation and will take tolerance and affection from all parties concerned. Best of luck.