Who should pay?

kindofagilr

When my now OH asked me out he paid for our first date, then we would go halves on any dates after that, we now live together, are engaged, are having a baby and have a joiint account so it doesnt matter who pays lol we share money now

Lotus-eater

Definitely half/ half, have you seen the cost of a large bag of chips and a sausage now a days?

Anyway, don't know about sexy underwear, but my collection of "fun" toys should prove I'm not adverse to spending a few quid, later in the evening

(Hypothetically) ..........I'm married.

ailuro2

I'd never ever expect the other person to pay for the whole night.

If they wanted to pay for the meal, then I'd make sure I was first at the bar if we went on to a pub....

If you expect people to pay you for your company, then you need to consider the way you and others regard you... unless of course you don't mind being seen as nothing more than a hooker.:eek::rotfl:

SugarSpun

I prefer an approximate 50/50 split, but I find it really uncomfortable when someone takes the bill and works out the difference to the penny (I once went on a date with a guy who thought that because I was drinking wine I owed more than him because he was drinking beer and actually used the calculator option on his phone to figure out the bill - turned out that his three beers cost more than my two wines, who knew!?). So if I was out with someone, I'd pull out my purse when the bill turned up and if my date insisted on covering dinner I'd make sure I got the drinks in afterwards. Or if we went to see a film and he got the tickets I'd get drinks and popcorn. Or if one of us made dinner at home, the other would bring nice wine.

That's just how it works for me: things don't have to be a precisely even split but everyone has to be contributing.

blue-bells_2

When I was single I always made a point of paying for at least something on the first date- looking back though I think I might have been abit pushy with this! However, I think it depends on what the date is. If we were, say, in a bar I would expect us to take it in turns buying drinks. If a man asked me for dinner though I would actually have felt a bit miffed if he didn't offer to pay. I may have still wanted to pay half but I think the offer should be there.

I've actually had this conversation with male friends in the past and the general feeling is that they actually want to pay on the first date and would feel rude if they didn't offer to do so.

blue-bells_2

Just remembered, when I was at uni my housemate had a date and brought him back to ours for the night... in the morning he asked her for half the money for his cab fare home! :rotfl:What a gent!

Lotus-eater

blue-bells wrote: »

Just remembered, when I was at uni my housemate had a date and brought him back to ours for the night... in the morning he asked her for half the money for his cab fare home! :rotfl:What a gent!

He's a keeper

FATBALLZ

Women either you want equality or you don't. If you expect to be able to freeload off a man then at least quit whining about equal pay/sexism/men pinching your bum.

kat74

I expect to pay 50/50. Sometimes the man insists on paying, and I accept graciously, but I'd say 80% of the time the bill is split. I think it can depend on who asks and how they ask though - "can I take you out for dinner?" is different to "lets go out for dinner", but in either case I'd always have enough cash on me to pay for my share.

Hermia

I think whoever does the asking out should pay for the first date. After all they will probably be choosing the restaurant and it might be a place that the other person couldn't possibly afford. I also think it's just horribly awkward to suddenly get your purse out in the restaurant on a first date and start having the debate over who is paying. I would always offer to pay for the taxi or drinks, but probably wouldn't insist on paying if the chap put up a fight. I have had blokes tell me that they like to pay on a first date.

On the second date I would insist on paying more and after that it should be roughly half and half. Although if one person is earning a lot more than the other it seems a bit unfair to go half and half. My friend earns 6 times as much as her boyfriend so she does pay for more things otherwise he'd be broke.