DLA for incontinence

skcollobcat10

MrsHelpful wrote: »

Yes and a blue badge as both his consultant and the council felt he needed one.

The consultant or the council do not normally worry themselves as to whether a person gets benefits or not or a blue badge. It is not in their remit. A consultant is there to diagnose and treat not to have a discussion on making sure that the person gets a blue badge or the correct benefits.

Oldernotwiser

MrsHelpful wrote: »

I would also like to give a special mention to Sunnyone for her comments, and also to Oldernotwiser who agreed and thanked a poster for suggesting a 38 year old man wear a nappy. I thanked that poster in error for his nappy post.

My understanding of the word "nappy" referred to an incontinence pad which was what clb776 also seems to have been referring to. As you say in a later post that he actually uses these, I cannot see why you should take offence at this comment.

sunnyone

MrsHelpful wrote: »

I would like to say a massive thank you to everyone for your kindness and compassion over what is a fairly debillatating and embarrassing problem for the person involved.

I would also like to give a special mention to Sunnyone for her comments, and also to Oldernotwiser who agreed and thanked a poster for suggesting a 38 year old man wear a nappy. I thanked that poster in error for his nappy post.

God forbid one of your loved ones are born with such problems, and I am sure if they were then you would not be packing them off to work in a nappy at 38 years of age. He works full time and always has, maybe you should show some empathy and compassion to people less fortunate than yourselves.

Im a women who has had serious bleeding problem 4 out of every 5 week and I wore incontinace aids because they were the only solution to allow me to leave the house, that is at least as bad as incontinance, I am also used to having a relative with full incontinance leading a relativly normal life.

He isnt less fortunate than many people, he can walk and work and with continace care offered by the NHS he should have minimal problems.

Have you changed back to your real name or still the AE?

Surely you understand DLA since you have just been awarded DLA LRC/LRM and your DD has autism?

skcollobcat10

MrsHelpful wrote: »

Yes and a blue badge as both his consultant and the council felt he needed one. Oh and for the record my DD has one too for being autistic, fully mobile but has a blue badge, they are not only awarded for mobility problems.

I was asking for a bit of advice not to be slated if it's all the same. Had I come here and said how can he give up work and live off benefits, fair enough. Am really sorry that you felt the need to respond the way you did. His BB was given for a legitimate reason, and I have no need to justify that.

Why are you worrying about your former husband, surely his new wife should worry instead?

Oldernotwiser

MrsHelpful wrote: »

Thanks for that Bogof_Babe, he receives every month boxes of incontinence pads free from the NHS, which are delivered to his home.

So why have you taken such great offence at the idea that he might use them?

shegirl

MrsHelpful wrote: »

He is only 38 now, would you want to wear a nappy to go to work (that is not a sarcastic reply just a genuine question, incase it comes across as sarcastic)? If he was 78 and not working then nappies probably would be ok. He does have incontinence pads delivered every month which are like mattress thick sanitary towels, but because he has no nerve endings reaching his bladder, if he doesn't visit a toilet every 30 minutes he just overflows.

His surgery involved a pioneering bionic valve which is activated by use of an implanted button in his nether regions, but as he has no sensation of wanting to use the toilet accidents happen all the time.

If it were me I would be sat at home, but he wants to work and enjoys working.

If there is an alternate continence product surely he should try it!What's more humiliating -wearing a chunkier product (can still be hidden) or wetting clothes?

MrsHelpful

sunnyone wrote: »

Im a women who has had serious bleeding problem 4 out of every 5 week and I wore incontinace aids because they were the only solution to allow me to leave the house, that is at least as bad as incontinance, I am also used to having a relative with full incontinance leading a relativly normal life.

He isnt less fortunate than many people, he can walk and work and with continace care offered by the NHS he should have minimal problems.

Have you changed back to your real name or still the AE?

Surely you understand DLA since you have just been awarded DLA LRC/LRM and your DD has autism?

Not sure what AE is, I personally do not receive any form of DLA as I am fit and well and work part time, my DD receives DLA at HRC/LRM.
Am also sure that if your bleeding problems were as severe as you claim them to be then you would have had a hysteroectomy or endometrial ablation as a matter of urgency.

MrsHelpful

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

My understanding of the word "nappy" referred to an incontinence pad which was what clb776 also seems to have been referring to. As you say in a later post that he actually uses these, I cannot see why you should take offence at this comment.

Am not getting into any form of argument, but am sure you are fully aware of the difference between a pad and a nappy.

MrsHelpful

skcollobcat10 wrote: »

Why are you worrying about your former husband, surely his new wife should worry instead?

He is my best friend and has been since 1992 before we ever became a couple.

LondonDiva

MrsHelpful wrote: »

Thanks for that Bogof_Babe, he receives every month boxes of incontinence pads free from the NHS, which are delivered to his home.

If he is getting free NHS continence products and has access to the specialist adivce and support from a consultant asa well as the PCT bladder & bowel team, what additional needs would he have requiring DLA?

If he's leaking at night, it suggests that he's not got the correct type for nights. If he's leaking in the day it strongly implies that he's not changing his bag / pads often enough and he may need to make an appointment to a, be reassessed to ensure the pads are the correct level for him or b, to review his use of the products to ensure that he is using them appropriately and changing them often enough.

He will be provided with more pads than he needs at anytime, so the leaking strongly suggests a need for help to use the support he already has, to save him needing to do any additional washing.

What other issues or expenses have come up which require the DLA?