Anyone Child Free By Choice?

angelicmary85

Person_one wrote: »

Joking or not, I really don't like that kind of comment. Yes, there are bound to be people who play the system, but the system exists because there are far far more people who fall on hard times or aren't as able as others to cope and genuinely need help. This doesn't make them some sort of subhuman underclass.

I agree completely that some people struggle through no fault of their own...look what happened when MG Rover went bust, all those guys were out of work through no fault of their own.

Don't get me wrong, I understand why benefits are in place...I very nearly got into a debate just the oher day with an anti-benefit MSE user...she didn't come back after one post though.

KimYeovil wrote: »

I can't imagine anyone being child-free through choice.

That's quite a controversial statement to make on a CFBC thread!

Person_one

venus1978 wrote: »

And when did I say anything about a subhuman underclass ? No I made light of someone elses comments about sterilisation and had a bit of a rant about the spongers who do not want to work and just want to play the system and claim the maxiumum ammount they can.

My comment was aimed more at worriedjim and anyone who agreed with him, quoting you was probably a bit confusing!

euronorris

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I refuse to get married...I won't do it now or in the future...I don't think you need a piece of paper and your OH's surname to be happy!

Ah, I do, as you already know! haha. But, if it didn't happen, for whatever reason, I'd still be just as happy and I completely agree that it isn't necessary.

Not sure I'll bother changing the surname anyway though tbh. They'll think I'm taking the p'ss when I try to change it from Norris to Morris! :rotfl::rotfl:

venus1978

Person_one wrote: »

My comment was aimed more at worriedjim and anyone who agreed with him, quoting you was probably a bit confusing!

Ah ok thanks.

angelicmary85

euronorris wrote: »

Ah, I do, as you already know! haha. But, if it didn't happen, for whatever reason, I'd still be just as happy and I completely agree that it isn't necessary.

Not sure I'll bother changing the surname anyway though tbh. They'll think I'm taking the p'ss when I try to change it from Norris to Morris! :rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl:I hate being the centre of attention so if I ever had to get married (i.e lying on my death bed and we had to be married for OH to get the kids then I'd do it!) I'd make sure there was only 2 witnesses there!!

venus1978

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I refuse to get married...I won't do it now or in the future...I don't think you need a piece of paper and your OH's surname to be happy!

If you ever did that'll really start the, When are you having a baby ? questions lol.

*Maya*

ceridwen wrote: »

... I suspect that a lot of women are looking at the World of Work these days (and - no I dont mean just chavs!..) and deciding "That doesnt look very attractive to me - I'll have a career at Mummyhood and leave my husband and/or the State (ie the rest of us) to pay my 'wages' " ....:cool::think::silenced::silenced::silenced:
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Why have you used the silent smilie when you've already said exactly what you think? :huh:
I can't believe you have said that women have children as a way to get out of working and let other people pay for them. Do you realise how many women work outside the home and DO have children? Do you realise that for any mother who takes parenting seriously, being a stay at home mother is hardly an easy option. I think that that is such an ignorant opinion and stems from reading too many Daily Mail articles on benefits scroungers.:( And I see alot of people these days who knew they never wanted kids but now say " I'm not having them because the world is overpopulated!!" And I am child free, though not by choice and I do hope to have them one day but I wouldn't say anyone was odd for not having them.

venus1978

angelicmary85 wrote: »

:rotfl:I hate being the centre of attention so if I ever had to get married (i.e lying on my death bed and we had to be married for OH to get the kids then I'd do it!) I'd make sure there was only 2 witness' there!!

But you have to have the BIG PINK FOOFY DRESS !!! How could you possibly turn that oportunity down:D

euronorris

venus1978 wrote: »

But you have to have the BIG PINK FOOFY DRESS !!! How could you possibly turn that oportunity down:D

Hahahaha, DON'T DO IT! Sorry, but I'm neither a fan of pink or big poofy dresses!

My OH also hates being the centre of attention, but that's fine, I can be the centre of attention instead!

SandC

I can understand that the whole point of existence is to reproduce and carry on the existence. But what some of the people who don't understand those of us who don't have the maternal or paternal urge is that society has been skewed beyond all recognition of merely populating.

It isn't natural to have stopped the illnesses that would regularly contain overpopulation by having a high child mortality rate. It isn't natural to control your procreating with contraception. It isn't natural to stray further than the next door field to find your 'mate'.

We can never be sure that the urge to reproduce was always there in neanderthal man and woman.

It's quite a deep subject when you really start thinking about it. But society has grown to give us choices and that is what we are doing!