Am I being paranoid?

*Louise*

Just a thought....book your OWN holiday in Greece for the week you have off in August

Bonnie2009

LabLover wrote: »

Badpenny - yeah she ruined our chances of a caravan holiday , and the only way I can get another holiday is if I dip into mortgage funds and go with my sister who is a teacher and can only go in school holidays which means its very expensive.

But then your MIL claims the school holidays are the cheapest time?

Maybe you should encourage your OH to go away with his mum somewhere when you go away with your family (and btw that sounds a lovely thing that you do together). It might be that your MIL has been seething that you go with your family and that she never has the chance to have her 'children' together.

As for this year - I agree she's been an absolute b*tch. I wouldn't worry about going round to her house and listening to her planning the holiday - I wouldn't be going there at all.

As for your OH - as far as his mother's concerned, he's obviously blinkered and I doubt whether that will change any time soon. I think I'd avoid criticising her, though, because that may alter his relationship with you and as you love him, you wouldn't want that. I would just never, ever speak to her about holiday plans again - either your plans or hers.

Bruja_2

She's a cow. I would tell her that I COULD get the time off after all so I'll be coming too. Let her book it and pay for it and she'll be feeling so sick for months that her plan didn't work even though you're not really going. Once she's booked it and you know the details find out if the weeks you can go will be cheaper and if they are call her bluff .

jellyhead

lol Bruja, that's evil

jellyhead

LabLover wrote: »

Badpenny - yeah she ruined our chances of a caravan holiday , and the only way I can get another holiday is if I dip into mortgage funds and go with my sister who is a teacher and can only go in school holidays which means its very expensive.

The sun will be running another one of those token promotions - they do 3 or 4 a year I think.

I have already booked mine (we can only afford one holiday this year, so that's us sorted) so if I get sent a priority code for the next lot of holidays I'll let you use it. The priority code lets you give them 3 dates and 3 parks, then they make you an offer which you can accept, or go back and rejig your criteria. It's probably better for you if you are tied to certain dates you can have time off work.

jellyhead

LabLover wrote: »

P.S He will be going with his mum and dad , his sister and her child (she doesnt have a partner) but he is a mummys boy and Ive told him before that im his family now

Was it because of the child that it was difficult to arrange a time when you could all go together? When we went abroad with the inlaws 2 years ago we said my eldest could not have any time off school so they had to work around that and also SIL's work (everyone else has more flexibility as to when they take time off).

Maybe school holidays is the only time that the child can go?

tandraig

hun, you really have to learn the MIL game - my MIL was very nice to me but my oldest SIL could have been a clone of your MIL! and it wasnt until my husband caught her out in a downright lie that he started to learn to believe me and not her! looking back i should have played her at her own game - but was wasnt devious enough. would have prevented a whole load of pain and anguish which she delighted in causing me - hoping i am sure to spark a row which would break me and husband up! she didnt think i was good enough for him and told me to my face at my wedding reception she only gave us six months - and no hubby didnt believe me when i told him and she denied it!

neneromanova

Right, here is my OH's response to this matter (thought you could do with a male opinion apart from lotus eater)

"Tell him to stop being a mummys boy, and grow a pair"

Now that's from a males point of view so it's not just us ladies thinking she is being a complete cow! If he does go on this holiday, I would think seriously about your relationship with him and her as by the looks of it, if you ever get married you will be marrying him AND her!

tandraig

why would you want to go on holiday with this woman anyway?
and your OH is happy to go without you? oh dear! separate holidays already? and him with his mum???
hmmmmmmm, hun I think you should take your holiday at the same time - and think hard about how you either deal with MIL or OH or both.
if it was me - i would be asking if he would prefer to live with mummy - as he seems to prefer her company and she certainly is higher in his priorities than you are.

Lotus-eater

hpa423 wrote: »

Not wishing to be slated but in general men aren't great with feelings and stuff are they :rotfl:

Well prepare to be slated babes.
Men are excellent with feelings, (and stuff) it's just tidying up they have difficulty with