Am I being paranoid?

BigBlackcat

Yeah, it's hard when you're dealing with a sneaky, manipulative person especially if your OH doesn't see it. Have you talked to him at all about his Mothers behaviour towards you?

BigBlackcat

I do agree with Person_one that you have given her way too much control over your life. But enforcing boundaries is not going to be easy if your OH isn't on your side. You really need to present a united front.

Gemsgalore

The lengths some women will go to hang on to their precious sons is ridiculous.
I promise all women out there that I will never belittle, patronise you or make you feel that you aren't good enough for my son!!!!

I too would feel quite hurt if my OH went away with his Mother without me. I know you go away with your mum, but I question why any guy would want to go on holiday with his mum.....his mates, yes, but his mum??.....just smacks of mummys boy to me.

I think he needs to cut those old apron strings and put you first!!

LabLover

I have mentioned to OH before but hes always manages to convince me I had picked his mum up wrong or that I was taking a joke the wrong way. We only gave her the tokens as we were two short ..... dog got a hold of the papers and she had the extra two. Thanks every body for your advice , I really was begining to think it was just me. I actualy wanted it to be me that was wrong because it is difficult to swallow that someone would be so nasty ....off for some lunch now
LL xx

P.S He will be going with his mum and dad , his sister and her child (she doesnt have a partner) but he is a mummys boy and Ive told him before that im his family now

Person_one

LabLover wrote: »

I have mentioned to OH before but hes always manages to convince me I had picked his mum up wrong or that I was taking a joke the wrong way. We only gave her the tokens as we were two short ..... dog got a hold of the papers and she had the extra two. Thanks every body for your advice , I really was begining to think it was just me. I actualy wanted it to be me that was wrong because it is difficult to swallow that someone would be so nasty ....off for some lunch now
LL xx

If it was for your holiday, she should have given the last two to you, not the other way around.

Maybe you need to keep a diary of what your MIL does and how it makes you feel, or write a letter. Be very objective and avoid phrases like "your mother is" and stick to "when my mil does this it makes me feel"

If your OH sees how confused, small and upset the situation makes you, hopefully his protectiveness and care for you will kick in and you discuss solutions rationally and as a team.

Good luck.

tabskitten

I am glad i have decided not to have children it seems you turn into a monster!!
all the MIL's i know are mental!!

emsywoo123

Not sure if I missed it somewhere, but have you been married long?

mumslave

delain wrote: »

I have to say I agree with you. My ex-MIL made my life a misery and always claimed to be 'doing me a favour' and all I ever wanted her to do was leave me alone!

Ex thought she could do no wrong, it did my head in.

I think the OP missed out on the sun holiday because MIL was meant to be sernding the tokens off? so the OP has been done out of TWO holidays.

Baby's name changed again mumslave? :rotfl::rotfl:And have you finished nesting yet?

Yes MIL's tend to think they still are the most important person when it comes to their sons, a wee bit different with daughters. Mine used to live with me and say if one night I decided I wanted a takeaway, she would walk through to the kitchen, come back and say, oh but we have this and this and this in, I can cook something. Or I would wash the floor and the next day she would be doing it all over again. Things like that which can be taken either ways, but I knew which way it was meant...two women, one man, doesnt work. As much as I hate the thought., I suspect I may turn out to be a bit of an evil mother in law myself :eek:

I have finished nesting. Now I am just in a baaaad mood. Everything that comes out of my mouth today is a sarcastic put down. I cant help it, it just trips off my tongue. I am putting myself and my laptop into isolation for the rest of the day, that way I might not end up murdered.

Oh and yes babys name has been changed again :rotfl:

mumslave

LabLover wrote: »

I am too nice ,thats my problem.But everytime I mention all the little digs she makes at me people make out like ive got a screw loose because they just cant see it. It hasnt been booked yet but I dont know exact details to try to compare. My OH did try to have a word with her last night and said that he really doesnt want to go if I cant. This is going to sound awful but I have this bad feeling that she will let us stew for a few days and then either book it for August and deliberatly talk about it infront of me every time we go to visit or she will change the date to one I can go on and play the super mum card. But make me feel like a spare part for the whole week and constantly talk about how much more money it cost her changing to another date.etc

Take the ball out of her court...go on your sun holiday like you had both planned. A holiday should be stress free, no matter how this works out, this greek holiday will be anything but, even if its just your OH whom does end up going.

If the holiday was good enough for you both, before this whole greece thing, why change your plans for her? Take the dogs, enjoy each others company, it will probably rain in greece anyways (MIL's attract bad weather):rotfl:

kindofagilr

I think thats disgraceful

I personally think she is lying, July and August are the most expensive months

I think its awful your partner is still going to go

I think its awful your partner hasnt said something to his mother along the lines of "you know she couldnt have August"

I am sorry she is being like this with you