Am I being paranoid?

shell_girl

Has it been booked?

If not I'd pop over to the travel and holidays board and see if you can challenge the peeps on there to 'beat my quote' but make it clear that you want a quote for a time that suits you not in August.

Then show your results to the Monster in Law

Also- tell your OH to man up.

hawkster

Sounds like my MIL, she has done this on purpose... i would be really hurt if my other half went on holiay without me

SugarSpun

I'd say she did it on purpose. If she's paying, though, can you and he not go away together anyway?

LabLover

Badpenny - yeah she ruined our chances of a caravan holiday , and the only way I can get another holiday is if I dip into mortgage funds and go with my sister who is a teacher and can only go in school holidays which means its very expensive.

red_devil

LabLover wrote: »

I did try to say as much last night , I said that I was really hurt and because he really doesnt see what I see he told me that his mum would never do anything like that on purpose. So i was left feeling the bad one for even suggesting that she would do something so nasty.I do want him to go because me , my mum and my sister go on holiday together every 3 years for a girly break -we started doing it after my brother died and we go exploring places we know he would have loved .and I feel bad when I go and he doesnt ,so I respect that he has a right to go on holiday but the difference is the break I take with my mum and sis is for a reason and its not a family holiday as such this holiday with MIL was supposed to be a family holiday

its not the point whether she would do it on purpose or not. Your his wife your not happy and his loyalty is to you!

I wouldnt want to go away without my partner personally! You should at least get a holiday together if this one does go ahead.

supermezzo

That is so unreasonable of her. You're not being paranoid and your OH needs to support you in this and stand up to her about it. And tbh, you need to stop being so nice about it and stand up for yourself as well.

moneysaver12

I too think that she has done it on purpose. Like other peeps have said August is an expensive time of year for holidays. Also i can't believe that your partner is not been more supportive of you.

kazwookie

OP you need to tell them how you feel, being grown up about it is one thing, but you still have a right to feelings etc..

IMO MIL has done this on purpose! If I had a MIL who had done this I would be right round to tell her what I thought, but then again she would not speak to me for some time! to me that would be the best bonus I could get!!

The cheapest time as others have point out is NOT August!

mumslave

so no school kids coming then? In other words you have bent over backward to try to get something suitable around your work, done exactly as she has asked and she has...crapped on you. To put it politely. Your OH should be furious with her. Personally if I was him I would stuff the greek holiday and go on the £9.50 sun holiday, I would be telling her that a cheap holiday with the woman I loved was worth far more than an expensive get away in the sun with her....

but thats just me.

Pee

Hmm.. my first thought was if you are asking if you are being paranoid, then I bet you are, and as i started reading, I thought a little more generousity towards in laws can help a lot... and then I was pretty flabbergasted, because if she isn't doing it on purpose, it pretty much looks like she is and I'm really struggling to think of any reason why she might have done this - other than to get her son on her own.

That said, I don't see any problem with her son going on holiday with her. As you say, you go away with your family.

It is very bad that you miss out on the Sun holiday, but at least you will know better than to let her book it next time.

Wanting to spend time with her son without you may not be a reflection on you, but rather a hankering back to when he was younger and she was the most important woman in his life.

Book yourselves a nice cheap getaway.