Husband not invited to wedding, help!

snapping_crocodile

kittiej wrote: »

Weddings should be a celebration of the couple getting married , so why would they then ask for other couples to split?

Indeed you have hit the nail on the head it is a celebration of the couple getting married, who are inviting their nearest and dearest to share it with them......not strangers. The day is all about the bride and groom. They are not asking couples to split, they are just inviting their friends :cool:

mrcow

kittiej wrote: »

Weddings should be a celebration of the couple getting married , so why would they then ask for other couples to split?

Isn't that a bit melodramatic?

Spending a few hours on a Saturday with your work friends away from your husband/wife hardly constitutes a "split". To view it as such is extreme in the least.

Toothfairy4

tabsmagic wrote: »

good grief!! how does going to a friends wedding alone make you a bad wife!!!

are you really that chained to the sink!?

:rotfl::rotfl:

It wouldn't really bother me to be honest I would probably actually feel quite bad if someone who I was friends with but didnt really know OH paid £70 for him to attend. I think talk of having to 'leave OH's at home' is a bit dramatic, i'm sure he knows where the kettle is, he wont starve!

kittiej

Exactly manda, but we seem to live in a world of I want to be married but ......

No mrcow, it's a fact, if you are reading drama into the words on your screen then I can't help that. I don't know how else I can say the word split?

jenni, I don't know some of the people I've invited to my wedding, indeed never even met some of them, but as husband's of the friends I am inviting then I have no issues with paying for my guests. I wouldn't dream of saying sorry love it's just you on the invite, ditch the old man for the night.

frannyann

kittiej wrote: »

I will spend my life with my OH, I could well leave my job and any work colleagues tomorrow. There's no contest. It makes me wonder if everyone else are not as committed to their OH's as they think. .

Now, I had no issue with any your points of view until you said the above. How on earth does attending a friends wedding make anyone less commited to their partner?? I am so surprised by this statement I have actually asked my OH sitting here this 'If I went to X's wedding and you were not invited, how commited do you think that makes me to you?' He has just replied, 'It makes no difference what so ever to our commitment, its about how much they could afford, simple'

frannyann

Toothfairy4 wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:

It wouldn't really bother me to be honest I would probably actually feel quite bad if someone who I was friends with but didnt really know OH paid £70 for him to attend. I think talk of having to 'leave OH's at home' is a bit dramatic, i'm sure he knows where the kettle is, he wont starve!

Plus he can baby sit the kids, and I can have a 'proper' night off

Toothfairy4

frannyann wrote: »

Now, I had no issue with any your points of view until you said the above. How on earth does attending a friends wedding make anyone less commited to their partner?? I am so surprised by this statement I have actually asked my OH sitting here this 'If I went to X's wedding and you were not invited, how commited do you think that makes me to you?' He has just replied, 'It makes no difference what so ever to our commitment, its about how much they could afford, simple'

Agreed Franny, this is ridiculous! Don't you EVER go out for the night with your friends and have some time away from OH??

floss2

kittiej wrote: »

Exactly manda, but we seem to live in a world of I want to be married but ......

Some poeple do indeed seem to live in that world - I however am paying out my hard earned wages on my wedding when I have just had a salary cut of 40% of my (not huge) wedding budget, 10.5% of my salary. I am not prepared to, and in fact cannot now afford to pay for those hangers-on whose partner insists I invite them because they don't go anywhere without their other half.

I want my close family & friends to share my day - not a colleague's husband who wouldn't know me if he fell over me in the street!

mrcow

kittiej wrote: »

Exactly manda, but we seem to live in a world of I want to be married but ......

No mrcow, it's a fact, if you are reading drama into the words on your screen then I can't help that. I don't know how else I can say the word split?

You are making it sound over-melodramatic. And completely needlessly so.

No one is being asked to "split" - that makes it sound like some sort of break up.

All it is is that someone has been invited to a formal celebration and sit down meal and partners (that are unknown to the host) aren't invited, for whatever reason. As you say, everyone is different.

floss2

kittiej wrote: »

....I will spend my life with my OH..... It makes me wonder if everyone else are not as committed to their OH's as they think. It would be disrespectful for me to go off to a wedding when my OH had not been invited too....

Sorry if this offends anyone, but to hear you talk of being disrespectful suggests you are of a strong faith and possibly of a culture where that would not be acceptable?