Husband not invited to wedding, help!

missjennipenni

I think I missed the bit in Ettiquite books where it says guests must be invited as couples

chelbel1981

kittiej wrote: »

Is it a cost or a capacity issue?

If it were cost then I would offer to pay for OH, otherwise I would have to decline the invitation.

I just think it's bad manners to invite one half of a couple to such an event. A works do without partners would be one thing but not a wedding.

I am not as young and as modern as a lot of you here though unfortunately lol.

As a bride I would be highly offended if anyone offered me money so that their OH could come

mrcow wrote: »

Try £50-£70 per head for many venues!

And the rest when you include toast, wine and buffet

missjennipenni wrote: »

I think I missed the bit in Ettiquite books where it says guests must be invited as couples

:rotfl:

chelbel1981

So lets start another debate!!!

So those who think OH's should be invited then what about children, I mean if OH's are invited would you also EXPECT that your children would be invited also to the daytime???

snapping_crocodile

chelbel1981 wrote: »

So lets start another debate!!!

So those who think OH's should be invited then what about children, I mean if OH's are invited would you also EXPECT that your children would be invited also to the daytime???

I have a feeling this could go on and on and on....:rotfl:

frannyann

I have invited a work mate, after orginally counting her out as I couldn't stretch to inviting her partner. As its £70 per head, we had to settle a budget and stick to it, however was a bit gutted I couldn't invite her. Anyway on speaking to a mutual friend and explaining it, she suggested I speak to her, which I did. She was soo surprised that I felt I couldn't just invite her on her own, and is happy (in her own words) 'bril, I'll dump M at the hotel and he can catch me up at the evening do'
As to children, I have invited friends with children and having children myself realised than some may have had to decline to come if the children were not invited as not everyone has easy access to child-minding friends and family.

floss2

kittiej wrote: »

...If it were cost then I would offer to pay for OH, otherwise I would have to decline the invitation...

And add anything between £15-£75 to your costs to attend? Would you really do that?

manda1205 wrote: »

Im quite shocked TBH, if I was invited to a wedding with out my "soon to be husband" I wouldnt go just out of principle. If I didnt have enough money to not envite peoples partners then I wouldnt invite them at all, or Id rethink my budget/venue so that I could invite everyone Id wanted to with their partners.
Sorry, thats just the way I see it.

I have been invited to a wedding without my partner in the past, as has he. We didn't take offence.

When we marry later this year, our budget is tight because we are paying for this ourselves and we don't see the point in spending £1,000's on one day, when we could do so much more with the money - therefore our budget cannot be rethought and our guest list is trimmed according to the numbers we can afford to include, which includes my closest work colleague without her husband whom I have never met.

kittiej

And as a bride Chel I wouldn't dream of inviting one half of a couple. Then again I'm not going overboard to have an unnecessarily big wedding.

Children are also invited to my wedding so as not to split a family unit, but that is off topic as you said when you brought it up.

Franny, at least the OH was able to attend the evening do unlike the OP's DH.

Floss and everyone else, offering to pay for her DH was a suggestion since I supposed the b2b was overstretched. And yes I would pay whatever if it meant my partner could attend. There would be no dilema for me. I wouldn't go.

I will spend my life with my OH, I could well leave my job and any work colleagues tomorrow. There's no contest. It makes me wonder if everyone else are not as committed to their OH's as they think. It would be disrespectful for me to go off to a wedding when my OH had not been invited too. Now if he decided he didn't want to go then that would be his choice, but to be excluded because there's no room is a bit much. If that isn't bad enough, to rub the salt in further by staying overnight to have a girls night out is awful.

missjennipenni

Is there any other time you would happily spend £70 to wine & dine a virtual starnger? Or even £100s on a whole bunch of strangers!

floss2

kittiej wrote: »

....Weddings should be a celebration of the couple getting married , so why would they then ask for other couples to split?

Weddings should be about enjoying the occasion with those people who are close to you & whose company you enjoy - so why invite a complete stranger?

chelbel1981 wrote: »

...So those who think OH's should be invited then what about children, I mean if OH's are invited would you also EXPECT that your children would be invited also to the daytime???

Same goes for other people's kids....

The only children attending my wedding are my own sons (both over 21), my DF's 2 nieces (both over 19) and my 2 nieces & 2 nephews (aged 19, 15, 12 & 18m) because they are family. Anyone else who has been invited who has children has already been advised that it is family children only, both day & night. Nobody has yet taken offence, and indeed I have been to several weddings recently where this has been the norm and the parents have enjoyed the opportunity to attend a social event without their ankle-biters.

tabskitten

good grief!! how does going to a friends wedding alone make you a bad wife!!!

are you really that chained to the sink!?