Husband not invited to wedding, help!

dizziblonde

I'd probably not want to go to an invite oh wasn't invited to - I loathe "girlie" days out, have never needed a massive social circle of friends (I've got a few I'm close to and that's it) and hate events anyway when I'm sat having to make small talk with people. Wouldn't get into a tizz about it, just probably wouldn't go along.

What I do find sickening is that some of the same people have come on screaming hysterically that oh's shouldn't be invited, who've flamed others to a crisp for not inviting children to weddings... gotta love the double standards on here sometimes.

superfran_uk

Thing is though it's a bit of a moot point - if you don't have any friends, or all your friends are mutual friends, you are unlikely to end up in this type of situation.

Either way is fine for me - i've been to weddings on my own, my other half has been to weddings on his own and we've been to some together, some we've met up just for the evening do... At the end of the day, if it's not your wedding it's not your choice.

snapping_crocodile

superfran_uk wrote: »

At the end of the day, if it's not your wedding it's not your choice.

Spot on

jillymit

laura2481 wrote: »

I also have a dilemma about inviting partners.

I am inviting work colleagues to the evening, including their partners as I have met them all on several occasions and for works do's etc except for one girls current OH who I seriously dislike. At the last do I attended where he also went he was rude and obnoxious to both myself and another colleague and was rude,aggressive and made racist comments towards the waiting staff where we were having a meal. This is a gentleman I seriously do not want anywhere near my wedding. Especially as my family won't take any nonsense like that and it could turn bad... but I do want my colleague to come as we get on really well and I like her. But I'm not looking forward to the 'Why isn't XX invited?' question. Hopefully, they will not be together by the time the wedding comes around (because he also treats her badly too and cheats on her) It's a tough one

Oh, that's a tricky one especially after reading all the opinions on here.
Just put her name on the invite and when she asks just say you couldn't manage it and had to have a cut off point somewhere :rotfl:
Fingers crossed she doesn't just assume and bring him anyway, as others have experienced.
I would hasten to add that my DH is always v. well behaved and no I don't think this is the reason he didn't get an invite! (post 1)

laura2481

jillymit wrote: »

Oh, that's a tricky one especially after reading all the opinions on here.
Just put her name on the invite and when she asks just say you couldn't manage it and had to have a cut off point somewhere :rotfl:
Fingers crossed she doesn't just assume and bring him anyway, as others have experienced.
I would hasten to add that my DH is always v. well behaved and no I don't think this is the reason he didn't get an invite! (post 1)

Oh, of course that isn't why your OH isn't invited. Just my reason for not inviting this particular person. Hopefully, the situation will resolve itself before I have to send out invites. Reall, he is genuinely an idiot. I'm not just being mean..

val_84

I had a similiar problem with a girl I work with, I put her name on the invite only as her partner beats her and the children and I didnt want him there. I then received an RSVP back from a mutual friend to say her and her partner were coming. I was so annoyed as he wasnt invited and she didnt bother to say anything to me. I then felt I couldnt say anything to her without seeming like a Bridezilla.

I also disagree with the comments about people being flamed for their opinions. That is not how I have read it at all but I have felt very offended about some of the comments regards to commitment. I appreciate people have their own opinions but I think the difficulty is how things can come across through message boards. I dont think anyone has meant anything personally but I do think people need to be more aware of how things can be misconstrued (no idea on spelling) when things are typed rather than spoken.

Im glad things with the OP have been sorted and Im sure you will have a lovely time as you would have done if your husband had been invited.

Val
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