MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Spencer trade in the engagement ring?

jamespir

i dont think he should lie he should buy the cheaper on and save the other 3000 pounds to take her on a nice romantic weekend to paris and propose

Jonsdad_2

I think Spencer should think twice before spending more than a few hundred on the engagement ring. It is the thought that counts and if the engagement results in marriage and honeymoon, then that would be the time to use the money saved. The engagement ring will still be a lifelong token of love whatever the cost.

mippy

rosemary54 wrote: »

he should dump her,£4K on a ring is crazy anyway,does she love him or jewelry?:eek::eek::eek: lying is not a good start to marriage anyway,they should both grow up and think of sensible uses for money

The definition of 'sensible uses for money' differs from person to person. I could have bought a £20 pair of glasses, but chose a pair costing £200 - because I could afford it and I liked them the best in the shop. Anything is a waste of money if you don't need it.

i don't care what a ring costs as long as I like it and it isn't made from conflict diamonds.

dimbo61

As others have mentioned you should spend one months earning on an engagement ring so if he earns £84K net a year then he can treat his soon to be wife to a £7K designer ring.
At the same time putting a £7K ring on your finger might mean some expensive contents insurance but its your choice.
Honest when getting married is a good idea

anjak-j

I wouldn't lie - I'd say that I'd seen an identical ring cheaper and that I'd prefer to have the extra money going into the union. If she was really insistent on a £7k ring, I'd be reconsidering my relationship.

As a woman, I'd never expect my significant other to spend that much money on a ring. It's extravagant and I'd be afraid to wear it for fear of it being stolen, leading to me asking for a cheaper ring for daily wear. (Not to mention any rock that cost £7k would be highly impractical for me as a wheelchair user.)

Ultimately, any relationship that starts off with a lie isn't really worth a d-mn.


Edited to add:

mippy wrote:

i don't care what a ring costs as long as I like it and it isn't made from conflict diamonds.

Agreed on the conflict diamonds. I wouldn't want my commitment to start with what amounts to blood on my hand.

NancyH

I agree with the people who say don't lie. Several reasons though, apart from the fundamental issue of deceit.

Firstly, most 'named' pieces of jewellery come with a Certificate of Authenticity, which he won't have; secondly, what's he going to tell his insurers when he tries to get cover for it - or will he lie to them too?

Finally, if he can afford it (and he's certain that they will stay together!) the ring will be an investment - when my dad died I bought myself a named piece of jewellery as a memento of him, it's now worth over twice what I paid for it. I don't plan on getting rid of it just yet, but I will, when the time's right financially and emotionally for me.

Have to say that I'd find it really difficult to go out wearing a ring that cost that much - I'd be terrified of getting mugged.

loopychriss

I agree with the fact that he shouldn't lie about it. If she loves him she should be happy with a curtain ring - nobody needs a £7000 ring, or even a £1000 ring. If she's so materialistic that names matter that much, she needs to be educated into living in the real world. The money could be far better spent on the wedding. After all, once she's got it on her finger, who - apart from her and Spencer - is going to know how much it cost, or what 'name' it is?

greighughes22

talk it through with her, i'm sure if she was a sane person she wouldn't want the more expensive ring and see the benefit of having the extra money together....

if she wants the other one..... get out!

ranger10

I certainly wouldnt want that much spent on a ring for me. I chose a £600 one which I thought was too much to pay as well, but it was a in the shape of a crown made in memory of princess diana, and a replica of her one. He paid for it in instalments as it was from a magazine. I would much rather have the money spent on getting a home together. But if you have that sort of money spare it is up to you, but definately do not deceive anyone. That would be a huge mistake.

snugglepet20

No lying, you can tell a top quality diamond from 20 paces.
A lot of people are assuming his girlfriend is some vacuous, label obsessed fashionista when she may just have said she wanted that brand because she had seen a nice ring in the window and may never have imagined he would actually consider buying it. This could be hard to discuss though without completely sucking the romance out of the proposal, perhaps discuss a 'friends' dilemma with his fiancee to gauge her response?