MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Spencer trade in the engagement ring?

stressymum_2

Don't do it Spencer! If you are confident of your relationship with Heidi, you should not be afraid to be who you are. If I was Heidi and I am serious about you, I would not be offended by your practical and sensible action and in fact, would find it admirable but I would most certainly be incensed if you lied to me; that really is no way to begin a life-long relationship where you would need to share and weather storms worse than not having the "T-any" ring!

Taffybiker

Spencer should give her the posh box with an IOU in it, then the ring separately. What happens next would very much depend on her reaction.

pineapple

If he is seriously tempted to do this, he should think about

• what this says about him
• what this says about her
• what this says about their relationship

It's just a silly and pointless falsehood on which to start out life together. And if he has any conscience, he will always feel guilty about it and will be forever waiting to be found out.

tallgirld

OH PLEASE!! If she wants a carty arty ring or whatever it's called she should buy it herself.

I would rather have the 3 grand CASH in a card and a ring for a grand ;-)

Cloudane

£4-7K, WHAT? Get a packet of Hula Hoops and stuff one of those on.

He definitely shouldn't start the marriage on a lie, if people do this then no wonder there are so many divorces. But unless he's rich, he shouldn't be spending that much on a ring anyway. Communicate with her, I'm sure you don't "need" to have the ring ready when you propose, if it's romantic enough i.e. her favourite place at sunset or something? (Not that I'd know, the ladies don't really react to me in that way). So do that first and then negotiate.

Does she want kids? Should the kids grow up with skint parents because he spent ridiculous amounts of money on a bit of bling and probably now has a huge credit card bill?

Also, obviously, think twice if she's seriously that materialistic. Find out first though, whether she's just dreaming (I mean I'd "love" a Pagani Zonda but it doesn't mean I expect to ever have one) or if she seriously expects a £7k ring...

Sheepster

£7000 on a ring?

Blimey, does she think she's one of the Beckhams

mdr86

No way! Though, I don't think he should yet either.

Irv_the_Swerve

Whats he going to do about the insurance? Nobody walks around with several thousand pounds worth of diamonds on their finger without being covered.If he puts down that its a genuine Cart*** ring with a false value he'll invalidate the policy and anyway he would have to produce a relevant receipt for any claim.
Whats the point anyway-forget about the fake box.A £4000 ring will be beautiful and she'll love it!

Nicki123

What a terrible way to start a marriage! He should talk to Heidi and possibly suggest a compromise; the more reasonable engagement ring (sounds better than 'cheaper') and then maybe a nice piece from the expensive shop, like a pair of earrings to match but smaller and costing much less than the ring. Or, put the money toward something they both feel strongly about.

HeadAboveWater

£7000 on a ring?!?! If she thinks more of a ring than her forthcoming marriage, she needs to seriously rethink her priorities. He'd be an idiot for spending that amount of money on a ring anyway. But he should upfront about it.