MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Spencer trade in the engagement ring?

becky_rtw

God there are a lot of cheapskates on here! £100 for something you are going to wear your whole life! :eek:

I personally dont want a 7k ring, but I do have the 'one' dream ring - most women do (about 1.2k since you're no doubt wondering).

Now if someone proposed to me without the dream ring and I loved them and wanted to marry then I would still say yes...but that doesnt mean a girl cant dream about a particular ring - its not about the cost its about the sacrifice to save up for it!

She is not shallow if she has a dream 7k ring - it doesnt say she is demanding it...

He should buy whichever he thinks is best in terms of what he can afford and what she will like, but he shouldnt pretend the ring is something its not - trust me if its her dream ring she will know!

hob

right one thing im confused about has he all ready asked her? the thing is if i was asked right now what my ideal wedding ect would be. i might say a one of a kind ring married in york minster honeymoon on a round the world trip. but if the man of my dreams asked me. id say yes even if i got a ring from new look married in a reg office and honey mooned in my flat. ppl sahoul lay off his gf its not like it says she has said yes and then demaned the posh ring. spencer dont lie if she loves u she will be happy with anything. if u have that kinda money good for you, spend what ever makes you happy spencer.


mind u i should say if hes got like millions or what ever get her her dream ring. u have millions spencer dont be so tight lol

mrstrw

When I got engaged my husband had a budget in mind for the ring. I looked in a couple of Bond Street stores and realised we could get much better value elsewhere. I now have a ring which is far nicer than I ever expected and even though it has been on my finger for 3 years I still smile when I stare at it. Give her the choice and she'll always be happy- when she finally makes a decision.

Xdash

Gold-digger label obsessive vs starting out on lie, tough choice but i think the lie would win out, as how much is wedding going to cost, if the ring is that expensive will the guy's wedding ring be from the label place and as expensive with the lady paying, doubt it... so runner time

palflat

Hang on, did the dilemma call her a gold-digger? I would buy the cheaper, or an even cheaper ring, and use the money saved to take her to an exotic location for a romatic honeymoon, and with the change I'd buy two season tickets for the Blades!!

CutTheJargon

MrParr wrote: »

Personally, this is an interesting dilemma as although my OH is not materialistic enough to want a £7k ring, or even a £4k ring, I find it interesting that some people think that £4k is a lot to spend on a ring.

As I am thinking of buying one shortly, I was just interested in finding out how much is acceptable (and not an insane) amount to spend on an engagement ring?

I seem to remember jewellers trying to sell the idea of paying the equivalent of one months salary (or was it more!) on an engagement ring - net salary I am assuming! However, that would be way too much for many.

I think it will depend greatly on your personal circumstances and what current and future financial commitments you are likely to have. I know people with engagement rings valued at between £10 & £10,000. All of them are happy with their choice, as you should be if you love the person. The only couple who did not last the honeymoon was the one where the bride wanted a very expensive ring from a Cart-any type jewellers. We all knew she was a selfish little madam as we had witnessed her demands on several occasions, but the besotted groom had to learn the hard way!

However, if you are feeling flush, a nice ring is something that will be worn forever, so don't feel guilty splashing out. For many woment, it is the most expensive piece of jewellery they will ever own. I would talk it over with your future Fiancee so that when you go to choose it there are no awkward moments and it will be the start of your financial openess which is always good in a marriage.

CutTheJargon

mrstrw wrote: »

When I got engaged my husband had a budget in mind for the ring. I looked in a couple of Bond Street stores and realised we could get much better value elsewhere. I now have a ring which is far nicer than I ever expected and even though it has been on my finger for 3 years I still smile when I stare at it. Give her the choice and she'll always be happy- when she finally makes a decision.

Like you, I went for value and I had the ring my future husband saw in a quality second hand jewellers. It was so much nicer than the rings in the normal shops and for very little more. In fact a lady in a shop commented on it only today and I told my husband and he said it was a pity it was second hand! I said it was no different to buying a piece of jewellery at an auction. I love it and I must love him as I have had it for 25 years now

lyon1980

MrParr wrote: »

Personally, this is an interesting dilemma as although my OH is not materialistic enough to want a £7k ring, or even a £4k ring, I find it interesting that some people think that £4k is a lot to spend on a ring.

As I am thinking of buying one shortly, I was just interested in finding out how much is acceptable (and not an insane) amount to spend on an engagement ring?

I got engaged at Xmas in new york and was destined to get a ring from Tiffanys, however after looking at them I couldnt justify the price for the name. When we got back home we discussed what was 'reasonable' for a ring. I assumed I would say the higher amount, but my partner said he would be happy to go up to £4000, but I honestly though that was an obscene amount and we found a ring at £4000 and one at £3000 - the second was by far the best and I got it! Talk to jewelers and get an idea of the 4 c's (carot, clarity, colour and cut - i think?) and you'll be amazed at what you get for your buck!good luck.

CutTheJargon

nicola1986 wrote: »

I would suggest go for a seriously cheaper ring, something that is beautiful but practically priced and then use the money to have a brilliant wedding (and even better honeymoon!!)

A wedding only lasts for one day - a ring should last forever. Think I'd rather have the ring than feed & water a load of people I perhaps won't see until the next wedding/funeral/christening. Or am I just being cynical

dragonfly1_2

She will be over the moon with the ring she has always wanted..............they will have money in the bank for their new married life...............this one was an easy one!!!