Do you call mil mum or by her name?

gingin_2

This is an interesting one, I never thought about it really, just started calling them by their first names although I always get cards with "daughter" on the front, maybe I should rethink....

The Grandparents-in-law thing is interesting though, as I also called them "Grandma" as soon as we were married. Maybe they initiated it in cards, I can't remember but it always made me feel very warm inside, that they would consider me "worthy" enough to call them Grandma. I also think it's a respect thing for that generation as I think I would have felt uncomfortable calling them by their first names.

amandada

I'm another one who doesn't actually call her anything, but if I did it would be her first name.
If I'm speaking to dh about her it's she's generally referred to as "your effing mother"!

Fitzio

I call my MIL by her first name. DH calls my mum by her first name.

My Gran was called mum by all of her children in law, except for my dad, who called her Gran! I asked him what he called her before we were born as she would not have been a Gran, and he said he didn't call her anything, just avoided it as others have said. His mum died when he was 2 so I think it was weird for him to call anyone mum as he didn't really have one.

We still send cards to MIL addressed to "Mum" from both of us though, and she sends us a joing Xmas card from "Mum", but my birthday card would just be from "Name" as it's just for me.

sloppychops

I call my MIL by her first name but hubbys Grandmother and Grandfather (they brought him up and he called them Mam and Dad) i call Mam and Dad also.

kezlou

I just call my MIL and FIL by they name, OH does the same with mine.
The kids call MIL by name name as well as she hates being called "nana" or "granny".
To OH face its a different matter.

mouche

In my culture, it's seen as desperately rude if you call anyone older than you by their first name - parents friends, friends parents, random people you need to talk to and are obviously older than you - all are called Uncle and Auntie. Even slightly older people are called 'big brother' or 'big sister' (they are single words in our language) - including of course your real big brother or sister.

And as far as in laws are concerned, it's probably be grounds for divorce if you called them by their first names! Fortunately, OH calls his dad Papa so I do the same. It's not what I call my dad so no problems there. MIL is Maa as is my mum. I don't especially like it but have got used to it now. And of course OH does the same for my mum and dad.

Having been brought up this way I would find it quite strange if the OHs of any potential children were to call me by my first name. It would seem disrespectful - and in my culture, being respectful to your elders is very important. Oh well - when in Rome do as the Romans.

Any

Ada_Doom wrote: »

I'm 34 and call my mother "mammy" most of the time. But MIL is very much called by her name (she is english so is "Mum" to my other half)

My kids are both born and bred in england so call me mum, which I have to say used to make me a little sad as i always wanted to be a "mammy" too!

Surely they will call you what you teach them to call you?? My nieces call my sister "mummy" even though she is born and bred in UK

pusscat

First names here!

Puss
xx

brians_daughter

House phone its 'dragon'

To her son its 'your mother'

To her face by her real name..lol

wannaberich1

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I call her the leader of the outlaws.

That's what I call mine too!!!!