Do you call mil mum or by her name?

Any

I call my MIL "mum" when I talk about her and sometimes when I ask her something. Sometimes I call her by her name.

It is sign of "acceptance" in my culture. If you call your MIL by her name or god forbid by her surname they will think you don't like them and you do not accept them as a part of family.

My MIL and FIL thought it was funny (I take it it is unusual in UK), but they let me use it. Both my PIL are great.

Any

foxy-roxy wrote: »

I would never call mine mum, i would feel like i was disrespecting my own mother.
She would tell me not to anyway if even i did.

If you had mother like I do... you would (disrespect her I mean)

newcook

I dont have an OH to have any inlaws but I always seem to remember my mom calling her FIL 'dad' (my parents divorced about 25 years ago) and I think its only been in the last 5 or 6 years that she calls him by his proper name if she has seen him while out shopping.

Zziggi

I've been with my DH for 18 years. More than half my life. I see my MIL once a fortnight but more usually about once a week. In all these 18 years I have avoided calling her anything. I don't know what to call her - her first name? mum? How bad is this....

ginvzt

Zziggi wrote: »

I've been with my DH for 18 years. More than half my life. I see my MIL once a fortnight but more usually about once a week. In all these 18 years I have avoided calling her anything. I don't know what to call her - her first name? mum? How bad is this....

Ok, we haven't been together that long. I don't see my MIL that often (more likely few times a year, as she lives in different country), but I haven't called her anything either... Needless to say, I don't like her much and avoid contact if possible.

If I mention her in talking with others, it is OH's mum, not her name or mother in law.

Lotus-eater

I call her the leader of the outlaws.

Pee

My ex - MIL I called by the grandchildren's nickname for her, which almost everyone in the family used and that is what she put in my cards etc.

My current MIL I haven't met yet and that'll be weird as I'd expect to start with Mrs X, rather than her christian name.

ncsmummy

My MIL is great but I dont call her Mum. I call her by her name. She also doesnt put Mum in her cards to DH - always her name but he still calls her Mum.

jellymid

Caller Display says "Danger! Dragon".

I use her name, generally through gritted teeth!

GSXRCarlos

Mrs (insert surname), more friendly, by their first name

My ex's parents were so relaxed and easy to be around that i used to call them mum and dad (actually call most 'parents' mum or dad, with a bit of a smile on my face, normally works if you're being cheecky and need a favour)