Do you call mil mum or by her name?

Spendless

I was with my 1st boyfriend for 4 1/2 years without ever knowing what to call his parents. After that I decided I was just going to call subsequent ones by their 1st names and see if the issue ever came up. It never did so I call my IL's by their 1st names and hubby calls my parents by their first names too. I wouldn't have called anyone other than my own parents mum and dad though.

westcountrymaid_2

Been married nearly 32 years and for many of them struggled with what to call my MIL. She's a lovely lady but not comfortable calling her 'Mum' when I've got a great mum already. Nowadays I call her by her first name but for years I didn't call her anything unless it was in a card, then I usually wrote the card from me and DH anyway so put 'mum'. The silly thing is if I ever told her she would have a good laugh about it. She does sign her cards to me 'Mum' which I think is quite nice.

Will be interesting to see what my DS and DD's OH's call me, I really don't care as long as they like me.

xmaslolly76

In general day to day i use her first name but on cards as they are from both of us we use mom and she always signs cards love from mom :-)

skintchick

By her name. She isn't my mum so it would be weird to call her that IMO.

patchwork_cat

Call MIL by name, but used to call DH's grandmother and grandfather the same that he did and he called my grandparents Grandma and Grandpa, my grandparents referred to my DH as their grandson,I felt that was lovely that he had been fully accepted . He used to be chief lightbulb changer every time we visited Grandma would find a 'tall' job for him! Despite the fact he was the same height as my step father!!

morocha

interesting !!! I met my Oh's mum and dad when i was 20. i started calling them by their nicknames straight away ( i am cheeky and had them in my pocket since day one).
They do write cards to us addressing mum and dad, and many times when things been wrong between Oh and me, they both gave me their supports, and they both said they loved me like their own daughter.( they do not have daughters only 2 sons).
I love both of them a lot. my FIL when refers to my Mil , talks to me about MUM.
I think i would feel weird calling them mum and dad but because i get a bit shy, otherwise i think i would, anyway we all know that we love each other a lot.

katieclampet

I call mil & fil by their names, but I have a friend who never quite knew how to address her in laws. She never used to actually call them anything when in there company, and found it really awkard. However when her kids were born, she solved the problem by refering to them as Nana & grandad.

katiex

NBirdy

I only have a MIL and call her by her full first name. A lot of people call her by her shortened first name but somehow I've never been comfortable with that. I have a lovely mum and wouldn't dream of calling anybody else 'mum', even though my MIL is great and I'm very flattered when she introduces me to people as her daughter (she has two of her own too).

Mrs_Ryan

I have 2 MIL's - a MIL and a step-MIL. I also have 2 FIL's - a FIL and a step-FIL. I call them all by their first names which is fine by them - OH calls my Mum and Dad by their first names as well - but OH calls his stepmum by her first name, he doesnt refer to her as Mum.

DianneB

Oh dear I am a dreaded MIL, I always get called Dianne, it's my name!! after all I call them by their first names!!

I called my MIL mum as it was expected then it would have seem rude not to.